We have been dating for 2 months but we have been fooling around with each other for years. He has already been married before and says that he wants to marry me. So i can't quite figure out what is holding him back. Am i rushing things to fast.
2006-11-27 06:55:34 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
yes it seems as though you are rushing a bit! just because you fooled around doesn't mean you are prepared to get married. and is he saying he wants to marry you to get into your pants? i would wait awhile before you make the commitment, because it sounds like it would be a failed marriage! wait atleast a year!
2006-11-27 06:59:03 · answer #1 · answered by Blondie98_01 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Two months of dating isn't enough time for you to both be ready to get engaged. After two months you can't even be sure that someone's not a serial killer! Give it time. I think even a year is really fast, but I would recommend waiting at least a year before getting engaged. That way you both will know a lot more about each other, and you'll be sure that you have the same goals, likes and dislikes, etc. Don't try to rush things just so that you can say you're engaged. It'll be a lot more exciting if you both know that you're ready and are sure you want to spend the rest of your lives together.
2006-11-27 07:49:56 · answer #2 · answered by K 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My fiancee and i both knew after the first 2 weeks that we loved each other and wanted to get married. We got engaged after dating 10 months and will be hopefully having the wedding next year. There is nothing wrong with getting engaged after 2 months but make sure you know all that you need to know and all that there is to know. Surprises like a very violent temper or gets off on doggie porn can end a marriage.
2006-11-27 07:58:03 · answer #3 · answered by Renae F 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, if he's been married before, you know that in his eyes, marriage isn't "til death do us part". Second, if you were fooling around with him while he was married, then marriage is not a commitment to him either. So, if you can accept the fact that if you marry this guy, it will just be a temporary thing until he grows tired of you and cheats on you and then leaves you, then go for it! Just make sure you get a nice engagement ring for all your trouble, that you don't have any babies unless he has a steady paycheck that can be garnished for child support, and that he won't beat you.
Good luck!
2006-11-27 07:05:07 · answer #4 · answered by NuYawker 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Fooling around is totally different from dating. I myself believe that the first year of dating somebody is really getting to know eachother better as a boyfriend/girlfriend. 2 months of dating what do u honestly know about him as a boyfriend? I have been with my boyfriend for over 2 years and I'm still getting to new things about him. People can change so quickly. Take more time to get to know eachother. Thats far too rushy to be talking about marriage after only 2 months.
2006-11-27 07:04:26 · answer #5 · answered by strawberry22kb 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Average life span is 90 years. If you marry at 20 or 25 this is 70 to 65 years with the same person. Do you know them well enough after 2 months to stay with them 65 to 70 years??
2006-11-30 03:08:50 · answer #6 · answered by west.herb@yahoo.com 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
frequently conversing, those that youthful are not commonly mature adequate to attend to marriage. yet there could be some exceptions, probable no longer lots although. So yeah, you're probable proper, it quite is probable a nasty theory for many of those teenagers you're speaking approximately. on the different hand, i might by no potential have been able to easily date somebody for 2 years (except I wasn't particularly in love). I have been given engaged to my boyfriend after 9 months of relationship, and that i'm getting married 5 months later (in 3 days particularly!). yet although, i'm slightly older, 21. some human beings nonetheless theory it replaced into particularly rapid for me although.
2016-12-13 15:15:43 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes it is rushing things, and you are way out of synch with reality. Date each other at LEAST a year, go through the sets of holidays and birthdays, dealing with each others' families, etc. Make sure things are settled from his first marriage, and you are okay with dealing with things like his kids, the financial stuff, etc. That takes time - to do a criminal background check, STD testing, etc.
2006-11-27 08:15:38 · answer #8 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely... 2 months? There's no way you have developed that deep inner love that is required for an engagement....
Fooling around does NOT equate to knowing each other's inner details, working through problems, figuring out what REALLY matters to each of you...
2006-11-27 06:59:18 · answer #9 · answered by jokesbyjen 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
my husband and i dated 2 months. we knew that we were going to be together for the rest of our lives so why wait? plus my parents got married after knowing each other for 3 months. they have been married for 25 years and i have no doubt that they will be together forever.
2006-11-27 07:30:31 · answer #10 · answered by jmd 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋