We were asked to host Thanksgiving at our house since I had 34 people over last year told them it was someone else's turn this year, first we were going to an aunt and uncles home then because no one wanted to bring covered dishes it was decided by others to go to a resterant a very expensive resterant, the kind that prices aren't on the menu. We are the only ones with children and there was no children's menu so my children ordered from the menu as did every one else. We are being asked for money to pay for the meals they ate plus drinks and tip 74.20. We were then told that no one knew there would be children there and that we should have gotten a baby sitter for thanksgiving dinner. My father in-law paid for the meal including 3 boyfriends/girlfriend of my sister in laws and bother inlaw. I asked if the boyfriends and girlfriend would be asked to pay for thier food too and I got laughed at and told how rude that would be.
2006-11-27 06:48:10 · 8 answers · asked by Rainy 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
That is unbelievable! Who has thanksgiving dinner without their kids!!!!!!!
It is nice that the father-in-law paid for all the adults but still!
I would pay it and make a point of being "busy" for any future Thanksgivings. You could volunteer at a local shelter or just have a quiet dinner at home for your kids and friends who don't have family in the area.
2006-11-27 07:02:52 · answer #1 · answered by haganmom 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would say that you need to stand some ground with what you feel is best to do for Thanksgiving, or any holiday at that! A family that treats you like that, is a family that needs a wake up call. You should have the person who came up with the idea to pay for the food and the drinks. Or, if you are the one ending up with the bill, then make note ahead of time that you can't afford all the meals and opt out of the situation. Do not go to a family gathering if there are stipulations on who can go.
2006-11-27 07:00:41 · answer #2 · answered by chickxfile 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That was very rude of them to make that decision without discussing it with everyone. Unfortunately, I guess it was your responsibility to pay for your own kids, while I think it would have been nice for the father in law to pay. Next year, speak up and make sure they know your children should be included. It was Thanksgiving and your children deserved to be there as much as anyone else. If the family makes big plans that you don't agree with...start a new family tradition of your own and have your own family dinner.
2006-11-27 06:52:57 · answer #3 · answered by vanhammer 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If ya'll are going out for thanksgiving. SOmebody should have the money to pay for it , or else:
Make one large Turkey $30 maybe
potatoes with butter $7 maybe
some veggies $7 maybe
total $44 ......... feeds as many as it has to, invite neighbors too if they are lonely and have no place to go
ask people to bring something if they can and want to
you should pay the bill and not go next time
invite them over instead
2006-11-27 06:54:26 · answer #4 · answered by kurticus1024 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
thats just not right how your family did u on the holiday like that. Why would u want to pawn your kids off on someone else during the holidays anyways.. thats rude.. they knew u had children..duh!!!!! May be rude and im sorry but i would tell them to kiss my a s s.. thats just not fair.. they think of only themselves.. i have family like that.. happy holidays to u
2006-11-27 06:53:17 · answer #5 · answered by blue eyes 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-13 05:26:43 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
While it was rude of your FIL they are your kids, why wouldn't you pay? Of course you have to pay for it, just like every other thing in life. If you didn't want to do that you should not have gone.
2006-11-27 06:59:03 · answer #7 · answered by musicpanther67 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
were you told ABOUT THIS IN ADVANce then pay i guess...more than a dozen to me is insane
2006-11-27 07:20:39 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋