2006-11-27 07:32:28 · 28 answers · asked by huddlestony 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Hes gotten sick last tear and now is on dialysis I do nothins but make sure he eats right and takes care of himself but it doesnt seem like thats good enough. Ladies what do u do in a situation like this I love him and I know he loves me. But do I stick around and make it work or do I walk and be like forget it he can take care of hisself . I ofcourse would feel really bad if something happens to him............ Please give me some good advise ladies......................
2006-11-27 07:36:11 · update #1
Maybe he's just feeling insecure about himself? I've been with my boyfriend for 6 years now and we've definitly had our ups and downs..
Sounds like you're being very sincere and care about him SO much.......if YOU really love him stick with him make him see that YOU are NOT doing anything other than trying to help him and wanting to love him....Just make sure you follow your heart and if you decide to leave him make sure its for the RIGHT reasons ....
2006-11-27 07:44:04 · answer #1 · answered by Brenda S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are several things that could be going on.
To begin with your guy is obviously insecure; the question is why?.
1. Sometimes when guys are so insecure they have unresolved issues in their past that cause them to have trust issues with the people they are involved with.
2. Sometimes the accusers are the ones that cannot be trusted, They are sometimes involved in things and with people and because they know what they are doing, they think that you are doing or going to do the same thing to them, so they have a guilty conscience that causes them to be insecure.
3. I can go deeper and say that he could be dealing with abandonment issues, which is a very difficult thing to deal with. Because if you are with a person that is dealing with this then there is not much that you can do because they need to be fixed within. A good thing to make note of is whether or not he has any reason to believe that you are that kind of person or not and whether or not he is.
2006-11-27 15:48:47 · answer #2 · answered by Ramona D 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, without more of the story it's hard to give an appropriate answer. If you have given him reason to think you're cheating, then it will always be hard to convince him otherwise. If not, then looks like he's either really insecure or really controlling. Men like that need to be alone for awhile so they can grow the hell up. Otherwise they will make every girl they date utterly insane (hmmm -- no wonder men say women are crazy??). My advice to you is get rid of him. Three years is too much time to waste on convincing someone you're being true to them. Find someone more compatible.
2006-11-27 15:36:25 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He obviously has a low self-esteem problem or he has reasons to feel that way. What most women do not realize is men need women for two things:
1. The first you already know.
2. The second is every man needs an encourager, someone to lift up his self-esteem, to give him a feeling of worth. Maybe you take him for granted and don't give him the attention that he needs. He needs to know deep down in his soul that you really care for him and that he is KING to you.
What you may not realize is people respond to the way they are treated, if you treat him as though he is not worth anything, he will act as though he is not worth anything and believe that he is not worth anything.
2006-11-27 15:40:17 · answer #4 · answered by Theophilus 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your guy is really insecure about the relationship. I hate to tell you but I dont thing that there is anything that you can do about it and it could possibly get to be worse, way way worse. I know this is probably a dumb question but have u asked him y he thinks this. My ex kept making comments about that because we were having a long distance relationship turns out it was his a** that was cheating/.
2006-11-27 15:35:40 · answer #5 · answered by Renae F 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why do I suspect that the long story involves some cause for him to believe that
if there is no trust, no point, even after 4-3 years or 43 years
2006-11-27 15:37:54 · answer #6 · answered by head_banger_yyc 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Some peope are insecure and will not trust you even if you've not given them any reason to distrust. All you can do is be consistent in your behavior - calling when you say you will, telling them what you're doing, when and with whom (if you're okay with that) and they will have to accept this at face value.
2006-11-27 15:36:28 · answer #7 · answered by Kimmyq 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Now the one who's always thinking that one is cheating on them are the one doing the cheating and blaming you to get the attention off him, has he ever caught you cheating before 43years is a long time not to trust someone. do some soul searching girlfriend into his life.
2006-11-27 15:37:26 · answer #8 · answered by Earl H 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well, I've always believed that if a guy constantly accuses his girl of cheating on him, then HE is the cheater.
No man is worth your tears. Kick him to the curb and live your own life.
2006-11-27 15:34:49 · answer #9 · answered by Munya Says: DUH! 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I had that with a really really old relationship when I was younger. In the end we broke up. A relationship is built on trust, if you can't trust each other you shouldn't be with each other.
2006-11-27 15:34:58 · answer #10 · answered by winds_of_justice 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋