When does a child forgive their parent who has not met their needs?

Answer 1

I agree with the others. It depends on what needs were not met. When a child grows into being an adult, then they can look back at the situation with a different perspective and see what was going on and maybe see why those needs weren't met. It may be then that the child can forgive the parent.

Just remember that if a child can't forgive the parent that it is alright. Sometimes forgiveness is too hard to give while the parties involved are alive. Sometimes it must wait until one party is gone before the healing can really begin and forgiveness given.

Answer 2

Turn that around - where does it say that a parent is responsible for meeting the child's needs? What is to forgive? What does the child think it deserves?

It's a hard one - you may know that if you had children you would treat them in a certain way - but maybe you also know that you aren't perfect 100% of the time and people who need you are sometimes let down by you. Your parents are also just people - and they may be weaker, lazier and more self-absorbed than you.

I don't know the answer and I don't know your life but two things - don't judge someone before you've walked a mile in their moccasins, and being angry is never a good idea.

Answer 3

This question did not spell out a particular need which makes it inclusive as per on all parental roles. Because of the inclusive nature of the question it makes it harder to tacle but its important to keep in mind that the love of a parent never ends.

Consequently, the love of a child for a parent never ends. There is one fact which in itself is undeniable. This is a fundamental fact that no one is perfect. We are not perfect and that is why we make mistakes. At the same time we have to learn to forgive the shortcoming of others so that we would have forgiveness waiting for us at the doorsteps of our own failings.

Answer 4

you can't pass on what you havent learned. that's what helps me when i need to forgive people in my life, whether parents, friends coworkers, whatever.
you forgive when you feel that the anger and hurt is interfering with your ability to function. when you are tired of feeling the way you do about the situation, you will be shown how to forgive. whether it is through someone else or a book, or a song, you'll get the message you need in order to forgive the past and move beyond it.
many of us are afraid to forgive because it brings up all the pain but when forgiveness is in the forefront, you will be surprised at how you can move through the pain and come out of the experience stronger and more loving.

Answer 5

Sometimes, when one grows up, matures and understands the pressures of being an adult and a parent first hand, they will be able to forgive.

Sometimes, it takes the help of a therapist.

Sometimes, children never forgive their parents...and sometimes the parents do not deserve forgiveness from their children.

Answer 6

umm... when the parent is mentally and physically able to meet the childs need. That is a case by case issue the child may never forgive the parent. I suggest counceling even if it is a local social worker or school psycologist. that is what they are there for.

Answer 7

First off if you realize you aren't meeting up to their needs, than change your ways to become a better parent. Children hold resentments and until they are old enough to truely comprehend forgiveness expect no remorse from that child.

Answer 8

I would think when the child grows into an adult and is able to comprehend the situation and forgive their parent.

Answer 9

When they're older. I didn't actually forgive my mom until I was about 18. Then I realized exactly why she hadn't done it. It took me so long because I was trying to fool myself into thinking that lavishing her with gifts and things I'd made would help her to love me better. When it didn't I just gave up and realized that no matter what nothing would work, after awhile I forgave her for it and moved on. I have better things to worry about now.

Answer 10

When the child matures and realizes that their parents did the best they could. It also depends on what needs. If they had shelter, food, clothing and love, their needs were met.