i recently met this girl who i have the strongest connection to- we both write creatively, both want to be social workers, have the same way of seeing the world. we were both going through stuff when we met and really helped each other. i was in a bad relationship and she was heartbroken bc this guy she liked kept saying he didn't like her. we drifted apart for a bit bc of my relationship and she got close to this guy. i told her that i had feelings for her and she said that she felt the same but that this other guy had told her he likes her. she said that we should just be friends and i agreed to it. she sat there on my bed crying so i told her not to worry. during thanksgiving break from college, i started to feel better but then she sent me poetry, in which she seemed quite conflicted, even saying that she was hurt and lying to herself. this concerned me. she says that she aspires to loyalty but the situation doesn't allow. what should i do? back off or talk to her about my feelings
2006-11-27 07:38:32 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
She already knows how you feel, back off and let her realize whats right for her... if you are all up on her all the time, then she has no time to miss you.
2006-11-27 07:44:13 · answer #1 · answered by yo mama 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like she is really confused and doesn't know what she wants. She might also be co-dependent, meaning she is insecure and always feels like she needs to be in a relationship. I think that she does have feelings for you, but maybe she just thinks of you as a friend. You might want to talk to her and find out what she meant when she said she was "hurt" and "lying to herself." Just don't let her string you along. If she thinks she likes you but isn't sure, then she will end up hurting you.
2006-11-27 15:47:50 · answer #2 · answered by cyanide_kisses81 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is crazy why can't you two just be together. Neither of you are married. So what if your in other relationships your not married end the relationships and be together. Tell her to either dump the other guy and be with you or move on.
2006-11-27 15:43:22 · answer #3 · answered by Venus 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well.....this beautiful woman says...Talk to her,and if things seem rocky after that....back off 4 a while...Good luck
2006-11-27 15:42:50 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋