Am I a psychopath?

Question

I dislike love and I don't want to ever get married or get a girlfriend or anything. I'm not gay, but I have never been attracted to or have loved any girl besides my mother. I know it sounds pathetic, but it's true. I want to be alone and have no kids. I am partly afraid that if I did have a wife, that I would hit her because I have temper problems. That is not the reason why I don't want to be in a relationship though- it's because I don't like love and I am not intersted. I view love as a weakness and I always want to be tough, like a king or dictator. I have low self esteem, but I don't know why; I have friends and I have a good home and I don't get made fun of at school or anything. What is my problem?

Answer 1

I think you need to work out what LOVE means to you. You say you see it as a weakness....I can understand that it can be seen in this way. But what sounds to be core is your need to feel strong. Within your family, what was the love you experienced?Both in giving it and receiving it?

No, I don't think you're a psychopath but I do think you have deep issues relating to your low self esteem. Perhaps you think that if you did love someone, you would be weakened and they would be at an advantage and may be able to 'attack' you (not in the physical sense.) You sound very guarded and afraid to be hurt.

Do you have a 'normal' relationship with your mother or do you see her as perfect and no one could be like her?

You also sound afraid of yourself, afraid of what you are capable of and afraid of what love can do to you....eg. break through the 'force field' you create in certain situations.
I honestly think that counselling could help you to explore your self esteem and views on love.

Answer 2

I don't honestly think you are going to get an answer you like on here. Truthfully, you should probably seek out some councelling or therapy in your area. Just because you want to be a tough guy and don't like love, doesn't make you a psychopath, but it does make me think you may have some issues with trust, and maybe more specifically trust with women. Temper problems can be controlled whether it's through medication or therapy, but they can be taken care of. Love isn't necessarily a weakness either...you said you love your mother, do you consider that fact when you say love is a weakness? Again, to me it seems like maybe there are some trust issues somewhere in your life. The only other thing that concerns me about your question is that maybe you should consider that you might very well have an oedipus complex since your mother is the only female you have ever and can ever see yourself loving. I'm not being mean or rude, but some serious consideration of professional help could be very good for you. Good luck.

Answer 3

eh, most yahoo amateur psychologists will probably tell you it's because your dad was abusive, so you want to make up for the weakness he made you feel by being a tough guy, and you dont want to repeat the bad relationship he had with your mother.

i disagree. people are all different, and some of us are better at being alone than others. also, some people are naturally less sexual than others. dont stress about it. the only thing that's important is that you live how you wanna live, and do what you need to do to be happy, as long as you aren't infringing on the happiness of anybody else.

if you think being in a relationship would make things worse for both you and her, then why would you do it? there's nothing psychopathic or crazy about that. that's logic, and better than most people can come up with. the fact that you know yourself pretty well is already a strong sign that you're mature enough to look at things realistically.

so no. you're fine. don't stress. be happy,

Answer 4

I dont think you are a psychopath. I think you are weak and do not want to admit it.
For the exact same reasons you say you do not want to have love is the exact same reasons I say this. You say not having it gives you the feeling of being tough etc. But what you do not know about love is it is the strongest thing out there. I honestly believe nothing is more powerful than love...and you are scared. Even if you do not realize that subconsciously I really believe you are.
I do not know how old you are. Maybe this is something you will outgrow. Maybe not. Maybe its a decision you need to make for yourself. Either way you know what will make you happy and do not do anything that doesnt!

Answer 5

this does not mean that your a psychopath... that would be for you to go around and be violent towards others without a single care in the world for anyone but yourself... also known as a sociopath... you should just do what I did a little while back and go see a therapist.. possible anti-depressants along with that to help with the depression.. don't feel all alone because your not...

Answer 6

Have you ever contemplated seeing a counselor? It sounds to me like you have some trust issues, and a good counselor and help to assess your personal feelings and get you to a healthy emotional level. But only a professional can help you. You don't sound psychopathic to me...just confused.

Answer 7

Your problem is that you want a problem. Misery loves company and you seem to want misery in your life. Just do not get married and do not interact with happy people and be miserable by yourself. You have no problem.

Answer 8

dunno but you should work as a CEO in corporate america. They need a few more people like you.

maybe u can be appointed by bush for homeland security job. who knos maybe you and condoleeza rice will hit it off