We are 15 and have been dating for 2 months, we have known each other since 4th grade. We are both crazy about each other. The first week of us dating I told him I'm waiting until marriage for sex. He said he was too. One day we got talking about sex again. I was like, "I'm not doing ANYTHING before i'm married. Then he kinda got upset bc he thought I just meant intercourse... when I mean oral and phone sex, etc. He told me that is stupid. So I didn't talk to him at all for a few days. Then we made up and he told me how stupid he was for saying that. Then he decided to make a pack with his best friend that they won't do anything until they are married. My boyfriend got oral once like a few months before we started dating. And i'm kinda a tease sometimes, like i'll sit on his lap and kiss his neck... and that gets him really horny. (He says he likes it tho) ANYTHING gets him horny. And he goes on about how hard it is to wait and I don't know what to say! He says how dif. it is for guys.
2006-11-27 06:16:58 · 36 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Sorry... ran outa room... So he goes on saying how hard it is to wait and how he loves me so he's doing it... But he talks soo much about it... I never know what to say!
2006-11-27 06:22:29 · update #1
Wait till you are married. You won't regret it. I didn't wait and I wish I had. If I had one piece of advice to give to teenage girls it would be to wait. It would have made my life less complicated and it would have been a great thing to give to my husband.
2006-11-27 06:20:22 · answer #1 · answered by CarolinaGirl 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I know what you mean. Both of y'all are 15 years old, y'all are still young infact y'all are to young. If can't wait until marriage then leave him it's somebody in the world who will wait for you. Everyone's is worth waiting on. Maybe you shouldn't sit on his lap and kiss his neck because it do makes him horny and and he's gonna give you something that you don't want right know and plus you too young to be doing that. If you don't want to get pregnant at an early age, please slow down. One day you gone get grown and have how many children you want. Stay young as you can because once you old that's it, you can get younger. Think about that. It alot of people who wish they were still that young and didn't do the things they did, but while you still young, you can change. Education is first!!!!!!!!!!
2006-11-27 06:27:20 · answer #2 · answered by charliette_berry 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all, I applaud you for your strong convictions. A lot of people your age have the tendency to make rash decisions that they come to regret later in life. Your decision also helps you avoid the possibility of STD's or pregnancy.
If you feel your boyfriend is pressuring you to do things that you don't want to do, you have to be strong enough to say no and realize that he does not have your best interest at heart when he wants you to be untrue to yourself. It can be a hard thing to say no to someone you love, but you know what you want and what you are ready for in your life. Listen to yourself and stay true to what you believe is right and best.
If you do decide to have sex later on, married or not, be prepared. Know about contraception. If you can't or don't want to talk to your parents, you can go to a trusted friend or your local health department for counseling and education.
He says that it's "difficult" for guys. Well, it's difficult for girls, too.
2006-11-27 06:27:38 · answer #3 · answered by rheame 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think its really important for you to stick to your beliefs don't change it for someone else. If he really cares for you he will understand and if he doesnt then he's not really good for you then. Another factor is you are quite young still you will change so many times in your life and this is something that is a big decision, once it happens you can't take it back you need to feel 100% confident in your decision. You also need to consider the unromantic reality of the situation and that is pregnancy, STd's etc. is he prepared for those things if you can't disuss them openly with your partner your aren't prepared for sex. Although his body is ready is his mind and yours isn't ready these are some things to talk to him about.
2006-11-27 06:23:03 · answer #4 · answered by So Happy!! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is different for a 15 year old guy than it is for a girl. their hormones are raging, but I think you should stick to your gut. Wait until you're ready. If later on you decide to change your mind, then that is your decision to make. NO ONE ELSE'S. If he can't respect you, then he's not for you. he should understand this is what you want. This is what you're about. Don't let him push you. If you change your mind, there is nothing wrong with that, but until then stand your ground. Just remember to be true to you or you'll hate you self later.
2006-11-27 06:24:21 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
YOUR 15! if you dont want to have sex DONT! and if he cant wait ( and i can tell you i would not) Then tell him its over.
Just being honest. I would not wait for you. I'm a guy and you want answers that is why your here. I would break up with you. and this is the point in your life where you have to view your beliefs and see what YOU want to do. If you feel that you may be ready then do it, IF NOT then it is best to part ways.
someone will be hurt.
2006-11-27 06:21:42 · answer #6 · answered by remailer000 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do not let him pressure you for sex!!! I can almost promise you this is not the guy you will marry. If you have sex with him because you feel guilty you will eventually regret it!!! I am speaking from experience!!! And quit teasing him!!! If you know certain things "turn him on" then do not do them! If you don't there is the chance that he'll get so worked up that he won't take "No" for an answer. Please wait until you are married!!!
2006-11-27 06:21:30 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Well its up to the 2 of you , but just FYI
Its probably not gonna work out,
not the way that you had hoped.
Someone is gonna give in to atleast something.
or its not gonna last.
love or no love. it wouldn't matter,
most guys can't hold out til marriage so , if he does FALL remember who put him in this predicament. and
FYI you are a TEASE
Personally kudos for you wish to remain pure but I think even tho he has good intentions its gonna be the source on stife and tension.
Good luck
2006-11-27 06:22:13 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't know what to tell you except that you need to do what you think is right. I'm the same way none of that until marriage but I'm a guy and it is hard for us to make out or something without wanting more.
2006-11-27 06:20:50 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should not tease him like that if you are not going to do anything, that is just mean. If you don't want to do anything, then stop doing that to be fair to him. Otherwise, I think he is reasonable in expecting something to happen when you are teasing him like that. I don't blame you for waiting for intercourse though, that is a good idea for sure.
~Kyle
2006-11-27 06:19:48 · answer #10 · answered by Kyleontheweb 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋