Time is flying...what should I do about my brother's death and rumors that it wasn't an innocent accident? I don't want to open up an old can of worms if it isn't true...
2006-11-27 07:51:33 · 20 answers · asked by angelic1302 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
ok details, he died in a car accident...his so called friend was behind him but he didn't stop at the scene to see if he was ok. The main guy is a drug dealer with like 4 cars (and an uncle who fixes/paints cars) and he left the scene, changed cars, went to meet the other people b4 calling 911...Rumor is that he was the one who hit him and ran him off the road...
2006-11-27 08:09:03 · update #1
Hi. This was listed in the "religion and spirituality" section so I will assume that you wanted it there.... Obviously you haven't told the whole story to us and there isn't much anyone can offer you given such scant information.
But, IMHI ( in my humble ignorance ) I would encourage you to get the counsel of a trusted friend, a pastor, a Christian you know. Pray about it. No need to open up old wounds needlessly but if the truth is buried maybe it needs to be brought out into the open...
who have you talked to? Who do you trust? Have you talked to the police? have you talked to your parents/ siblings? are you the only one that is concerned or is everybody concerned but nobody is doing anything?
finally, if all else fails and you really really feel that it still needs to get out in the open, talk to your local newspaper, to the reporter who originally covered the story, talk to the city editor...they sometimes will pursue things and get information that you can't get...
finally, again - commit it all to God. He knows the truth. He will punish the guilty eventually. He will not allow justice to be thwarted.
God bless you!!!
2006-11-27 08:02:09 · answer #1 · answered by happy pilgrim 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Contrary to popular opinon, banishing all memory of a person DOES NOT make you feel better about a loss. If you have lost someone precious to you, as you have your brother, don't try to forget him. Let this happen naturally and you will thank yourself because emotional damage will be minimal.
Don't fall under the assumption that dwelling on him will somehow disturb his "eternal rest". He is in a better place right now, trust me, and if you think about him he'll feel it but honestly I can't think of any reason why it would bother him; that doesn't make sense at all. Just above all remember that he loved you very much and although he doesn't want you to spend every waking moment of your life feeling awful about his death, he won't mind if you think about him occasionally either.
You are probably still reeling from the loss. Actually, there is no official mourning period after a person dies. Some people are able to get over it and back to their lives within a few months, and for others it takes many years. Whatever you are feeling right now is perfectly ok, because it is natural to be quick to blame someone else for the death of your brother.
If there is a considerable amount of evidence that suggests that something fishy was going on, then I would definitely look into it. But above all remember; even if someone did this on purpose, bringing them to justice won't bring him back from the dead. I would only press charges if I was absolutely sure that I could get somewhere with them. If not, let the dead lie in peace.
2006-11-27 08:05:00 · answer #2 · answered by Avalon A 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It does make a lot of sense that you wish to know how your brother died but the fact that it was an accident and that was has happened has happened should be respected and leave the investigations to the law efforcement agents. for if he is as powerful as you say he is then I bet he might come for you too.. The police that could not find out if it was just an accident of calculated attempt to quite your brother might not be able to take him off your heels..Girl let sleeping does lies..and informally get to seek more on the true cause of his death if you so wish..but after a year , girl common if the law couldn't catch up with him when he murdered you brother then they will definitely someday! my advice is relax and watch his moves then you can testify if he is found guilty of some other crime on someone else..
2006-11-27 09:00:00 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not clear what you're asking. What do you mean "what should I do?"? Are you having trouble with grief still? That's normal. There is no time limit on grieving. My spouse lost his brother 2 years ago to a sudden illness. He still grieves and the anniversary is the worst time.
As for the rumors, if that's all YOU think they are, then just forget what others say and deal with your grief in your own way. If you think it WAS foul play, go the police and ask to see the investigation reports (you MIGHT need a lawyer for this).
Anyway, if you loved him, you don't have to do anything, except honor his memory.
2006-11-27 08:01:24 · answer #4 · answered by SieglindeDieNibelunge 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Honey, it sounds like he was dealing with some dangerous people or at least getting way too close to them. I believe it would be in your best interest to keep alive the loving memories of your brother. Rejoice in the life he had to help you find peace with his absense. Have faith that you loved him and he loved you. Unless you have any good leads for the authorities, but don't go looking. You could end up in a lot of trouble, your brother wouldn't want that. Keep his memory alive. Keep him in your heart and prayers for the rest of your life and try to move on. A year is not very long to most people. The best way to fight evil is to live right, as much as you can, and not to let evil get its grasp on you. Shake it off and try to help others do the same. Good Luck, and God Bless You.
2006-11-27 08:17:38 · answer #5 · answered by Yomi 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hi and I am sorry to hear of your loss....I have recently my 10 month old daughter to SIDS so I whole-heartedly feel your pain. What kind of an "accident" occured? I do not want to re-open your wound, but I am sure there are ways of searching for answers without "opening an old can of worms". If you would like to speak wtih my privately, hoping we can find ways, let me know and I would be more than happy to help....although I have accepted my daughter's death as being just what it is...SIDS...I have always been suspicious and have tried to further the investigation, only if to calm my mind and give me some further closure and peace.
2006-11-27 07:56:29 · answer #6 · answered by domsgirlie 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't open the can! Let rumors be rumors- they have no effect on truth and reality... many years have passed and many more years, months, weeks, days, nights, hours, minutes, seconds have and will continue to pass. Do what you do- and do it as best as you possibly can.
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2006-11-27 07:58:46 · answer #7 · answered by ••Mott•• 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
There is no way I could ever relate to the pain you are going through. I could not even imagine what I would do in your situation. Perhaps I would leave judgement up to God if infact you are one with God. Or I would pray to God for Him to give me the wisdom of what to do. Should you persue? Should you not? Ask Him, He will help you in your time of need.God Bless.
2006-11-27 07:58:56 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
im sorry about your brother....but look what would your brother want you to do .....ask yourself if he was alive what would he do.... i highly doubt that your brother would want you to worry about him he's watching you and looking out for you venges or justice is never upheald here in the U.S the system is to busy to care....your the person whos keeping your brother alive hes alive inside of you your memorys of him is whats keeping him alive.......if you always remember its always there but if you forget its gone forever ....
sincerly... Hitch
2006-11-27 08:04:55 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah I agree with some of the other posts. Your question doesn't make sense for those who do not have insight to your situation. Could you elaborate?
2006-11-27 07:56:44 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋