I really like this girl, I have been friends with her for about 3 years. She told me she likes me too, but that I’m too much older than her. We’re only 2 years apart! I have tried to get over her, but I can’t! I need to know what to do to change her view of my age. PLEASE HELP ME!!!!!
2006-11-27 06:18:25 · 11 answers · asked by holbrook312 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Sorry buddy, but she definitely doesnt feel the same way about you. Unless she ONLY dates younger guys, a 2 year difference is a joke. I actually think its kinda lame of her to use SUCH a bad excuse. I'd rather have someone just tell me the truth. At least she couldve used the classic "I dont want to ruin our friendship" line....tho painful , at least its somewhat true.
This is my advice and I really think its the best thing....only cuz I went through something similar (not the 2 yr thing, but the liking a friend). You need to cut off all ties with her for at LEAST a year. Trust me, any less and you will just go back to liking her the second you hang out with her again. I tried to for months here and there.....but I'd like her again. Then I made the difficult decision that I wouldnt contact her again. It sucked, and she was upset at losing a friend....but in the end, you will be glad you did. I ended up seeing the girl like a year and a half later at a club and now we are friends and I am not attracted to her in that way ....but you need to have that long period of time away from her. In the end, its the best thing you can do for both of you.
2006-11-27 06:35:48 · answer #1 · answered by wizexel22 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, i like this guy who is two years older, but he thinks I am too young. i know how you feel. try and prove to her, it isn't that bad of an age difference. think about all the people you two know that are married or dating and are two years or more apart. your parents, your friends, anybody. think, when you are 25, she will only be 23. tell her this and then see if it changes her views. I would be so greatful if my guy thought I was the right age. keep her for as long as you can. if she cares this much about your relationship now, she will always care. just don't bother her too much, she might get annoyed.
2006-11-27 14:26:36 · answer #2 · answered by Athletic.Chick.29 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, if you're both under 20 then the 2 year gap is kind of a big deal. if you're older than 20 then just have a talk with her. tell her what it is about her that you love. tell her she makes you a better person. prove to her that she wouldn't regret it if she got with you. maybe she's just scared because you've been friends so long and many times friends becoming lovers doesn't work out. i was one of the lucky ones and it worked for me. it took months of convincing my best guy friend that we were meant to be. finally he realized we have so much in common that we got together and we're hoping to get married when we're finished with college. but if it's not meant to be then don't push it. tell her that there's many couples in the world who have a huge age gap and that they have no problems adapting to it. ease into the relationship. ask her if she just wants to try going out to the movies or dinner just to test things and see how it goes from there.
2006-11-27 14:24:15 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is not the 2 year age difference. she is using that as an excuse. The girl obviously just wants to be a friend. Accept that.
2006-11-27 14:22:05 · answer #4 · answered by NAN G 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
2 years is no differance at all, she may just be using it as an excuse for some other reason not to go out wit u. how to change her view...errrr act as ur as immature as a 2 year younger bloke? or say "yes but your so mature for your age dear" or some crap like tht =P good luck!
too people above "She told me she likes me too" =S
2006-11-27 14:24:02 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you mean she likes you as a fren or she loves you? if she does age is not a problem bro. maybe its jus an excuse to let you give up. You can tell her that you love her a lot. tell her the reasons you love her. hold her hands while doing the above... if she does not let go well chances are high. ensure your eyes are always focussing on her. if she tells you age is a problem , tell her tat..
being older means you can protect her ,being older means you seen more.... being older means being more mature.....
and if being older means you cannot love me....then the existence
of love will have no meaning because love surpasses time,place,
dimensions even sexes
2006-11-27 14:33:49 · answer #6 · answered by Jeffery T 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she really wanted to be with you ...then the two year difference wouldn't matter. She probably just told you she liked you but didn't mean it, and is now using the two year difference between you and her as an excuse.
2006-11-27 14:26:11 · answer #7 · answered by sweet_girl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my hubby and I are 4 years apart. his older than me. Plus I like guys who's older than me but not too older. try it ask her out for a dinner date.
2006-11-27 14:23:10 · answer #8 · answered by winter 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately, it seems she does not feel the same for you... Just let her go man...2 years difference is a joke... She just gave you a stupid excuse not to be with you...take the hint and move on...
Sorry...
2006-11-27 14:21:26 · answer #9 · answered by Milkywayman22 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Shes not interested move on...
2006-11-27 14:21:30 · answer #10 · answered by troble # one? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋