Furious ! why did my daughter's teacher sent a complain note, to my husband and not me?

Question

My daughter is 7 years old,was not doing her hws and the teacher sent a note to my husband not me, i feel like if i have no power,I'M te mother too. Why is the teacher doing this ? Is she ignoring me ??? or what ?

Answer 1

common sense, ask the teacher why. she didn't mean anything by it i am sure

Answer 2

I suggest talking to your daughter's teacher, if it really matters this much. Ask her if she has your contact information (email, phone number, address, etc.). Then ask her why she didn't talk to you when your daughter was not doing her homework. If there is any problem, try to discuss it and not become "furious" at her not sending you a complaint note.
Also, I suggest that you take time to think this through. Do you really care this much that your daughter's teacher didn't send you a complaint note and your husband instead? Unless this continues and is a major problem, I think you should think this through. How will this affect your daughter? Or if it has no or a positive effect, really consider if it is worth your effort or time to go talk to the teacher.
I hope this helps you solve your problems!

Answer 3

I am sure your daughter's teacher did not mean to upset you.
As a teacher I can assure you that it is standard practice for all schools to have home contact details for every pupil. This is essential in case of an emergency and important if for some reason a parent/relation/carer/guardian needs to be contacted.
Schools strive to keep these records accurate and up to date but of course they can only record the information they are given.
If you have explained that you wish to be contacted and provide those details I am sure the teacher will oblige. Call her and explain how you feel. I am absolutely sure she will make certain the records are ammended. She will be only too glad you care about your daughter's progress and that you are genuinely concerned about her education.

Answer 4

You might check how your daughter's records are set up at the elementary school. Your husbands name may be listed as the main contact and you may need to update this. I am sure the teacher meant no harm. I would respond to the letter and sign both your names. I also would follow up on the issue so she sees that you are involved.

Answer 5

Have you gone to the school and met her teacher before this?

At the beginning of each school year I took in 10 self addressed stamped envelopes and gave them to the teacher. I also gave her my cell, home & work numbers. Then I nicely asked her to always contact me directly. Nine times out of 10 this led to the teacher contacting me instead of the dad.

If my 7 year old was not turning in homework, I would ask for a meeting with the teacher and then sit down and figure out how to nip this bad behavior in the bud.

Good luck

Answer 6

Who normally has contact with your daughter's teacher, you or your husband? Did she send a note addressed to Mr. So-and-so, or did she use a first name? If she just said "Mr." then it could easily be a typo.

But seriously, your daughter is not doing her homework, and your biggest worry is that you feel offended because the note was sent to your husband? Please, ma'am, re-examine your priorities.

Answer 7

Don't forget that your daughter speaks with her teacher as well. Kids can (almost) innocently manipulate adult relationships. Maybe something your daughter said made the teacher think she should correspond with Dad and not Mom in this situation.

Yeah, happened to me.

Answer 8

perhaps you ought to be extra annoyed with your daughter. there's a reason further and extra colleges are putting limits on at the same time as kids can move to the bathing room. it rather is why they provide them about 10 minutes to move from classification to classification. She had her time to move use the bathing room and that i will gurantee you this she became likely socializing inclusive of her acquaintances different than well known her organic and organic want of employing the bathing room. She's also in seventh grade she ought to comprehend extra powerful then to shop socializing. the instructor informed her 10 minutes and she or he will be able of move. She is sufficiently previous to be able of carry her bladder for that lengthy. there is not a lot the instructor is going to provide to you except her version of the activities and what the colleges regulations are for employing the restroom. even although that, in the experience that your daughter rather mandatory to move she must have in simple terms left and gone to the bathing room anyhow. Out of all this perhaps you ought to practice your daughter about being to blame about making particular that she makes use of the bathing room at the same time as she desires to not ignore about it.

Answer 9

The teachers at my kid's school correspond with both of us through email...albeit through my wife's address.

As long as I see the notes, I don't care who's email account they're sent to or what name is on the envelope when it comes home.


I smell other "control" issues at work here.

Answer 10

They normally send letters only to the custodial parent. If you want them to send you letters, too, you will need to discuss it with the school.

Now, if by slim chance you're NOT divorced, grow up. You both live in the same house. Stop being an attention spaz and address your daughter's problems.

Answer 11

If you're both living in the same house does it matter so much??
Maybe she forgot or something like that.
You should just go and talk to the teacher, and tell her that next time she should send you the letter.