Is my husband lazy?

Question

My husband never does anything around the house without me asking him to do it. All he wants to do is sit around and play video games or play on the computer, oh he also likes to lay on the couch all day watching movies. And any time he does to something he says things like" yes'm" or "yes Master" like I'm some sort of slave driver. It really pisses me off. He can just lay there while the house looks like a pig sty, it doesn't bother him. And when ever I ask him to please do something nicely he says "ok I'll do it in just a minute." it never gets done, and finally after asking him nicely for about a week straight, I get pissed off and start yelling at him to do it. Then stuff gets done. Then he wants to say that I'm being a nag. But he forces me to yell at him cause thats the only time he'll move. Then he'll take 3 hrs to do something that only takes 30mins. What should I do about this issue with my man?? By the way yes I am angry!

Answer 1

sounds like my husband. if he doesnt do the stuff right away just dont nag him about it you wont get a reponse.what you do is you do your stuff.like just do your laundry and when hes tired of no clothes to wear maybe he'll start doing laundry.also maybe make a list of things you both can do.then talk to him without sound naggy and tell him you need his help around the house because you cant do everything and itd be nice if he spent some time with you either.if this guy is seriously lazy and just wont do a damn thing with you then you might wanna leave him.because he might feel that you should do everything and wait on him which is not true.

Answer 2

Thats a tuff situation but keep in mind that hes a man. Men do have the tendency to be sloppy and lazy but it also goes back on how he was raised. If he was raised where his mom did everything for him and he practically did nothing than chances are that hes not used to it so you will have to get him used to it but that takes lots of time, patience and communication but if he wasnt raised that way than he has no excuse! Sit down and have a talk with him. Explain to him that you need his support and that it would help if he did things with you. If he loves you and respects you then it shouldnt be a problem. If hes just plain lazy and just doesnt want to do it then as much as it hurts...try not doing anything for him at all for a few days and see how it goes. Let him know that he also needs to do things around the house, not just you. Dont cook and see what his reaction is to that and if nothing works all i can suggest is some therapy but that all depends on how far you are willing to go to get him to help out. You should also check out lovingyou.com.

Answer 3

Sounds like a time warp. I have this issue (without the sarcasm) and realized that he wants all the comforts of a stay-at-home wife with a paycheck! It can be annoying but I did my pro/con list and decided that it was something I can live with. I have a working friend who has the same problem BUT he jumps all over her when something isn't done to his standards. For example, dust on the TV!! At least my DH doesn't care or get upset if I don't feel like doing the dishes and leave them for the next day!!

Answer 4

There is nothing you can do, I deal with this everyday of my life and I have learned if you really want it done and the right way you must do it yourself. Like the saying goes, "Never send a man to do a woman's job", and yes it is true. It doesn't matter how many times you tell him he will forget and you might as well do it and save your breath, just will hold sex for a few weeks he then should get the picture. Good Luck!

Answer 5

come on. he sure has you fooled. a man knows he has to work. do you have kids with him, oh god i hope not. if you do not, give him a big boy grown up goal of getting a job by next friday or you are out. you can do better than this. i would not stand for that for one week, much less one year. you have put up with this and have made it worse by not insisting. but, thats just me. and now that you have written more..... you are a fool to stay one more day with this guy. you are growing up and taking over for a guy who fails a drug test, i knew !!! there were drugs involved. he is not depressed, he is just who he is. he will find someone else after you, just like he had before you. run. i am telliing you. you are literally wasting your time here. but if that is your kind of scene, it is up to you. action, not complaining. get some distance from him. like i said, this is something i would have not put with for a week,, but you have made this your lifestyle and thats fine with him. you are 21? take it as a learning experience, you have grown up now with him and are learning that some men never do. he does not care, so why in the world do you? youj think you are gonna change him? you are not. only change yourself, and your address, hahah!!!!

Answer 6

yeah he is lazy, try new things that turn his attention away from that video game. have the house spotless one day and just leave him there go out and party with friends to get your mind off of it the less attention you give him the more he will see that your not wanting to be in his life and if he still doesnt respond get out for good and tell him to grow up and be a man.

Answer 7

You should do what my ex-wife used to do...withhold sex...after about two months of that, I dumped the ***** and found a real woman who was worthy of me...now I do everything around the house without being asked.

It's really great not having a nagging ***** around anymore.

Answer 8

Yes, I think he is lazy but if he won't change your only options are to (1) put up with it or (2) see a lawyer to get a divorce. Personally, I'd be choosing option 2.

Answer 9

i had a boyfriend like that once.... the thing that worked for me was that when i cleaned his crap, i started putting it into his shoes, and other things that he valued; his videos, anything lying about that was his, i put in the bin, or outside, depending on my mood.... he kinda got the message, i didnt argue, or nag, just did it................ my boyfriend is better now, not perfect but he definitely gets a move on when he sees me coming with the pan and brush

Answer 10

I have been married for 27 years, and have sung this song many times. I told my daughter that even a good man is still a damn man! I am beginning to think this is normal for all men. It wouldn't be bad if we didn't have full time jobs, too. If you figure out how to fix the problem, please let me know. I'm still trying to figure it out.