my ex of 4 years broke up with me 2 weeks ago and contacted me twice and i meet for drink she said it's over but want's to see what happens if we can start again she has very low conferdence but is also strong she broke up with me because she has just turned 21 and wants to have her space but does not want a relationship we have had ups and downs never shouted at each other she chased me but this time she cant cope with our problem whice is she works to much i dont mind i dont have much of social life so im there when she is in but she always has something 2 do will never relax just for 1 min but when i saw her she gave me a hug tryed to show she is fine but i could tell shes not shes on anti-deppressents for her anarexica whice i have helped her with so much and have come home find her in a pool of blood not to kill herself but to cut her legs stomach arms that she hates but i love her and want her in my life but she does no what she wants but has never been nasty to me any help!!!!!
2006-11-27 06:45:21 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I don't know whether by 'ex' you meant ex-wife or ex-girl friend. Personally, if you both love each other, her calling you back may be a second chance opportunity for a better relationship between both of you.
Sometimes people may not know what they have until they loose it. If a person lets a bird loose or even if its the bird that lets itself loose but keeps coming back to the owner, it may mean that the birds home belongs there.
Both of you can learn how to spent quality times together. Go out and do something fun, be creative and always remind her how much you love her. This is just a subjective opinion which in itself may not necesarily address your concern but I hope it can help. If you have faith belief, you can express it together, sometimes, we don't even think about it.
2006-11-27 07:13:05 · answer #1 · answered by Melody 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, Hopefully she is getting some professional help for the anorexia, and the cutting. If she is not, then you need to help her get help. There is no room in her life for a relationship with you right now. But you can be her friend and try to help her through this. Then maybe she will have the strength to work on a relationship. But she really needs to focus on her problems and take care of herself right now. If you love her, then do not take no for an answer. Help her get professional help before it's too late.
2006-11-27 14:52:32 · answer #2 · answered by vickie m 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd say you have a hard situation on your hands. Try to do the friendship thing for a while. you know be there for her and everything, but don't push the dating issue. it sounds like ya'll have really been through a lot together. so give her a little space, but still be there for her. then see where that takes you. hope maybe that helps a little.
2006-11-27 14:54:15 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your ex might be regretting that she broke up with you. After all you were the rock that she depended on at her time of need. She may have broken up with you because she found herself becoming to depent. Meaning, she is dependent on you too much, especially emtionally. Yes i know you have been together for 4 years. There is danger when some one becomes to dependent , they then do not feel secure in themself that they are able to make decisions for themselves...and are always going to have to depend on some one. You have to realize that you can not fix her problems she has to get help for herself, get her family involve. She loves you. She just need time to stand on her own two feet, it isn't anything on your part. sometimes all we can do is watch.
2006-11-27 14:56:44 · answer #4 · answered by naomijoan0615 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At the age of 21, many are still inmature when come to talk about boy & girls relationship. As to your gal, she is going through emotional insecurity. She needs someone to share comforts and provide her security. You can do it. Friend, go ahead and assist her!!! She needs you.
2006-11-27 19:35:40 · answer #5 · answered by AH HA 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You sound like you really want to be with her. She doesn't sound very "together" Problems now will only escalate. Best to separate yourself from the situation. Hard to do though.
2006-11-27 14:50:10 · answer #6 · answered by Snuffy Smith 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As cruel as it sounds..........it's not your problem she broke up with you. You have helped her all you can . She needs professional help and you need to move on...good luck.
2006-11-27 14:49:30 · answer #7 · answered by Sherry Baby ( Ethan's Mama ) 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to leave this girl alone she has issues.
2006-11-27 14:48:44 · answer #8 · answered by Venus 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋