We fight so much! he is alwasy saying how i do not listen to him! but i do not think i should have too.... if i want to make a bad choice i should be able too! He tells me i cannot go to parties and whatever cause he doesnt like the people there i end up going cause i mean its my life! and i am still young and i want to go to things like that! he makes a big deal out of everything! i didnt hear him say he wanted two orders of something and he calls me stupid and a moron! if i new he said it i would have gotten him them! he also says that he thinks he is a higher power! which i obsolutly hate! he is no btter then anyone else! i get so aggravated ! i honetly probably cry once or twice a week...and its not like couple tears its like histerical crieing! why can i not get over this or get away! i know i should but whatver anyon says i always think i can change him! and it obvious that i cannot but i still keep trying... so is there anything i can do to not be so mad anymore at him?
2006-11-27 06:53:20 · 5 answers · asked by No 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
its just so sick! he talks to me like i am one of his friends! he was told so many times by not only his family but his friends too, not to talk to me the way he does! he thinks he has me on this leash! there are so many bad times its unreal! i cannot think of the good times anymore cause all the bad ones are over powering me! i just want to try this one last time! its almosst christmas and thangksgiving jusst passed and i just want to be in a healthy relationship without having to do everything on my own! i would love for him to change somethings! but he sems to think that its all my fault all the time! UGHH! so aggravateing!
2006-11-27 06:56:36 · update #1
this sounds like a bad relationship to be in. Honestly, just staying with him is only going to make it worse. The only time I've seen a guy change when it comes to some of the stuff you mention, is when the girl leaves.
You should not be in a relationship that makes you cry so much and tourments you so deeply.
2006-11-27 07:08:22 · answer #1 · answered by psykochatter 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well unless you want to stop being a woman.....but since you happen to be a woman then you deserve respect....somehow those feelings you once felt seem to be missing and in their place there is resentment, frustrations, and anger.
The only way that relationships last is because at the end of the day you want to see that person again the next day. If you can tell yourself at the end of the day that you had a great time with him and you want to see him again then it will last. But if you hold on to a feeling in the past that doesn't come again you will eventually loose your grip.
He doesn't realize that he is asking you to be someone else. He wants you to be his "alabaster girl". This notion of a ideal woman who by his standards is perfect. I have news for him....he will never find her. No matter how hard you try you will never be her. If he can get past his pride and insecurities and see and discover the beauty inside of you then he will learn to love you and respect you. Those feelings will come back again.
2006-11-27 15:06:23 · answer #2 · answered by giovanni g 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
honestly he is being verbal abusive to u and thats not cool at all. he shouldnt be calling u the names and being mean to u.. u need to just get out and stay out.. no turning back. U dont need a man like that or can u even say he is a man.. just a childish boy..... Im only saying this cause i was in a relationship with the same problem..
please be careful in what u decide on doing..
god bless u
happy holidays to you
2006-11-27 14:56:51 · answer #3 · answered by blue eyes 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave him so that you wont be near him...and grow up a little. Relationships are about relating...not controlling or being self centered...and it sounds like you are BOTH good at those...hell...maybe you're good for each other!!
2006-11-27 14:56:36 · answer #4 · answered by pppersephone06 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why don't you listen to him?
or bring him with you so he can see why you always want to go
2006-11-27 14:55:52 · answer #5 · answered by drtgirlz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋