My girl started wearing a bra a month ago. She hated, said a bra sucks, makes her sweat (we live in Australia, it's hot) and so on. I'm a very understanding mom and she's a wonderful girl, but since I really think she needds a bra I used my authority. She complained, complained but I was firm."Sorry hun, but you need to wear o bra, so it's decided" . Of course I did this with much love and helped her chhose her bras. Well, though she's a very good and obedient girl, I got to know on this bra issue she's not obeying completely. She ended up confessing sometimes she takes off her bra and puts it on again before getting back home. She apologized, said it's because she doesn't like bras. I don't think this is something bad, just a childish think. Is this normal behavior? Anyway, I told her I didn't like, didn't want her to do it again and said I'd think if she'd be punished, From my reaction she could tell I wasn't that angry. But do u think a small lesson is in order? if so, what lesson?
2006-11-27 06:03:46 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
She's only 12, unless she is very large, let it go.
2006-11-27 06:07:04 · answer #1 · answered by mstrywmn 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lots of young ladies these days don't want to wear bras.
Let her make the decision..because, you want to teach
her that her body is her own and nobody gets to tell her
different. Better to have good self esteem, than cute underwear.
Make a deal with her to wear it in certain places. Like when
shes with you downtown, or at church. Wearing it now and again will get her use to it. Maybe her friends have made some comments that have made her feel uncomfortable.
Don't let this become an issue and make her start lying
about what she's doing. It could lead to lying about bigger things.
This year it's the bra and next year it's boys.
She's a good girl with a good mind, let her use it.
Relax Mum..you've got bigger fish to fry. GOOD LUCK
I would let the bra thing die down a bit and talk to her about why she hide the fact she wasn't wearing it. Even in letting our little girls grow up, we got to keep on top of things and keep them responsible.
2006-11-27 14:23:39 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I don't think she needs a lesson at this point, I mean she did admit to you she was taking them off. If you punish her for telling the truth, she might just lie to you the next time.
What is her size, and what kind of a bra is she wearing? Could she just wear a cotton pull-over sports bra, or maybe a tank-top with a built-in shelf bra?
2006-11-27 16:58:13 · answer #3 · answered by knihelpu 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Get her a sports bra - they are a little more comfortable. Usually girls cannot wait for their first bra - are you sure she really needs one, or is she just the age that you think she should have one? The other kids at school will let her know when she needs to be wearing one- they don't miss a beat!!
2006-11-27 14:12:39 · answer #4 · answered by NAN G 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe the bras she has are uncomforatble. Maybe you need to go shopping again and pick out bras that are more comfortable. Or maybe you can get her some sports bras that have better airflow and maybe will not cause her to sweat so much.
2006-11-27 14:10:03 · answer #5 · answered by Caitlin 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People are always resistant to change...and a bra at age 12 is a change. Be patient...and keep reinforcing your demand. In time she will get use to it and it will be 2nd nature. Punishment? I think not... just be firm!
2006-11-27 14:33:04 · answer #6 · answered by westfield47130 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you might want to try a sports bra, but if she doesnt like that then let do what she feels comfortable in, even if it means not wearing one... forcing her will only make her rebel...soon enough she will realize that people are looking at her funny and she will see that its time to be a women and wear a bra like everybody else...good luck...this is only the beggining..
2006-11-27 14:11:24 · answer #7 · answered by happy2BAlive!! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's a childhood phase....I started wearing a bra at 12 and I hated it...it just felt embarrassing at first. I also refused to wear deodorant because I didn't think I needed it - man, I was a mess back then! :)
2006-11-27 14:07:52 · answer #8 · answered by Rachel 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if she isn't very large then get her some of those little summer tops that have a built in bra.... then she can wear a coverup( or shirt over it according to what the weather is like) ---
They also make leisure bras and bras that are less constrictive :http://www.americanintimates.com/Women/Barely-There-B56/Bralette-Bras-C32/Barely-There-Flawless-Fit-Triangle-Bralet-147.html
2006-11-27 14:12:54 · answer #9 · answered by jaimestar64cross 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i would not force my child to wear a bra :( what is your daughter like a dbl D that she absolutely needs one? i say if she feels comfortable without one good for her let her do what she wants as far as underwear is concerned!!
2006-11-27 14:07:23 · answer #10 · answered by notyochic 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try and find one that she like I know when I was her age I did not like the first one my mother bough. So we when out a tried serveral ones and finlay found one that I liked even though it was a lot of money. Lori
2006-11-27 14:09:00 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋