I dislike love and I don't want to ever get married or get a girlfriend or anything. I'm not gay, but I have never been attracted to or have loved any girl besides my mother. I know it sounds pathetic, but it's true. I want to be alone and have no kids. I am partly afraid that if I did have a wife, that I would hit her because I have temper problems. That is not the reason why I don't want to be in a relationship though- it's because I don't like love and I am not intersted. I view love as a weakness and I always want to be tough, like a king or dictator. I have low self esteem, but I don't know why; I have friends and I have a good home and I don't get made fun of at school or anything. I DON'T WANT TO CHANGE. I like being alone.What is my problem?
2006-11-27 07:43:43 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Mental Health
Well, the fact that you're asking about this says that you do have a problem with this, despite the fact that you are saying you don't. You've thought about relationships, obviously, because you mention 'if I had a wife.' I think you know why you have an aversion to relationships, but don't want to admit it to yourself. Do you really not want a relationship? Or is there something that makes you not want to have a relationship? What is it? If you just want to be alone, and it makes you happy, then chill out and don't flip out over it. You're not a lemming. Just because everybody else jumped into the ocean, you don't have to. Also, are you fairly young? If you're a pretty young person, then you may just not have hit that age yet. Don't worry about what other people think. Worry about what you think.
2006-11-27 07:55:57 · answer #1 · answered by gilgamesh 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would't say that you are crazy per say but maybe suffer from Anti-Social Behavior. If this bothers you than you should seek a professional opinion by a Pshycologist. Many people choose to be and remain single without ever having a romantic intrest in anyone. They go on to have fullfilling, happy lives. If you feel being in a relationship would cause you to become violent; definately do not try a relationship until you've seen a Doctor. There are many anger management classes available that can help you in this area. Love is not a weakness. It can be a beautiful thing shared between two people. Some of the strongest men I have ever known were able to love whole-heartedly. Love is not to be viewed as a weakness but as a strength. Those of us that feel all human emotions are usually well rounded individuals. It doesn't make you any less "tough." I think you are still young and you feelings may change as you get older. If you want to be a "King or a Dictator" ; go to college, get a good education and maybe one day you could become the "Big Boss" of some Hot Shot Corporation. But don't try to carry these feelings in any other sense. I hope you treat your mother with love and respect. IS your father in the picture? If the answer is no; this may be where some of your feelins stem from. I truly hope you seek counseling-this would greatly help you with some well needed direction in your life. Even so; you may never love your whole life through but that doesn't mean others won't love and/or care about you. You can contol many things in your life, but you can't control the way people feel about you. Best of luck to you. I hope that I was able to reach you in some way.
2006-11-27 16:14:07 · answer #2 · answered by burnettebreeze98 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In my mind I think crazy is just another word for not understanding....you say you don't want to change, yet by asking this question it seems you are asking for help....help to change. I don't think it is strange to not want kids or get married, or wanting to be alone....but the temper issue is what is a concern. Have you ever looked into having a chemical imbalance....mood disorder? I don't know you but you probably have little reason to have low self esteem....but the fact that you do have low self esteem, recognize it and are not happy about it....again shows you do want to change. (that's a good thing....a quality of strength...wanting to better yourself) Going to see a therapist or doctor for this is the opposite of weakness.....it take great strength (the strength of a dictator or king) to admit they need help and take the steps to get it. You may like being alone...but you are not alone in your feelings
2006-11-27 16:08:50 · answer #3 · answered by jo l 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I felt the same way before and I am sure you will change your mind once you finally fall in love. You can't stop yourself from falling for someone no matter how firm you are in saying you are uninterested in love.
And I think that your problem is that you are scared of love and of change, without you knowing it. When you love, you tend to care, to adjust, to sacrifice, to be considerate and understanding. You believe that love is a weakness because you are somehow aware that with love, you have the tendency to submit to something and to someone, and your idea of being tough and a dictator would disappear.
You might like the way you are right now, but how about when you get old? Don't hate the idea of love, I am sure you will learn to accept it once the right person comes your way.
Good luck to you!
2006-11-27 16:00:06 · answer #4 · answered by anime_phyl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are just going through some issues at your age, trying to find yourself. You can be a cool tough guy and still be soft and love, and if people make fun of it just laugh.
Work on your temper, lighten up. Chit happens in life we don't like, try to make the best of it and laugh chit off.
Don't worry about it....someday a great gal will come into your life and change your views. Maybe it's all the hoes and sleazy chicks that turn you off too....With all my years of wisdom dude, Stay AWAY from porn..it will rot you from the inside out and ruin your view of what girls are supposed to be like.
Take care and don't let it bother you.
Madman Mike...Pro MX/FMX/Snocross racer..and still soft too ;)
2006-11-27 15:58:42 · answer #5 · answered by MN-Mike 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well - I dont think you have any problem, you might just love your freedom. It takes the right person to change your point of view on love and in time you will see.
To me love is a weakness, and also a RISK but worth the experience with the right person. Live your life the way your heart desires. You will NOT find love, love will find you...
2006-11-27 15:58:36 · answer #6 · answered by xhika 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are truly happy then I think that your doing OK..
Personally, I think that NOT having someone to love is doing a disservice to yourself.
Having a true love is an amazing thing and I would never want to miss out on that.
Maybe you should see a therapist and maybe their are some underlying issues that you are not aware of.
I wish you luck and happiness!
2006-11-27 15:54:10 · answer #7 · answered by Heather 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont try to fix what aint broken if your happy with your self that i say stay just as you are.. how many people do you know that can say they dont want to change..beside it is not like your alone you do have friends.. and one day someone may come along and change your mind about this.. and it dont sound patheic maybe a bit strange .. but not patheic
2006-11-27 16:08:45 · answer #8 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2006-11-28 14:03:01 · answer #9 · answered by LIz 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your a loner which i'm not saying in a mean way you only want to be around people you trust and why put your heart out on the line only to possibly get crushed you are protecting yourself
2006-11-27 16:20:18 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋