Ok heres the deal. I started wokring at this restaurant and I met this guy. We'll just call him Jake. So jake is married and has a baby boy. He approached me about hanging out a while ago but i wasnt really interested. then one day he came out with all of the coworkers to a karaoke bar, anyways he told me that he liked me a lot and that he wanted to be with me, but i didnt end up taking him seriously at first. Anyways i kind of started falling for him and the next day he told me that his wife and him were seperated and that she had flown back with the baby to san francisco. He said he wanted to date me and i was really scared at first ,but i ended up dating him. so our relationship got serious really fast, and i really ended up falling in love with him. he told me he was in love with me and told me he was getting the divorce all set up and that he wanted to be with me and marry me and so on...but now hes confused and not sure of the divorce or anything. what should i do???
2006-11-27 07:01:24 · 8 answers · asked by surfer2thextreme 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Go with the flow. You love him, so what does it matter if his intentions aren't good. Does he make you feel happy? If yes, then stick around. His marriage and family isn't working out obviously and if it were a fling and he's just using you for sex, then he would have moved on by now for someone different.
None of the responses so far good. They all say leave, etc... but what do they know! They probably have never been in a similar situation and base their answers only off of predictable movies and TV shows they watch which are full excess drama.
Go w/ your gut feeling and stay with this dude. Don't press him to do anything. He should make up his own mind.
2006-11-27 07:15:19 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow you got yourself in a heap of junk here. The guy is a loser, his wife left him, probably for cheating and your fell for him. Sad!!!
You are in a bad spot, 1. because if you keep with him, and eventually marry him his kids will see you as the person that destroyed the marriage. 2. because you are in the middle of a married couple. They will stay together and you will be alone, they with a stack of issues and you with a broken heart.
I'm sorry to say it but find another guy? There are plenty of us out there. Ladies, don't stay with guys promising divorce from their wives!!! Come on they'll do the same to you.
You should just move on, you sound young, probably early twenties, I hope the best for you but do youself a favor. Discontinue all contact with him. Seriously, move on, realize you made a mistake and grow from the experience.
The guy lacks character. You don't pursue a relationship with someone when your married...
2006-11-27 07:11:25 · answer #2 · answered by Cabbage 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1- Never get involved with a married man!
2- Never believe those lines!
So, with that out the way, you should just leave him alone- at least until he really gets the divorce. I mean, why is he confused? Because he don't know if he really wants to leave her! Wake up, Girlfriend! You don't need the drama. And why does he get to decide what he wants when its concerning you? Girl, you need to make the decision and just move on!
2006-11-27 07:09:34 · answer #3 · answered by shondak 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move on, and get past him. He either used you to lean on while he got out of that relationship and now would rather be single, or he is getting back together with her. Now either way that is not a good situation to keep yourself in.
He is going to have that baggage attached to him forever. You will always have to deal with his ex if you guys do eventually work out and she will always see you as a home wrecker not because that is what you are but because that is what he made you into in her mind. Also, if he cheated on her with you, eventually he will cheat on you with someone else do you really want to wait around on that.
Moving on is your best bet. I know you are attached and there are strong emotions involved on your part but obviously not on his part. Get out now before you become even more attached and become more emotionally involved.
Cut all ties and get a new man.
2006-11-27 07:10:32 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should wait. Let him get divorced. Marry him. Have a baby right away so he can leave you for another woman.
Life goes around like a record. Most people can't learn new dances.
2006-11-27 07:06:30 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Dump his ***. he's not getting divorced he's playing you. Besides why would you want to start dating a married guy. If he cheated on her he will cheat on you too.
2006-11-27 07:06:14 · answer #6 · answered by Venus 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
dont believe him u will be his next ex wife
2006-11-27 07:07:10 · answer #7 · answered by thiru k 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NEVER MAKE YOUR MOVE TO SOON.
2006-11-27 07:06:29 · answer #8 · answered by Monty L 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋