My husband and I have been married now for going on 3 yrs. We never got to have a wedding ceremony do to lack of finances and such. I just want to know what your opinion would be of someone having a wedding ceremony after they are already married. Because I still would like to have my daddy walk me down the isle. And I'm never getting divorced so he can't do it in my next marriage. Any Ideas or comments?
2006-11-27 06:23:52 · 15 answers · asked by mandy b 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
I don't want to do it for the gifts. I just want to have the ceremony and the wedding pictures. Know what I mean? We recieved gifts 3 yrs ago when we got married. So I would even specifically put on the invites "No gifts nessasary" Know what I mean?
2006-11-27 06:33:11 · update #1
I was thinking about doing it for our 15th anniversary. I just got to thinking about it..and was wondering what others thought
2006-11-27 06:34:05 · update #2
Sure you can do it!! it's a renewal of vows ceremony, and it's a lot like a regular wedding ceremony!! my sister in law and her husband are doing that, since his family couldn't come to the wedding they had here in the states, so they are having a bigger, fancier ceremony in Poland with his family and everyone who can is going over. it's perfectly acceptable!
2006-11-27 11:18:00 · answer #1 · answered by Duelen 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi. I'm sorry, but you cannot have a "wedding." You are already married. You can have a renewal of vows ceremony and an anniversary party (or whatever kind of party you want to call it.) But, unfortunately, your wedding has come and gone. No sense trying to get back what is gone. For the renewal of vows: ~ have a nice dress (not a wedding dress) ~ have your hubby dress up ~ you can have it in a church if you want ~ you can have it at any other location too! ~ you do not have to have a pastor/priest/minister (unless you want to), or even a legal officiant as you are already legally married. This is more of a symbolic ceremony. Yes, have a party so the families can meet, but it cannot be a wedding.
2016-05-23 12:34:08 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This would be fine but, call it a Renewal of Vows. People will understand the difference and not think of it as a gift grab.
It is also a great idea many marriages end in divorce now so why not celebrate a good one. I would suggest doing it sooner than 15 years like maybe at 10 years as lots of marriages don't make it that long 10 years is forever the way people stay married now. I also would hate for you to miss out on having your dad walk you down the aisle and I learned this year with my Aunts passing that unexpected things do happen.
Congratulations
2006-11-27 07:41:48 · answer #3 · answered by emmandal 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, it's not wrong, but since you've already been married 3 years, why not call it what it is: a "renewal of vows" ceremony. You can wear the dress and have the reception. We had one for our 25th wedding anniversary, for the same reason. We couldn't afford a big wedding when we got married. Send out your invitations to invite everyone to your renewal of vows. Your father won't be giving you away. That's not acceptable since you've been married awhile. He can still walk you down the aisle, though. Why not have your husband walk down the aisle with his mother and let all of your parents be the "witnesses".
2006-11-27 06:31:48 · answer #4 · answered by Wiser1 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I understand that you want the memories ext. What i would suggest is waiting until maybe your 5 yr. anniversary and do a wedding vow renewal. Don't expect gifts and i wouldnt make it a large lavish affair but you could something simple and elegant and get back some of the memories you missed the first time.
2006-11-27 06:37:21 · answer #5 · answered by So Happy!! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tons of people do it, but be honest about it.
My brother in law had a vow renewal following a wedding kept secret from most of the guests, including my husband. The problem is that people always find out the truth and they get really upset when they do. My husband and many of the guests haven't spoken to my brother in law since his staged wedding, which was more than 1 year ago. So, be honest if you do it.
2006-11-27 06:34:37 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Start planning for your 5th anniversary. You can have your ceremony and have the wedding of your dreams. It's a good time to do it, because you are financially stable and your marrige is already stable. I think its better this way. Imagine if you would have spent thousands of dollars and then divorced a year later. This way is great and you should enjoy your day!
2006-11-27 06:55:30 · answer #7 · answered by La Chica Sexy! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Actually, my wife and I are planning on doing the same thing. We didn't have the money for any kind of ceremony and we really wanted to say the vows, even though we did say them to each other. We just got the license and had a notary sign and stamp it. We plan on having a little ceremony . Go for it and enjoy your day.
2006-11-27 06:33:53 · answer #8 · answered by vanhammer 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, do not do this. Your wedding was the wedding you chose at the time, regardless of the circumstances. Do as others do, and have a vow renewal and family dinner at your 25th anniversary.
2006-11-27 08:22:30 · answer #9 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go for it. Have a huge party and take tons of pictures. Just don't ask for gifts. That would be a little lame. People re-new their vows all of the time.
2006-11-27 06:28:34 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋