I've been good freinds with a guy who for a while.
I saw him a while ago and he kissed me - we spent the evening at the pub, he kissed me and we cuddled and held hands alot. Was all very nice. Spoke about it a few days later, and he said that he didn't think there could be an 'us'. I asked him to explain, and he said he just couldn't let himself think about me in that way. Fair enough, I left it at that, thought no more of it. Went out a week or so later together, went for a coffee and a walk - he kissed me again. When we spoke about it a few days later, he said he liked me, but didn't think it was the right time for us - we are both going through a hard time. I've met a new chap - and I told him that I've got a 'date' with him soon. He was a bit funny about this, so asked him what was wrong, and he admitted that it upset him. I said to him that he either wants me orhe doesn't. I then jokingly said he never answered my question about wether he fancied me or not.
2006-11-27 06:37:14 · 9 answers · asked by Beauty 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He then answered "yes and no".
Hmmm, things were a bit akward after that, not sure what to do.
Why could he be behaving like this?
2006-11-27 06:37:27 · update #1
Just to clarify a few things :)
We have spoken at great length, but he just gives excuses - mainly, he thinks that now isn't a good time for us - I'm not very well, and he has just been made redundant.
He says he doesn't think he can give me the commitment that I want, but I told him that I don't want any commitment from him, just an idea what it is he wants, and if he wants there to be an 'us'.
I kissed him back.
I like this other chap, but we've never 'dated'. I don't usually date people at the same time, but I'm not really dating this guy am I!
I don't want to wait around forever if there is no hope.
2006-11-27 06:46:40 · update #2
he's very confused, possibly worrying about losing a mate if things turn out wrong. maybe he needs to realise that he's losing a mate anyway so it's better to try to turn mate into soulmate and it possibly go wrong rather than miss that chance. who's to say that it's going to go wrong. i think he needs to be honest with you about how he feels and get it out in the open, that way you can both decide how to progress the issue, maybe take things very slowly.
2006-11-27 07:27:59 · answer #1 · answered by Hot British Guy 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it's just too much effort and as you said complicated so try the other bloke on 4 size as you on a roll with male attention and you may have a great time which is the point of dating...the first bloke in a strange place and will come out of his confusion once he's got a few quid in his pocket and you may get together at a later date...seize the day as life 2 short to be waiting 4 confused blokes to make up their minds
2006-11-27 07:59:58 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
he sounds like he could be a bit scared, he must fancy you or else why kiss and cuddle you etc? i think he wants the physical side but cant cope with making a fixed commitment from the sound of it, but doesnt want anyone else to have you either
2006-11-27 06:41:17 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well its obvious that he has feelings for you, but you both need to grow up and tell each other how you feel. And in the story you kept saying he kissed you, Did u kiss him back. And if you like hyim why date someone else.
2006-11-27 06:41:29 · answer #4 · answered by caddy12_99_99 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he's got a few women on the go already and can't decide on which one. Probably why he thought he didn't think there could be an 'us'
2006-11-27 07:25:19 · answer #5 · answered by Razor 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Either he's gay or he doesn't want to rush things. You're moving too fast, girl.
2006-11-27 06:41:00 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
He seems very immature to me.
2006-11-27 06:43:02 · answer #7 · answered by Pat R 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
simple, if you have a date and he was to late to get you then it's his fault not yours
2006-11-27 06:40:13 · answer #8 · answered by Kemodo 344™ 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
he is confused
2006-11-27 06:39:59 · answer #9 · answered by Eyes of Green 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋