I have known my ex for 7 years now and we have dated off and on.. we have tried to be friends, but it just does not seem to work.. I admit i am a jealous person and get angry when i hear that he is going out to the bars/clubs with out me and dancing with woman. On top of that, he still likes me, but does not want to be in a relationship with me. He never asks me to hang out with him and his friends ( male/female).. The only time i get to spend time with him is behind closed doors, ( if you know what i mean)..I feel so hurt and used. Its not like I am ugly. So why does he continue to be like this? I want to just leave him alone for good and move on with my life, but i have been saying this for years now. ANy suggestions on what I can do to finally get him out of my system and see him for the creap and user that he is??? I have tried dating other guys, but they are never what I am looking for.. HELP!!!!
2006-11-27 07:40:20 · 10 answers · asked by Tish 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Some guys will use you just because they can (you're allowing it). It's up to you to put a stop to it. Cut him off completely, and stay away from him because he isn't showing you any respect.
2006-11-27 07:43:34 · answer #1 · answered by sarcastro1976 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Now come on! He can't be much of a creep and user if you still going through all this. What you need to do is just do it? Yeah it sounds easy but I see you having problems with that. Lets look at it this way. How can a junky get off the thing he is addicted to if he is still hanging around it. You need to stop given up the nookie, and cut off all contact with him. Don't except his calls and let your friends know that if he is going to be involved in anything they do you will not be attending. It sounds harsh but hey thats where you are now. Its cold turkey baby. That slow and easy aint gonna do nothing but have you naked behind closed doors. Oh and don't do that get him jealous crap. Its a cheap trick I hope you are well above. Games bring only games. And eventually everybody loses when you play games with love.
Good Luck!
2006-11-27 15:54:23 · answer #2 · answered by Wordsmith 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Avoid him, don't call him and don't return his calls. This is not a healthy relationship and it's bad for you. It sounds like you have some established patterns and you will have to work to overcome them. Just tell him you are no longer available to him and stick to it.
Try getting involved in group or club activities that he isn't involved in, develope a new social set, get a hobby, volunteer, get an extra job...whatever it takes to build a new healthy pattern that is about you and your needs and desires.
You don't need a man at all, and if you work on yourself now you will have so much more to offer when someone wonderful really does come into your life. And if Mr. Wonderful shows up at this moment, how attractive to him do you think it will be that you are in this totally unhealthy relationship with your ex?
Best wishes.
2006-11-27 15:46:29 · answer #3 · answered by heart o' gold 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can honestly say that i am in the same boat that you are. One way to get really under his skin is to stat getting really close to his bestfriend go out on casual dates make it explicit to where he wants to know everthing. he will then start to realize what he is missing out on. then you have the confidence to find someone to begin a relationship with. It is very hard so just realize you aren't the only one even if at times it feels that way. maybe start doing thingsfor yourself be indepent for once. go to the mall, library, or just find something that you truly love. I am sure you will find that there are other people out there and they also share your same intrests. I started hanging out with guys that my ex hates he can't stand it, and all hi ex's are some of my really good friends,one auctually is my best frind and lives with me. I wish you the best of luck. maybe you can help me with my question. look me up sometime you seem pretty amazing! good luck
2006-11-27 15:49:53 · answer #4 · answered by Lindsey p 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont see him again.
Change your phone number.
Dont answer your door.
He is just using you, plus you might catch something now that he is sleeping around.
If you have too much time on your hands, take some courses, or get a second job.
Start doing things with your friends and forget this guy.
Moving on is never easy, but you will be so much better off.
2006-11-27 15:47:28 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You had better just stay away from him. As long as he can see you when he wants and still be able to date others, he will. No easy answer, for sure...
2006-11-27 15:43:30 · answer #6 · answered by Mr E 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to move on and quickly b/c he surely will asap, and end up marrying someonw he just met, and having kids with her. At least that's what my X did to me...
2006-11-27 15:42:52 · answer #7 · answered by angelic1302 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you want to keep your sanity or get it back lol.
I recommend that you move on. Go out meet other guys and don't compare them to him.
2006-11-27 15:42:57 · answer #8 · answered by Thebronx 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ooh my god..well this aint easy at all..but what u have to do is lose contact...its hard as hell..and it hurts but that is the only way out
2006-11-27 15:43:48 · answer #9 · answered by Lovely Lady 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you're ready to let go you will.
Trust me i learnt the hard way.
2006-11-27 15:46:19 · answer #10 · answered by K 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋