i admit i am too nice to people. i am almost one of thse people you hate that are annoying because they are so nice and polite and friendly all the time, making it seem almost phony. i smile and nod all the time ...and RARELY express disgust or disapproval with anyone or anything......making it seem like im a dull boring cheesy little elf or something.
has anyone ever heard of this?? it is not easy to change either...it is like telling an alcholic to just quit drinking...
i am starting to figure out this isn't healthy..
2006-11-27 06:19:15 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Mental Health
Being kind and considerate is one thing.....being other people's doormat, is another. You have to find balance and learn when to say NO. ALWAYS stop before you answer when someone asks you to do a favor. Your answer should always be "let me check and I'll get back to you." That way you can think about whatever it is and see if you really want to do it. If you don't then you tell them that you can't. And that's it. Don't go into some long drawn out explanation.
You sound like someone who HATES confrontation. You have to get out of that. And you are afraid that someone won't like you if you disagree. BS! People won't like you if they think you have the personality of a brick.
2006-11-27 06:26:45 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My former mother-in-law is like that. And it does seem phony after a while because nobody can be that nice and that happy ALL the time. It's just not normal. At least you recognize that quality in yourself, that's the first step to changing. But if that's all you have wrong then I would say you're doing pretty good!
2006-11-27 14:34:30 · answer #2 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I can't imagine someone being "too nice", but maybe the people you are with just don't appreciate your willingness to be friendly and genuine. That's their problem, not yours! I think it is very healthy, it's just that the people you hang out with don't seem too healthy themselves. There is nothing wrong with taking a stand on things, but I understand how it is sometimes easier to just let it go rather than get in arguments about stupid stuff. Maybe you need to expand your horizons and find some new friends.
2006-11-27 14:34:47 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't let people walk all over you, our human & part of being this is the right to emotion & being able to express it. i'm not gonna sit here & say your gonna snap some day & take a corner bank at gunpoint.. but , lol loosen up & voice how you fell, what your opinion is & be a little bit more apart of the action rather then the door mat that people walk & spill things on .. cheer up, have a little self confidence & if u feel the need to tell some one to go to hell, then damn well stand up, clear your throat, take a deep breath & let that sucker out, scream if u gotta, let your self be herd... life is short, do what you can with it, because if all we have is time, then we don't have enough .. - kelly 17 ;)
2006-11-27 15:00:57 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well first of all hi. I don't really feel that being nice can acuatlly be labeled as a disorder. Unless of course, you say yes to everything and be in harms way of abusive people. Though I believe, that being the way you describe yourself, you may just have a good heart and christian upbringing, where is the crime in that? Unless you are trying to say that you are nice and polite knowing that that is not the real you then that is scary.
2006-11-27 14:30:27 · answer #5 · answered by Aida C 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you kidding we need more people in the world who are like you. I love nice people especially if it is sincere . Nice people make people's day I know my teacher who is as sweet as pie made my year. have you ever heard of a mean person making someone's day? Oh this boy just cursed me out he made my day, I think not.
2006-11-27 18:16:26 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I used to be the same way.I came to the conclusion if it is bothering people that you are so... normal,that's not the people you need to be around.If they don't like it so what.I love nice people like myself.
2006-11-27 14:25:10 · answer #7 · answered by raine_3 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes.
read
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a user's guide
by gretchen rubin
esp. read the power section. That should help.
2006-11-27 16:13:51 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
one way is to start practice saying no to people. start with the little things and then work your way up. good luck!
2006-11-27 16:09:51 · answer #9 · answered by ktstebs 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋