i really love my bf a lot, it's a long distance relationship but thats not a real problem as we practically chat over the phone everyday, or either email or text.
we've been together for a year now, and i wanna marry him, but i don't know how to tell him.he's jus got a new house and job and has been saying he's been stressed lately which is understandable,
but i really wanna marry, ok not straight away but get engaged, he's got a lot going on at the moment,
should i wait until things go into place in his life properly and then tell him how i feel?
2006-11-27 06:29:26 · 26 answers · asked by DaRkAnGeL 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
iyes i have meet him for those who think it's only chatting over phone, mail etc, i was jus saying, even though we might not get to see eachother as much as we want, we make sure that the communication is good in the relationship
2006-11-27 06:45:11 · update #1
yes i have meet him for those who think it's only chatting over phone, mail etc, i was jus saying, even though we might not get to see eachother as much as we want, we make sure that the communication is good in the relationship
2006-11-27 06:45:16 · update #2
If he has that much going on I would definitley give him some space. I'm sure he needs to get his bearings, but just be there for him. Personally I would want him to ask me because he wants to, not because I pressure him into it. If it's meant to be it will happen with time. Be patient girl, he'll come around and realize you've been his rock if you stand by him through what he's doing.
2006-11-27 06:33:27 · answer #1 · answered by Christina C 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you wanna go ahead with it, then yes I would wait till he is settled in. On the other hand, long-distance relationships don't tell the whole story. I mean, I would want to be close by and seeing the person in real life situations before I would think about marrying.
2006-11-27 06:36:39 · answer #2 · answered by seek_fulfill 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well I was in a long distance relationship and my bf was also stressed,because of work, college and moving into his new apartment. But he was also stressed because I was not there with him. If he loves you as much as you love him he probably also wishes you were there. But I would talk to him about his feelings for you. I know I wanted my bf to ask me to marry him and about 2 months later he did and now I live with him. And by me living with him I can help him with his homework and make his stress less just by being there for him. I don't know how your relationship is, but if he feels the same way he should ask you. But only until he is ready.
2006-11-27 06:39:49 · answer #3 · answered by sweet_girl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
have you ever seen this guy or spent time with him, there's more to a relationship to talking etc
I'm in a long distance relationship which is not working as i do all the planning to be seen as he's stressed with things so its up too you but you need more from a guy than just phoning etc to know you love him, its how he treats you on a date or away for a weekend before you can decide how you both feel.
2006-11-27 06:36:58 · answer #4 · answered by AARONLEE AND SASHA 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that u should talk to him. And let him know how u feel and that u really love him and want to get married. and if he loves u the same way he will marry u or ask u to wait until he’s life gets better cuz he just moved and got a new job. Wish u good luck.
2006-11-27 06:45:25 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk about it, if you have been with him for a year now then the lines of communication should be wide open. Unless you have developed mind reading as a skill you need to tell him how you feel and pick his brain on what he is wanting and go from there.
2006-11-27 06:35:15 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I would be patient and wait for him to settle in. I think by mentioning that he's stressed right now he is sending out a kind of message that he can't take on board anything else at the moment. Your proposal would certainly be a lot of additional stuff to take on!
2006-11-27 06:33:40 · answer #7 · answered by Warm Breeze 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why not go and stay with him for a bit, u need to find out if u can make a life where he his living. u need more than a man in ur life!!!
It sounds very sweet but a little nieve sorry!
Talk to him about what u want, u could both decide where u both want the relationship to go.
Good luck
2006-11-27 06:35:37 · answer #8 · answered by sammyantha 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have the two of you ever discussed the future? I would start by discussing possibly moving to the same zip code before discussing marriage. Try first discussing where the two of you see yourselves in the future. I would not tell him that you want to get engaged...let him know you see a future with him, but don't pressure him for a ring.
2006-11-27 06:36:37 · answer #9 · answered by skittle 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it is very different having a long distance relationship and a relationship with him by your side. Are you sure he's the love of your life? If he is, then tell him exactly how you feel.
2006-11-27 06:41:06 · answer #10 · answered by 1love 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋