Okay...I have this boyfriend n we have been together for almost 2 years now. I love him but he knows that I am into girls also but I have never actually done it at least not while ive been with him. And I have just recently met this gurl and we have been talking over the internet and shes great n I would like to meet her n further our friendship. My boyfriend has never had a problem with my curiousity until now. He tells me that he never new that I was actually serious, but why would I play around like that. I want to do this for a reason becuz i want to figure out what i really want in my life and I thought he would be supportive but hes not! He thinks that I am going to fall in love with this girl n thats not the case. I like girls but I wouldnt date a girl.I want to marry a man n have kids n etc but I need to figure my sexuality out. But its like he doesnt accept it but if he wants to b with me 4va den ima end up neva doin it cuz he dont accept it or like it and i cant do that...
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2 days ago
Im really confused about what i should do! I want to b supported not put down about the way I am or how I wanna be. I have tried to control these urges but I feel like this feeling is uncontrollable! I mean I dont think every girl is see is sexy or nething u no? I want to be normal so bad but it just seems not to work everytime I try. None of my friends know that I am bisexual but I told my boyfriend out of all ppl becuz I thought I would be able to trust him n he wuld understand but he doesnt understand and now i feel like i cant trust to tell him anything about the way i feel. I really really need to figure my self out but he will not allow me to experiment n spread while I am with him and its not like I want my cake n to eat it too. Its just I dont want to break up n talk to her for it just to b a phase or to stay with him n have it fall apart...
2 days ago
And im not sick n im not retarded. I have had these feelings for a long time now and I have finally found someone that can relate to me and has gone thru the same things I am now. She is just another person to talk to about the way I feel. I need to do this but he makes it so hard becuz he doesnt like it. I mean he likes it but he doesnt want me to turn complete lesbian like leave him for another chick and fall out of love with him n in love with a girl u no but i wont do that i just basically want to fulfill my desires n get rid of my curiousity.
2006-11-27 06:33:29 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You have to do whatever you feel is necessary but don't expect your boyfriend to ok with it. It is unfair to even ask him to be ok with your experiemnting. Should he just wait for you only to be told you like girls better. Break up with him. Figure out what you want out of life. Then look for someone who shares your view. If he is still there and you still want him then you can try to make things work.
2006-11-27 06:36:50 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You want to have your cake and eat it to. No man is going to support this behaviour, it goes against ever thing they feel, if you need to find your sexuality, do so but do not expect a man to understand what you are doing or you needs, To most people what you are asking is going against nature, I believe that to each their own, but do not look for support from a partner , if you were with a girl would you be fine if she had a boy friend. It just doesn't work that way
2006-11-27 06:40:26 · answer #2 · answered by rkilburn410 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-07 21:05:50 · answer #3 · answered by Erika 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its very clear that you are confused about your sexuality. I personally ONLY support HETEROSEXUALITY, but who in your heart do you really love. Go for what your heart desires. You are not alone in the way you feel. I've answered this question many times before. Trust me. Love who you really love, and be true to yourself. If this happens to be just a phase, at least you'll have learned a lot as a result! Good luck!
2006-11-27 06:40:23 · answer #4 · answered by 09 _ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to choose. It's not fair to him for you to be doing this while you are with him if he doesn't support it. Just because it's a woman doesn't make it any easier on him. What if things were turned around and he thought he might be interested in men. Would you let him explore that? Wouldn't it make you feel like you weren't enough for him? Wouldn't you be afraid he might like men better and leave you?
The only thing I can suggest is either break up with him so you can fully explore who you are. Or if it's a sexual thing for you see if he might be interested in having a threesome with another woman. That could very well backfire on you though.
2006-11-27 06:45:15 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
u shoud not be true to every one only for u so procced in ur way otherwise u lose concentration and its nothing wrong with u its nature so start a new episode,if udont want to betray ur friend ucan maintain double life(),but it wont be a long time success,he wont support u forever u can trust me in this case,u will face the fact latter(it depends on ur age,mind set etc.....).so choose ur own way have a nice day
2006-11-27 06:51:24 · answer #6 · answered by thiru k 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should do what you want. If he cannot accept you for who you are then move on. Most guys would be VERY turned on if their woman was Bi. I would. But then it might lead him to think that you will share someday and let join in.
Anyway. If it is what you want and he is not into it, move on. I wish sometimes that I didn't compromise.
2006-11-27 06:38:43 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'm afraid there is no easy answer to your question because it is so complicated. my suggestion is to continute to be honest with your boyfriend (as hard as that may seem) and do what makes you happy, even if it means breaking some hearts. you owe it to yourself to make yourself happy, so do what you think is right and everyone around you will eventually understand.
2006-11-27 06:37:54 · answer #8 · answered by kid awesome 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just go with what makes you happy, you will feel better about yourself in the long run. Do not hide who you truly are.
2006-11-27 06:36:20 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
--Just because you wanna find out if you are Bi, Les, Straight whatever, dont give you the right to sleep with someone else! same sex or not, it aint fair on him!--
You wanna find out, leave this boy so he cant get hurt by you cheating on him!
2006-11-27 06:38:39 · answer #10 · answered by Fader's Girl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋