Let's say the guy had family issues. Loss of mother or father, moved around from place to place, an only child, almost like an orphan. Possibly fear of attatchment, or just scared to get hurt. But if you liked the guy, and was nice, cute, etc... Would you never get involved with a guy like that? Would it bother you? Is it a turn off or turn on?
2006-11-27 07:06:57 · 20 answers · asked by Little Hulk 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Not a turn off..its attractive. It goes to show that he isn't going to jump from relationship to relationship for the sense of being in one. And when he is going to get into one, it seems as if he will commit to it. When you find the right person all fear is case out of perfect love. You'll just know, till then continue to build yourself into a better person to be a blessing for the woman you are keeping your history pages blank for.
Hey you should read "Wild at Heart" by John Eldridge
2006-11-27 07:15:28 · answer #1 · answered by Cristina314 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, a little bit. I could understand if he had moved away when in a relationship, but that couldn't put too much of a dent into a relationship in which he couldn't of had at least -one- long one.
Family issues and a loss of a parent should mean that you spend -more- time with a girlfriend, they would be there for you when in need of emotional support. Otherwise you're just sort of pushing them away (I was guilty of that a few times myself. But not to the point where we broke up).
You should really have a nice heart to heart talk with yourself. Why are you afraid of attachment? You may of gotten hurt several times but it sounds like it was all your fault, not the girls fault at all. Is it because you don't want to hurt anyone? Maybe it's just time for a change of scenery. Go out there and find a girl you'll actually cherish and know she won't hurt you, if that means knowing someone for three years before you trust them enough then so be it.
2006-11-27 15:11:21 · answer #2 · answered by winds_of_justice 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It would not bother me as long as I knew up front . that , that is how you feel. if i knew that the guy I like was like that and I still want to go through a relationship . than that is fine, as long as i remeber that there should not be any expectations for this relation. so as long as you tell the girl what you are about , it is all up to her and you can never say you never told her. if in the future she has a problem with that well that is her problem
2006-11-27 15:11:50 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
that really depends on the age of the person. At my age or younger (25) I wouldn't be so bothered by it.. as long as they had *some* experience. Getting close to 30 would be a bit troubling.
but I really liked the person a lot, it wouldn't bother me no matter what.
2006-11-27 15:11:03 · answer #4 · answered by psykochatter 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If this so called person your talking about is "you", for one it wouldnt hurt to gain some trust in a long term relationship with a girl you've been seeing! It might be good to have someone whos always gonna be there for you! dont miss out on a good thing! and dont blame it on the past, live, learn, and move on
2006-11-27 15:10:57 · answer #5 · answered by ♥JENN♥ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ther`s always a first time for everything.
Who knows, his first long-term relationship might be with me *LOL*
What you`re describing sounds SO familiar... me and my significant other are both at the first long term relationship (almost 3 years now) and we`re considering serious issues too (marriage, kids etc).
2006-11-27 15:12:38 · answer #6 · answered by DarkChoco 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know you asked for girls, but that could work in her favor. If he has nothing to compare you to, then you can write your own history and not piggy back off his past failure(s).
If he has never been in any long term crap, you don't have to worry about those skeltons surfacing later. Or put up with the, "My ex so & so use to do that" type of crap."
2006-11-27 15:15:40 · answer #7 · answered by BionicNahlege 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like I'd have to put in quite a bit of work in the relationship, if I feel that he's put his baggage behind and is ready to start something new I'd give it a try. How he feels about us would come first.
2006-11-27 15:11:05 · answer #8 · answered by Craiova 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he is just a normal person...all of us have issues and i dont think that you should be turned off by the fact that he never had a long term relationship...if you really like him go for it
2006-11-27 15:10:54 · answer #9 · answered by -- 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wellll...the way you're asking the question suggests you already know the answer to your question doesn't it. It's like the episode of the Simpsons where Lisa wants to "tame him...".
But really - how do you think he would feel if you tried to decide what to do by asking Yahoo!?
2006-11-27 15:10:26 · answer #10 · answered by lozatron 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋