Why is it when u like a guy n they like u it turns out that there jerks?

Answer 1

That's the trouble with finding the right guy. Its a lengthy process. It takes time to discover what someone's really like and you just have to keep trying different guys until you find the right one.

Answer 2

Well, that's a two way street sometimes. Don't get me wrong, I am not saying that all men are good, but neither are all woman. But from some past experiences that I have been through, I find that women change. I mean the guy may have been nice at first, but turned into a jerk only because you are not the same person that he thought he met. Here are a few examples, I bet when you met one of these now jerks, you went out of your way to please him also. You probably invited him over for a meal, had candles and the whole nine yards, including great sex. But after a few months go by, people go back to their old ways, and I think most of us do this, and before you know it, things turn into tit for tats. I bet your idea of a great relationship now is you sitting on the couch and hit shutting the F%$# up because you are trying to watch this show. I bet dinner consist of 'fend for yourself' or maybe if he asked, your loving comment is 'I cooked last month'. I am sorry you do not give enough detail for me to say that is the problem, but I see this a lot, and if it is, I think you better sit down and have a long thought about how you treat him now versus how you use to, and if he is doing it to you also, maybe you both better sit down and harness the problem before it is too late. Remember, flowers are not just for first dates, they should be given often to show your love for her, and in your case, he still has the same needs and apprechiations too as when you first met.
Good Luck, Jack

Answer 3

Thats not true. Somtimes at first we just don't see the bad side of someone or we don't want to see it. Sometimes it's hard to let go of an idea you hold of someone and you just want them to be who you thought they were. What you will come to find out is that you can't make someone be anything but what they are, and if thats not enough for you then youshould move on. One day you will meet someone and he wont be a jerk, until then enjoy the ride!

Answer 4

Finding a person that has the same morals and values is a challenge but keep in mind, you have to go through a lot of oysters before you find that pearl. The work is messy, smelly, and unless you like eating them, there is a lot of waste. It is life that tests you when you are tired, frustrated and ready to quit but that little voice inside still says, "Open one more!". Keep opening the oysters...your pearl will come.

Answer 5

Here could be a few idea's and my thought's - about Jerk's - Have you given him / her reason's to not respect you ? Think carefully about this- 1. Being to-to nice can make some people take advange of you - causing them to not respect you and use you !! That to me is a Jerk!! 2. Were you to easy by given into to him / her sexually ?? Rember men love the chase- no matter what they whisper in your ear's !! Women tend to grab and hold on tight, after having sexually being involved ! Not saying all do !!!! 3. Do you call - e-mail or check up on him/her all-all the time,that can get old really fast!! If you think back on your other relationship -- I'm almost sure it's happened to you - or someone you know -- it get on your nerve's and you'll almost alway's lose some sort of respect !! 4. Do you alway's flirt--flirt---and flirt some more when your with him/ her - even in a joking way some people lose respect --- Because your not respecting them - make's sense -- Right ? 5. In my case I thought I found Mr.Right as I soon found out he was Mr.wrong -- Almost alway's he would steal my energy -- Positive energy - I'd be drained after being around him -- munipulate me -is what I am trying to say . I started watching positive show's like Dr.Phil , and other positive thing's on T.V. and he would make fun of me ,, by making fun of who ever I watching on T.V once I happened to be watching Dr.Phil - and a few word's he spoke have stuck with me ( WE TEACH -PEOPLE - HOW TO TREAT-US ) !!??? He is so right !! I found myself taking a good look about me,and around me ! Now I am more aware WHO I share my world with !! I have started learning how to put up boundrie's and kinda screen out negitive people. Please, believe me at age 51-- I can still get fooled,and suckered even at my age I am stll learning - JUST TRY TO GO - WEED OUT NEGITIVE PEOPLE - STOP--LOOK -- and LISTEN and most of all be patient with your self !! Rember when those negitive JERK'S figure it out you''ll be long GONE !! Bless you - I hope some of my thought's were helpful -- Keep in touch - I may need your thought's one day !! Feel free to reply to me . my name is Pattijo



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Answer 6

most men are like that. It's not that you have bad taste in men it is just that a guy acts a certain way so that he can make his way into your life and then he eventually shows his true colors.

Answer 7

maybe ur expextations r too high. or possibly ur going out with jerks and the only reason u started going out with them was their looks.

Answer 8

I think it is because they are scard, or they relly dont know how to treat someone they like because they sometimes only get with a girl just to get something from them.

Answer 9

most guys feel confident when they find someone who likes them, confidnece goes to theire head, become cocky jerks...

Answer 10

Karma? Dump him, don't talk to him. He will figure out what he did wrong.