2006-11-27 06:24:07 · 27 answers · asked by flavorlicious 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
you have seen this person repetively....... you dont want to cheat ... but in your mind you know its time to kick your original girlfriend to the curve.....
2006-11-27 06:25:13 · update #1
No i wouldn't..real love isn't about beauty/physical stuff.beauty will always fade but real friendship remains timeless
2006-11-27 06:33:14 · answer #1 · answered by nokunna 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well, first of all, would you be "kicking him or her to the curb" even if this other person hadn't come along? If not, ask yourself why not. If it's because you are just afraid to be alone or you don't want to deal with the drama then for both of you find a kind and mature way to tell him or her that it's time to end things. Otherwise, do you believe things with your current b/f or g/f are repairable? If so, remember that 'ol "grass is always greener" proverb. It may not be wise to break up with them and then jump right into something with another person. For starters, there will ALWAYS be someone else prettier, smarter, richer, etc., no matter WHO you are with - it is the things you found so great in the beginning and the qualities about this particular person that make them "the" one for you (or not). Finally, even if you end your current relationship you should not jump into another one right away. Take some time for yourself - rediscover your likes, dreams, favorite activities, and friends. A rebound relationship will just disappoint and break hearts (and wallets) in the end. Hope this helps a bit.
2006-11-27 06:38:01 · answer #2 · answered by Megan R 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The grass is always greener on the other side of the fence.
Depending on the length of time you are with your current gf/bf, you'll see tendancies that they have that you may not like. (S)he may do things that you don't approve of, maybe you've had a few arguments. Regardless, the excitement of a new relationship is gone.
Here comes Ms Betty Boop / Mr Big, flashing her/his smile at you, wiggling her/his butt, winking at you. Things look good, things look rosy (expecially compared to the old lady/man). But what do you really know about this person? What's their personality like? What are their habits? What do they like to do?
When meeting someone new, everything is fresh and exciting. When in a relationship for a while, everything is familiar and somewhat boring. But it's also comfortable and re-assuring. If you're not having issues with your current mate, then stick it through. If you're having problems, try to work them out or move on. But don't go just because this new person is more attractive. (S)he may be, but only until you get to know them better.
2006-11-27 06:36:22 · answer #3 · answered by tipper 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if you feel that your current relationship has run it's course, then by all means, you should end it. That alone, should have nothing to do with the new person you've met. If you've only felt that your current relationship is over since you've met this person, you might want to think about it and talk it over with somoene that you can confide in (a third party). They say the grass is always greener on the other side of the fence.
Back to the original point... if you're not happy in a relationship, there is no point in staying in it. It will just make things worse in the end.
2006-11-27 06:31:28 · answer #4 · answered by psykochatter 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Good question, they always say that you should go with your heart. I say go with your heart and mind.
Always going for the best is a good thing, but you have to remember that you never really know a person until a decent amount of time of being with them happens, the new girl might be good now, but in the end she may be worse than you thought.
If the girl you have is a good girl, and you feel that she is right for you (maybe not your first choice) but still the one that holds ur heart... stick by her, its what a commitment is about.
On the other hand if you don't care about long term or her heart, dump her easy and upgrade. Life is short enjoy it.
2006-11-27 06:50:32 · answer #5 · answered by Steve 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would not leave my girlfriend in a heartbeat as this is not an honorable thing to do. Rather, i would let it fade out in its own due course of time (maybe expedite it a little, but not immediately), and then go from there. I do have to maintain a level of gentlemanlikeness, as i have a vow to my girlfriend that i must maintain (even if it is time to kick her to the curb), and maintain i shall, until it is no longer reasonable or a good feeling to stay with her. In short: no i would not leave my girlfriend in a heartbeat as there is no honor in this at all.
2006-11-27 06:28:13 · answer #6 · answered by pilotmanitalia 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I believe that everything happens for a reason. It depends on the situation. If I am not compatible with the person that I am with then why are we still together?? People come into our lives for a reason. You need to be honest with yourself.. Let's say what if you do leave your GF to be with this new person, and what if you meet someone else are you going to end this new relationship to start a new one. Maybe you should ask yourself what ti is that you are really looking for before hurting anyone else.
2006-11-27 06:35:23 · answer #7 · answered by Melissa 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For one thing it is curb, not "curve" and for another do you know what the phrase means? You are saying you want to treat her like trash. Is she trash! You must not love her. You need to move along so she can find someone that is more "compatible" to her. Remember the grass isnt always greener on the other side. Good luck!
2006-11-27 06:33:46 · answer #8 · answered by runzwsizorz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hell no! my bf is the greatest person for me. to me he's the most attractive and most compatible. he know's all my hopes and dreams, my fears and bad habits. i wouldn't change anything in our relationship. and if someone came along that appears better than my man, i'd let it pass on by. i wouldn't want to lose the past 4 years of my life and start over with someone new. my bf and i don't know everything about each other, but that's the fun. taking years to understand someone. why would i throw all that away and start from scratch again?
2006-11-27 06:28:25 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is one of those things where you think that the grass would be greener on the other side. You probably won't know until you act on it, but then again do you really think that you will be happier with being with that other woman. They always say that hind sight is 20-20, but you will either be danged if you do or danged if you don't.
2006-11-27 06:32:07 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
well it depends
if i really love my gf and its obvious its just a thing and will go
i wouldnt do anything
but if i realise that i am not inlove wit my partner
and just remain in the relationship not to give them hear break
then thats not a good thing
because on the long term it will hurt even more
so it depends as i said
2006-11-27 06:38:31 · answer #11 · answered by alexandre 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋