my girlfriend and i have been going out for a year now but we went out for a half a year the first time we went out but we broke up anyways when she starts kissing me with her soft silky lips, and i get cold chills and get into it a whole lot then she starts rubing my abs and then takes of my shirt and she gets on top of me, but my question is, is it a bad thing to think about sex everytime something like this happens because i can't help but to think about it i am still a virgin so it would be my first and i got ever kind of trojan condom there is i no so many positions but i was wondering if its a bad thing and if so how can i get it where i won't think about it all the time
2006-11-27 07:21:02 · 28 answers · asked by loving life 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
dont see how thinking about sex is a problem! hell if i was you i probably would have already had sex by now if she did all you say she did.
2006-11-27 07:25:17 · answer #1 · answered by thinkofmealwayslver 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Avoid really intimate scenes and stuff that gets you really turned on. I'm 16 and i'm a virgin and trust me i have the same problem and i think alot about sex these days and i debate with myself whether or not it would be such a bad thing and even though my mind and my heart know it's wrong out of marriage my body still wants it. I gues you just gotta avoid the temptation and if you're a christian try to pray about it and get your friends to help you stay away from such stuff.
I usually rely on my friends to help me so just try do that too. Hey it will be worth it when you experience it for the first time with the person you love rather than someone you might not spend the rest of your life with.
Best wishes, hope i helped.
2006-11-27 15:31:35 · answer #2 · answered by K 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all How old are you?? And if you are thinking bout having sex you should also talk to your girlfriend and make sure that is ok with her too. As for the condoms go to walmart . Now remember that lots of things come with having sex . So you have to make sure you mature enough . What if she gets pregnant ?? Or you get an std??? How would you tell yourt parents ? Would you be able to take care of a child?? Just think about it life is fun of adventures . I just want you to live it to its fullest.
2006-11-27 15:28:59 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is not a bad thing, it is a natural thing. But there is a difference between thinking and doing. I would suggest wait. Stay a virgin as long as possible. Sex is better with someone you love and someone who you know you are going to spend the rest of your life with. Trust me, I didn't wait and i wish I would of. It makes things difficult and complicated. Keep it simple as long as possible. Some advice, don't brag about how many condoms you have or how many positions you know.
2006-11-27 15:26:02 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
When you're put in that kind of position of course your going to think about sex, that's almost unstoppable. It's better to wait later to have sex, I'm not saying marriage but at least until you know you are ready and not just because you get horny all the time.... and about the trojan condoms..... I have to say Durex are better
2006-11-27 15:26:59 · answer #5 · answered by sweet_girl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course you will think of sex when you are making out, thats natural. If I were you I would try to not do it for as long as possible.
I waited til I was eighteen, and wish I would have waited even longer. When you do go for it, remember to use those condoms!! And also don't forget to give your girl some foreplay!
2006-11-27 15:28:09 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think its a bad thing...if you love someone so much I think it's ok to have sex....but you sound like you're a young guy and its perfectly normal for you to feel that way....My only advice is make sure it's meaningful and with someone you care SO much about...you two have been dating for a year and if BOTH of you think your ready well go for it IF not then wait till you are....Good LUCK!!
2006-11-27 15:28:31 · answer #7 · answered by Brenda S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think your over reacting...guys think about it all the time. My boyfriend was a "V" when we started going out and he was just as worried as you are right now. But whats up with you knowing all the positions? lol come on now, the first time you shouldnt be thinking bout the diff. poistions and new moves u should be thinking bout the other person.
2006-11-27 15:25:17 · answer #8 · answered by Alli 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Darlin, unfortunately I don't think you're going to be able to stop thinking about it. It is absolutely not a bad thing either!! Gawd what I wouldn't do to feel like that right now!!
If you've never had sex before, and she makes you horny (as you describe above), there is nothing you can do NOT to think about it, besides not necking with her to begin with.
2006-11-27 15:28:12 · answer #9 · answered by Miz D 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
based on the way you wrote the letter...I'd say you should wait a lot longer before you start having sex. You sound very young. If youre not very young....then thats even more of a reason to wait..cus you're comming off as a young teen. ..no offense. I'd just wait if I were you.
2006-11-27 15:26:36 · answer #10 · answered by Dani 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you didnt say how old you are, but my guess is pretty young. i think most boys around your age think about sex all the time, even without the touching and kissing. and i dont know of anything that changes that but age. but good luck!!!
PS i have been married for 22 years and if i kiss my husband like you described, he will want to have sex. he says if he ever DOESNT want to, then i should worry!
2006-11-27 15:27:20 · answer #11 · answered by rbmmom 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋