A guy who was working in town lived with me for 1 year while he was in town. He was my boss. We both knew he would eventually have to go back home to another state up north, we didn't expect to fall in love..I live in Texas. . He left to go back home for good in May of 2005. I have seen him since then, but we are not TOGETHER. We both love each other deeply. He can't move here because he has a 5 year old son he sees regularly. I have two teens who have gone to school in our town their whole lives and I can't move them. Plus my parents are here. I can't leave my family. We both understand each others reasons. We both thought the feelings would eventually die away. But they are not. I have been seeing guy for 6 months now. I care about him. However I know I can never love him like my ex. My boyfriend now knows I am still stuck in my past about this. He still wants to be with me. He spoils me & my kids rotten. I have been honest about not being able to committ to him.Help What should I do
2006-11-27 07:51:00 · 9 answers · asked by With My Forever 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
this is a question i had asked myself for 13 yrs. I had fallen in love when i was young and in high school. We had to move to another state so that my mother could find decent employment to take care of us. My mother told me that because i was young, i would soon forget. Me and this guy lost contact a year later after I had moved away. 4 years later, we made contact once again and began a phone relationship. We made plans to reunite. Things didnt go as planned and that trip was not made due to him becoming incarsarated for a crime that he did not commit. I began another relationship. I have had several relationships with other people since then. None of them had ever compared to the one we shared, until recently. Once again, I went about finding him. He had since married and had a child. We talked on the phone and we once again spoke of our feelings. It was known at that time that we both had always felt the same way. I was getting married 6 months after that phone call and I knew what I had to do. I had to go see him. I owed it to myself and to my future husband. My fiancee left me over this, but had i not made the trip, I would not have known what I know now. The love I have for him, will never go away. However, seeing him and his family together instilled a peace within me. I know that he is happy. I finally recieved the closure I needed to move on, knowing that we will always share a bond. Since then, I have met a man that I know will have my whole heart, the way that he should. Finalizing a former love relationship is the most important thing you can do for your self and the other person involved. It is what will allow you to move on and make future relationships work.
2006-11-27 08:09:24 · answer #1 · answered by kelly c 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take a break from your current relationship until your inner feelings for the other guy are resolved. It is not fair to you or to him to continue on when you are torn in the other direction. You will either stay single and long for him, or move, or get back with the other guy when you eventually get a moment of clarity that tells you what you need to do. You might love him now, but who know what tomorrow brings. Sometimes we think that we will "get over it" sooner than we do, and it seems that you are still unresolved about the other guy. Sometimes our intellect (reasoning) does not match our feelings- but one or the other must win eventually. Your reasoning tells you it is impossible to be together, but your heart says you want to be because you love and miss him. Which feeling is stronger- wanting to support your children and miss out on the relationship, or wanting the relationship and have your kids miss out on school? Is being with him worth taking the risks involved and leaving your family? If not, move on, make a clean cut and take some time to heal.
2006-11-27 07:57:42 · answer #2 · answered by soberlunatic 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First love is an experience, it may not last for long but it was beautiful and innocent. True love lasts forever! But it's incredibly hard to find. Sometimes you don't even need to look for true love. It comes to you as fate.
2016-03-28 21:56:43 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it takes time though, could be years, could take months.....Things could be difficult with your current relationship now because you are still thinking about your ex...Thats not good at all, you should have gotten over your ex completely before getting involved with anoher relationship because its going to be hard for you to actually commit to anything and your bf will easily get frustrated over the fact that you havent let go of the past yet....
2006-11-27 07:59:53 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should go back to ur ex
it is not that easy to find your true love people sepdn ages doing this and now that youve fouind one dont let it get away youlll regret it go back to him in the end love conquers all
if i was you i would fight and find a way
not everyone is as lucky to find someone and feel about them like that
2006-11-27 07:58:35 · answer #5 · answered by [trapped][in][a][box] 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no it doesnt, im still sort of in love with my ex, i think about her every day, and what i would have done different if i would have known i was destroying the relationship.
2006-11-27 07:54:31 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
True love will never die. Either you love someone or you never did. ^_^ Face it...true love lasts forever!
2006-11-27 07:54:26 · answer #7 · answered by ilovemcr214 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that was too much to read,but true love doesnt die-embrace it while you can
2006-11-27 07:54:36 · answer #8 · answered by BEAVIS 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
true love transcends time
2006-11-27 07:56:58 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋