I'm 18 and a senior in high school. I've been wanting to ask this girl out for some time now. She is really, really shy. She's the type who won't start a conversation but will talk when someone starts first. We don't really "know" each other, not even names, but we've talked once in the library. She leaves directly at lunch because she takes the bus home. I notice that from a distance she will glance at me and see what I'm doing, then she'll hurry to the bus. We don't have any classes together so its really hard to get in touch with her. My question is this, how do I start something with this really really shy girl? Should I try and get her email or something to get to know her first or should I flat out ask her out so we can get to know each other there? She's really shy so I don't want to come on too strong, but enough to make my point. If anybody has any ideas on how to start something worth while and any ideas on places to ask her out to, please post them.
SOMEONE PLEASE HELP!!!
2006-11-27 07:14:48 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
As a really really shy girl back in high school....
I would've been really flattered if a guy approached me and asked me out. If you think that she's shown some sort of interest by "glancing" in your direction before leaving or even talking to you when you initiate the conversation, then just ask. You won't come off as "too strong". Coming on too strong would be asking her "Your place or mine", but a shy girl is like any other girl! She can't be THAT shy if she will talk to you if you start the conversation and she doesn't even know your name! So go for it!
Ask her out like you would any other girl. If she's into you, she'll be very thankful that you took the step instead of waiting for her (as most likely, she would never approach you if she's shy).
2006-11-27 07:25:49 · answer #1 · answered by bosnjgal 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask the girl for some help on some type of homework assignment (hoping that she is a good student) that your are working on. Even if you are good at it. This should break the ice for y'all. After she helps you, thank her and then offer to take her to get a bite to eat after-wards or maybe a movie that weekend. Tell her that its the least you could do, for her helping you. Then tell her that ( if you are still interested) you would like to see her again outside of school. This then should be the first official date. What ever happens after that is between you and her. Meaning if y'all are still interested in each other then this should be a beautiful start to a beautiful relationship. Just keep it real with her and you should have nothing to worry about.
2006-11-27 15:38:43 · answer #2 · answered by nik 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
First of all from the user name you use,If I was shy that would scare me right off,are you sure your her type? I think for a first date you should go out as a group of friends and not one on one,will help her be less nervouse.If you dont know each others friends,maybe just mention to her you would like to get to know her,see if the two of you have anything in common. Also dont even think about her as a date or girlfriend,just asume you are friends and maybe thats all you will ever be,whitch should be fine,and then let things work out from there.
2006-11-27 15:29:03 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I got this.
Jump on her bus, sit next to her and ride with her to her home. On the way there, tell her that you're into her and want to go out sometime.
Don't ask if you can ride w/ her home, just do it. Take a chance, women like that. It will show her that you've got balls.
You're probably wondering, well how do I get home... well DUH, you walk! or call a buddy on the cel. Or if you're really lucky, you'll hit it off so well w/ this chick that she'll invite you in for some play.
If you email her, you might as well chop off your nuts and grind them into a 256MB flash drive and then attach em, cause that's as close to bangin her as you'll get.
2006-11-27 15:25:16 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well if she is shy and your not, just ask her out. tell her you are going to see a movie and you would like her to join you. If that doesn't work hop on the bus with her and see if you can talk to her that way. Just make her understand that you want to be her friend but still take it at a slow pace. if she glances at you, i think you are good to go.
2006-11-27 15:19:52 · answer #5 · answered by Bman 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I would suggest you start with a 'mini' date. Just a coke date or school activity where she will feel comfortable.
You might even suggest that the two of you double with another couple if you know someone she already knows and is comfortable with.
Then if all goes well tell her you would like to take her to a place that is special to you......no funny business now........just a pretty nature spot or art exhibit.
Let her see your gentler side for awhile.
2006-11-27 15:20:04 · answer #6 · answered by Puzzler 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well since she is really shy and not very talkative maybe you should try to e-mail her. Usually people that are shy and don't talk very much do most of there talking and expressing through writing. It sounds like the best way to get the most from her. It might be easier on her to, not so much pressure. She'll have time to respond to you. if you have her e-mail then write to her!
2006-11-27 15:19:21 · answer #7 · answered by Jenny L 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
try to talk to her..its pretty obvious that she likes u n thats maybe y she is she around u...u hav to take ur tyme n b patient to ask her out
if u really like her get to kno her alot better, she may not b the actual gurl u r lookin for...on the other hand, she mite jus hav personal issues or sumthn so u shud try n see wuts wrong with her n then u will kno when the tyme is rite
2006-11-27 15:18:50 · answer #8 · answered by DιRTι DιVA 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
alright first off FIND OUT HER NAME!!!! then write her a note telling her you like her and everything and ask if she is interested in you at all. if so then you two should start hanging out, talkin, emailing, all that sort of stuff so you can get to know one another. if things keep going well, ask her out. i dont think you will regret this. she seems like she may have a thing for you so write her a note telling her how long you have liked her and tell her your feelings and hopefully things go up from there.
2006-11-27 15:18:43 · answer #9 · answered by Crazy ace 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I used to be hella shy too...I still usually wait for others to talk to me or I'll just keep to myslef!! If u really want to get to know her Invest some time in her...go out of your way to talk to her...she'll probably open up to you seeing as how she seems to be interested...after ya'll start talking ask her out anywhere..as long as you guys are together it really doesn't matter where...Make her laugh and I promise you'll hit it off...Good LUCK!!!!
2006-11-27 15:21:54 · answer #10 · answered by Brenda S 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋