Hi there. My son is 14 1/2 months old. He is crazy! He moves the kitchen chairs out, climbs on them, and then climbs on the table. We go to playgroup and he gets up on their tables and runs around like a wild moneky man. All of the other kids listen to their parents and play quietly. Today we had to leave playgroup early because he wouldn't stop climbing into kitchen cabinets. (The house that we went to wasn't baby-proofed yet.)
He knows no means no, but when I say no he laughs and runs the other way when I try to catch him. I think 1 is way to young to spank. I just tell him "no" over and over and over again. Is there a better way to do it?
2006-11-27 05:58:02 · 13 answers · asked by eddysmomma 4 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
Ahhhh....isn't motherhood fun?! : ) I don't think your son is crazy (but I admit, sometimes I think my kids are nuts, too!); I think your son is just testing the waters....crucial development time for him, seeing how far/what his limits are. I think you did the right thing by removing him from the situation today. And that's probably what you're going to have to continue doing...giving him a firm "NO", and removing him from the situation, while re-directing his attention to something else. Good luck!
2006-11-27 07:24:27 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think his behavior is unusual at all, and even though there may be other children sitting quietly, remind yourself that each child is different. Laughing and running away are his way of testing you.
You need to remove him from the situation when he exhibits this behavior. Give him a warning and then get up and leave. Try to remain calm and say, "You climbed on the table and that's not okay. You're not going to play with your friends now."
Try to find ways to avoid saying "No" over and over. For example, if he's standing up in a chair say, "Chairs are for sitting".
Also be sure your son has plenty of places that ARE okay for climbing, jumping and generally running around like a wild monkey man. Big toys in the yard, a bean bag in the house that he can flop on, lots of trips to the park...high energy kids need a release! If the weather is bad, turn on the radio and have some fun jumping up & down to the music.
2006-11-27 06:35:39 · answer #2 · answered by eli_star 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How is he getting the opportunity to get up on chairs and up on a table?
I am not a huge fan of Doctor Phil but I do respect his theory on parenting that kids need currency and this can start at a young age.
excerpt from http://www.drphil.com/articles/article/165
If you want your child to behave appropriately, you have to set the standards for the behaviors you want. Too often, parents look only at undesirable behaviors and their parenting styles dissolve into complaining and reacting. If you focus on developing the positive behaviors in your child, then the negative behaviors won't be so overwhelming. You also have to determine your child's currency. Currency is anything that when presented during or immediately after a target behavior will increase the likelihood of that behavior occurring again. Figure out a way for them to get as much of what they want through appropriate behavior.
There are a number of different currencies that can vary with your child's age. This can be stuffed animals, DVDs, television and computer privileges and stereos. Once you understand what is valuable in your child's life, then you can mold and shape his or her behavior.
2006-11-27 06:41:15 · answer #3 · answered by family_matters 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Don't be discouraged. Unfortunately they are very excited about exploring everything they can see and touch. My son was just like that. He would pull things off the table and would look in my eyes and purposly do the things I told him not to do. I say start with time out or a tap on the hand with a stern "NO" and a straight face to let him know that you are serious. Thats what I did and it works (eventually). But give it some time.
2006-11-27 06:08:18 · answer #4 · answered by Dyme Diva 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ok, this advice is coming from a Grandma.
No one should have to change their house for your kid.
You are the parent and you have to assert control now or lookout for 15, it is just around the corner! Timeout works great for the under 5 crowd, I always did that and still do with grandchildren.
You have to be consistant and let them know you mean it and DO NOT GIVE UP OR GIVE IN! if they win you loose! Make them sit there a minimum of 1 min for age. 11/2 qualifies as 2 Min or until they are quiet or doing what you have asked them to do, if you have to hold them there or walk them back several times to the time out spot. The only time I spanked my kids was when they did something really bad or hurtful and then a swat of the butt would usually hurt there feelings and pride more than them physically. Of course, not all children will respond, but they do respond to consistency and that is the hardest to achieve. What ever you do mean it the first time, and not say, NO 100 times and then let them do it! you are defeating your parenting skills when you do that and the kid really looses out when you give in.
2006-11-27 06:09:06 · answer #5 · answered by TaylorProud 5 · 1⤊ 2⤋
TIME OUT!!! My little girl is almost 2 and she gets time outs all the time (No longer than 5 min at a time) she may be in time out as much as 15 times a day but she does NOT like it and she has gotten down to less than 3 time outs a day. I do give her "hand spankings" and "bottom spankings" but not the typical spankings I will give her a little swat but it is not some much to cause pain as to let her know that I do not approve of what she is doing!
2006-11-27 06:27:26 · answer #6 · answered by iceniequeen 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
just be firm with him when you tell him no to let him know you mean business. he has to know there are consequences for his behavior even at this age. I agree with the other person who said put him in his playpen for a time out. not a long one but maybe just a couple of minutes. he wil eventually realize his actions are not worth the punishment.
2006-11-27 06:19:59 · answer #7 · answered by yensenm 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
With my little boy, I would start to count. Before I count, I tell him that if I reach the count of 5 then he will have to go to time out. Now that he is older, he has been conditioned to stop whatever he is doing when I start counting. He will then wait for me to repeat my instructions.
My little one has a problem with ignoring as well. If your little one gets to that point, just stay calm and patient. They love to get a reaction out of us.
2006-11-27 06:33:31 · answer #8 · answered by Meesh 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
My granddaughter is 15 months and my daughter has no problem giving her a little swat on her rear. She is really well-behaved most of the time because she knows that if she's told no and pays no attention a swat will follow.
2006-11-27 06:49:08 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
With my son I would strap him in his high chair for a time out...now it is his booster chair (He's two now). When he runs from you slightly raise your voice....not yelling, but loud enough to get his attention, and use a stern look.
2006-11-27 06:04:13 · answer #10 · answered by Ryan's mom 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋