i know of many of my friends who have been used by guys as some play thing, don't these guys have summit missing in thier life?
2006-11-27 06:17:53 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Yes they do. But if the gal lets them its her fault too.
2006-11-27 11:34:03 · answer #1 · answered by jessica a 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Hello,
The problem is that many young men just like the thrill of the chase but when they've won the female get bored and want yet another buzz. Another chase thrill, adrenaline hit,etc. I'm sure it can become quite addictive.
Secondly, some men treate woman as play things because deep down they are a fearful of real intimacy, the kind of intimacy that comes from a more committed type of relationship.
**These males want the play but not the serious stuff of longer term relationships, where as it seems to me that many woman want love (want to be loved!), intimacy and commitment. Yes! playfulness but without loosing all the other stuff as well.
**What makes you assume that there arent an equal number of woman that want to just play and totally use men as playthings too. In my opinion there are just as many woman who can play the same kind of game i.e it cuts both ways now a days. I'm NOT saying its right or wrong, thats purely an observation.
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2006-11-27 14:31:43 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
has alot to do with how they were raised.the mother could have been a prostitute,the father abused the mother or had relationships on the side.could be learning the wrong things about relationships and sex early in life.could just be that there an idiot.there is help for them but it can take along time and some of them dont admit they have a problem.your best bet is to stay away from guys like that so you dont end up with the drama and heartbreak.
2006-11-27 14:22:09 · answer #3 · answered by emmabugg 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They have a Problem.
Some Men like to control. Control women. Control situations.
That control includes using people, especially women to their own advantage. However, it is not a Male thing...it is Male Person thing.
This technique of using women for their own interests can last quite a long time. Then one day, that Macho male...gets used him self.
At the end of the day, we all have to look at our selves and ask...Have I been a decent person today? Most Men will say, yes.
A few will laugh and say, I used someone today for my advantage.
That person must live with them selves. One day it all Catches up to them.
My unsolicited advise to the Women is: Develop some defense Mechanisms to identify the Users, before they are used.
Best you all and Good Luck.
2006-11-27 14:35:28 · answer #4 · answered by Mav 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Remember some men will only use a women as long as the women let them get away with it, if you learned how to say no, or figured out the signs when there playing or cheating, then you and your friends wouldn't have this problem
2006-11-27 14:22:02 · answer #5 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps some do...others simply enjoy sex with no strings or emotional ties...
Chicks just need to slow down and not jump right into bed with a guy, if she wants to avoid taking a chance on "being used"...otherwise she needs to be aware she's taking a chance, have a good time, and have no particular hopes or expectations of what may occur afterward...
2006-11-27 14:21:13 · answer #6 · answered by . 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yes they do they are pigs
there seems to be a lot of these guys out there no nice guys at all at the moment, they only want us girls for one thing and treat us like dirt, they don't have anything missing in their lives their just pigs and that's the polite name for them.
it's a shame that us as women seem to put up with it, i guess it's better than nothing at all being on your own and unwanted
2006-11-27 14:42:58 · answer #7 · answered by AARONLEE AND SASHA 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nope, they are a commodity and like such you spend money on them , treat them good to maintain good working order, invest in care and repair to prolong their usefulness and then trade them in for an upgrade every couple of years. women do the same.
2006-11-27 14:20:20 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Absoluetly. Whenever u meet a guy ask him how he gets on with his mom. He he talks about her with real affection u know u have a good man.
Men who do that have been ill treated by women or have a deep seeded issue with attachment and rejection.
They usually follow this behaviour with clubbing, kebab and a fight please!!!!!!!!!!
2006-11-27 14:29:03 · answer #9 · answered by sammyantha 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
men and women can use people for their own benefit i've known lots of manipulative women its not down to all males. they dont need any personal issues to act that way. some people by their nature are two faced untrustworthy users.
2006-11-27 14:24:20 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋