ok i really love my girlfriend but a couple of days ago she told me that she didnt feel the same way to me and the thing is that her exboyfriend cheated on her when she was going out with him and she got hurted because of that and she says that she doesnt want that to happen again and thats why she is not to open to me, but i've tried really hard to let her see that im not like that other guy and i dont know what to do now because she kind of put a wall in the relationship saying that to me that she doesnt love me the same way i love her so what should i do? please answer me im going crazy i dont want to lose her!
2006-11-27 06:11:52 · 19 answers · asked by manlaw 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
She has been scarred by her previous experience and may not know that you are genuinely in love with her. Her trust in men is zero to none, and unless you've been cheated in your previous relationship, you'll never know how she felt. Tell her that you will give her more time and space to think, and you'll be waiting for her when she's ready. Let her know too that not all men will cheat, just because of a few bad apples, it doesn't make the whole tree bad. You cannot continue this relationship, if it's just you doing all the work, because to be loved, you have to love too. If she still show no sign of preparations after you've given her the time, then, tell her that you cannot continue this relationship. You just can't continue a r'ship with someone who doesn't love you.
2006-11-27 06:23:22 · answer #1 · answered by Hanna 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look, if she doesn't love you or like you the same way, it's just not going to grow from one day to the other. I know it's hard but if she really doesn't like you the same way you're just getting used walk away from this situation before you start getting mad at her.
As a woman I can tell you that when I say I don't feel the same way, I mean exactly that (that doesn't mean i need the other person to try harder or to like me more it just means that whatever we have is going nowhere)
I'm sorry to tell you that but it's the truth, talk to her and decide what'll be good for you two and if she really can't love you the same way then you deserve better.
2006-11-27 06:17:51 · answer #2 · answered by Sandy R 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well seems like she is not going to open up to you,,, and no matter what you do it isn't going to happen since you stated you tried everything.. She is still hung up on her ex and what he did and until she can get over that there really will be no relationship.. because you should have to deal with someone who refuses your love an attention..... Your best bet is to just let her go and find someone that you can love and loves you in return.... it is better to have loved and lost then to have never loved at all and you can tell yourself you can change her mind but seriously i don't think you can... Good Luck in what ever you decide to do.
2006-11-27 06:16:36 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe y'all need to talk a little more about the issue at hand. If she doesn't want to get hurt then why did she make that comment to you.. If she doesn't feel the same way about you as you do for her. then maybe you two need a break from each other and that way she can sort out her feelings and it is your choice to be there for her. Just take a break and see how things go.. good luck
2006-11-27 06:29:22 · answer #4 · answered by gamustanggirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry, but you may not be able to get beyond the wall she put up. She may have been hurt before, but you are not that guy so it's kind of crappy to put that on you. Until she is ready to open up again you may have to let her go. It was unfair of her to get into a relationship before she was ready unless she had made it clear in the beginning that she wasn't in a good place and didn't want to develop a meaningful relationship.
2006-11-27 06:17:38 · answer #5 · answered by Didi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
honey you do not have anything with this girl to lose. She does not love you and nothing you can do will make her love you the way you love her. You have already lost and that is that. Have a good cry and then move on with your life. This is not the one for you but the right girl is out there and if you move ahead with you own life, you will find her sooner than you think. Good Luck
2006-11-27 06:15:12 · answer #6 · answered by CindyLu 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to give her some time to open up to you and trust you. Tell her straight up that all she needs is time with you. Keep trying to do things to show her that you are not like other guys. Be completely open to her and she will realize that you can tell her everything and that she can trust you. Don't rush her into loving you. Always keep in mind that she has been hurt before.
2006-11-27 06:17:40 · answer #7 · answered by mslilly<3 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is making excuses (ex-boyfriend cheated, hurt her, etc), she just does not feel the same about you as you do her. Believe her when she says she does not love you that way, and find another girlfriend that can and will. She is probably not "over" the ex boyfriend.
2006-11-27 06:18:57 · answer #8 · answered by NAN G 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to realize that she isn't into you. You might really like her, but she doesn't feel the same. She is trying to be kind by informing you that she is afraid. She is lying to you due to she really doesn't like you and she doesn't want to hurt you. I wish you all the best and hope you meet someone who will return the feelings. Good luck and GOD bless.
2006-11-27 06:16:48 · answer #9 · answered by cookie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best thing to do is explain to her that you are not like her ex-boyfriend, but that if she continues in behaving the same way she behaves, then you will eventually have no choice other then find someone else.
2006-11-27 06:16:27 · answer #10 · answered by Avner Eliyahu R 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋