Why is she being like this?Serious answers only pls....Read all....Advice?

Question

I got too close to my female friend and I told her I had feelings for her. She decided it wud be best to remain friends.Also said:

1) "I can't imagine you not being in\a part of my life" MEANING???
2)"I don't deserve your feelings"? MEANING???

Positive or negative comments? Significant?

I then told her a few weeks later that I needed some time away from her and she DISAGREED\WAS RUDE TOWARDS ME as a result---does it mean anything???Why?

She said friends don’t take time apart from each other,that I should get a 1)“grip”, for me to 2)“sort my head out” and to stop causing this 3)“conflict”---MEANING?

My reason was that she was behaving odd towards me and I thought it best we have some time apart.Especially for me to get over my feelings.

Have said I value our friendship and I mean that.

Advice?

p.s.she don't like talking about it.

Its like she doesn't want me,but doesn't want anyone else to have me.(she gets jealous when I mention other girls)

What should I do???

Answer 1

I THINK SHE TOTALLY LIKES YOU! That's what happened to me a like a year ago! I was in love with my best friend and I told him the same thing when he acted on it, the truth was I liked him, HUGE CRUSH or love; I don't know then as I saw he wouldn't give up I decided to be as bold as he was and gave the relationship a try and it was great! We both moved to different cities, but it was great while it lasted.
I think she likes man! and if she won't come around the forget the whole thing because it's not fair for you to be after someone you love with all those feelings and she's in a whole different attitude towards you, if it's not going to grow then I'm sorry but move on. Look things can't go back to what tehy were tell her that because if that's what she's expecting then her dream won't come true.

Answer 2

Sorry to say this about your friend, but she's confused. The remaining friends part is probably the best thing to do because friendships last a lot longer than relationships. The reason why she says she couldn't imagine you not in her life or a part of her life is because she KNOWS her relationships all end up down the drain. You're her friend, you should already know that. When she says she doesn't deserve your feelings, she knows you would be perfect for someone else, just not for her. What you are doing is making your female friend uneasy. She's used to being just friends and these sudden feelings are throwing her off her guard. My advice to you is to keep your personal business personal until you and your friend figure out your boundaries.

Answer 3

i think that you missed something somewhere and now she's going wacko. just give it a miss, if she meant anything to you at all you would. and by the way friends do take time apart from each other, what is really going on? crazy dude, what are you covering up? r u two having an affair and she showing u the ropes? i agree with someone else, she really is insensitive. tell her she's crazy, that that was exactly what u said and she said no, tell her Ur not listening to me and stuff, then leave... ur getting way to personal for just friends and i think it's best that u call it a day. it sounds like she's got her own music on and she ain't pressing pause. ask her whats up then as us our advice.

Answer 4

1.......she really does want you around
2........usually a euphemism for"i dont fancy you though'
positive as she really does like you though
sort your head out-aaaagh she wants to turn back time and have things the way they were without you having said you felt more than friendship-it does compicate things as she now will wonder whether you want more always from her than platonic friendship.....
the jealousy is interesting though
heres the thing it is not without risk though
do make an effort to see other friends including potential girl-friends
a lot more,stay clear of your ff for a while longer-be cheery and bright and say you have a lot on make arrangements to see her for lunch-daytime always better,less date-like,have lots of chat,be fun and groovy!keep making arrangements to see your other friends and maybe a potential gf will become a real gf!kissy for xmas may come about with ff and if she is mad and jealous over new gf then innocently proclaim that she wasnt interested and that you want to be friends....you will be able to judge by her reaction if she really wants to be friends or more.....
oooooooooooh-good luck

Answer 5

It sounds like you caught her off guard and now she is worried that your feelings will cause this friendship to end. Rightfully so I imagine because once that genie is out of the bottle, how do you put it back? She sounds defensive and probably just wants it to go back to the way it was.

Answer 6

I would have serious thoughts about were this "friendship" is going. She seems very clingy and possessive.
I would take a break away from her and see what the outcome is. She seems to be very insecure and putting the onus on you to sort things out when it should be her.

Answer 7

I think it sounds like she enjoys having your attention without having to have the commitment to you.
A true friend would want you to work out your feelings and not get angry about the time that you need for yourself.

Answer 8

when i go home, people will say "hey you, why did you do all that stuff man, you some kind of war junkie" and i wont say a god damn word, because they wont understand why we do it because its all about the men next to ya, and they wont understand what thats like. and theres men still out there so im goin back in.
no dont come, im better on my own anyway!

Answer 9

wow, she sounds like an insensitive b-i-t-c-h. Glad you didn't really get involved with her because she would have ripped your sweet heart to shreds.

And she's right, doesn't deserve your feelings. She isn't worthy of someone like yourself.

Answer 10

A red warm blanket. Yes.