I'm 15 and haven't had a bf yet. I talk to some guys but I don't really have that many guy friends. Now I'm beginning to think there's something wrong with me. Is it because I don't have a zillion friends that no one wants to go out with me?
2006-11-27 06:53:28 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
well, its not written anywhere that You have to have a boy friend at 15, common gurl, you have so many things else in life, you are not incomplete without a bf!!! Go out with your girlfriends, have fun! see there are two ways to look at any situation, either the glass is half empty or half full, try to see life from another angle dearie!!!!!
Think it that way that........... The WAIT IS WORTH THE RIGHT GUY!!
Dont rush into things give it time, think about othet aspects of life like career, health, any extracurricular activities, for eg salsa dancing, who knows u might find the right guy there!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2006-11-27 06:59:28 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think that there's any set age where you are "required" to have a boyfriend. And many high school relationships that I witnessed in my 4 years of h.s. is that people get together just so they can say they have a boy/girlfriend.
Unless you find that you really are connecting with someone at your school, don't waste your time! I hung out with a group of 10 guys when I was in high school and never went out with any of them! Of course, I had wanted a boyfriend, but I figured the time probably wasn't right so I should just make friends and when the time came, it would happen. I had 1 boyfriend my whole highschool career and it was disatrous because I wanted on just to have one and the guy and I had never been friends. I think we both just wanted to have the status. We stayed friends, but realized that "going out" was probably a mistake.
Keep talking to whatever guys you are talking too. I have found in my 23 years of living that the best relationships occur when the guy and girl are friends first, so get to know these guys a little more! Develop your friendships first before worrying about anything romantic with a guy. They mature slower! Most guys in high school are still really immature anyways.
A guy isn't going to be interested in the zillion friends a girl might have. If a guy is interested, it's because he's interested in YOU and what you're about. If you're not involved in clubs already, get involved! It's the best way to meet new people and make new friends. Plus, it gives you a chance to scope out all the hot guys! ;)
Good luck!
2006-11-27 15:16:32 · answer #2 · answered by bosnjgal 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i didn't have a bf until I was 18, yea I got asked out but dating in middle in high school seemed like a waste of time. It could be that you don't have a zillion friends, popularity does help. But why would you want to waste you time on inmature guys at school? They are mostly all perverts at that age.
2006-11-27 14:59:21 · answer #3 · answered by sweet_girl 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There's nothing wrong with you :)
You might be intimidating to guys - but in a positive way. Girls with high self-esteem are far less likely to be an easy "casual" relationship. Boys at your age are more interested in what they can get from you than what you can create together (I should clarify: most boys that age).
Take your time. Don't lower your standards.
But if you really want to start dating - just casual dating - maybe work on doing "one on one" time with a particular guy you might be interested in. Is skating still a big pasttime for teens? Suggest that you guys go out on a Friday.
But most of all, be true to yourself. Do NOT let your desire to have a boyfriend override what's good for you. *Good* boyfriends won't pressure you to have sex, insist that you're weird for not doing it, tell you that if you loved him you'd give it to him - *Good* boyfriends respect you and the respect you have for yourself.
There's nothing wrong with you that I can see. You have a long life ahead of you and trust me - the boyfriends will come. Enjoy this time right now. Hugs :)
2006-11-27 14:59:19 · answer #4 · answered by tagi_65 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing wrong with you. Sometimes if a girl has lots of friends the guys think you might already have a bf even if you don't... You may appear as unapproachable or unobtainable.... just be patient and the right guy will come along.
2006-11-27 15:01:41 · answer #5 · answered by westfield47130 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
PLEASE take it easy. It is STUPID that everyone thinks they have to have a boyfriend/girlfriend at 12-14 years old. Plenty of people make it to 17 or even 20 before they really do.
All those girls who have boyfriend after boyfriend? Check on them in 15 years, when they have had 2 divorces, kids with 4 different guys, didn't finish high school, and are broke. Sound great? Yay!!!!
2006-11-27 15:03:59 · answer #6 · answered by fucose_man 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's ok i didn't have a girlfriend till i wuz 16 and that wuz a little immature. Just don't worry bout it. Things happen in due time. There's no real advise i can give you to say do this and that and a guy will show up at your front door with candles, poems, a guitar and a wonderful singing voice. Let time do it's work and you'll be fine. Have fun while ur young.
2006-11-27 14:57:39 · answer #7 · answered by Malicious Intent 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Is it b/c you're overweight? That's usually the case... you can be the UGLIEST, nastiest person in the world... but if you're overweight in your teens you're DOOMED.
Just ride it out... eventually you'll find the right guy.---and who cares? You're only 15! There's plenty of other things to take up your time than a pathetic and immature young guy.
2006-11-27 14:57:22 · answer #8 · answered by jokesbyjen 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
OK 1st there is nothing wrong with you! don't rush to have a boyfriend just enjoy your life and when the time is right the right guy will find you.
2006-11-27 14:57:34 · answer #9 · answered by Pookie 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i dont think that popularity has much to do with it, although it could have something to do with the reasons you are not popular. If you are a normal person, you will have a bf soon enough, just keep dating and hanging out and keep your options open and dont take things too seriously.
2006-11-27 14:56:39 · answer #10 · answered by tomhale138 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋