How would you react to him?

Question

i ran into this guy about 9 months ago and we hit it off.I was still bitter about catching my ex of a few years cheating(they r mutual freinds)he listened and understood,he drove me home that night and i invited him to stay,i asked him to sleep in the bed with me,he did,i asked him to put his arm around me,he did till i slept,he was such a gentlamn,things wereawkward the next morning when helft,a mutual freind told me he liked me but was freaked about my ex(who still wants me back)i saw this guy again 2 months later and he came to me and said"your killing me",he made me melt.my ex was also there and upset that we liked eachother.i sent this guy a text a couple weeks after and he never replied.i saw him again at a party a few weeks ago(6 months later)and he walked in with another girl(although it did not appear thatthey were'together')he saw me and looked away,that hurt.i will be seeing him this week at a funeral,how should i act towards him?

Answer 1

OK, Darnell. Here's the honest truth. Here's what you do:

When you see him at the funeral, just give a casual smile and wave if he's across the room, THEN LOOK AWAY AND MOVE ON, or, if you come face to face, just give a cordial greeting, like, "Hello. How are you? Nice to see you again." and MOVE ON.

Do NOT chase this guy! It's the worst thing you can do. By not chasing him, you'll intrigue him. No guy likes a 'puppy' following after them all the time. We like the thrill of the hunt, especially when it involves someone that we've never HAD to chase before. It makes you more interesting.

This thing is either going to work out or it's not. If he really likes you, he'll come to YOU. He already knows that you like him, so the next move is up to him. Listen to me:

Here are the rules:

Don't stare at him all doe-eyed and love struck across the room. Don't look at him like you're longing for him or like you're wounded or 'hurt'.
Don't stalk him. By that, I mean, don't constantly find yourself hanging out close to him.
Don't play games with him, like don't hang on someone else, laugh too loud, or be flirtatious with another guy.
These things are all Turn-offs.

Here's what you DO:

Look FABULOUS.
Look 'approachable'. By that, I mean don't act pissed off at him.
I know this is a funeral, but I don't know if you're all planning to go to someone's home afterwards, as is customary. If you do attend a gathering, manage to find yourself 'alone' a few times during this time, like sit down in a quiet room, walk outside alone and stand, etc. I think you get my point. TRY TO LET HIM SEE YOU DO THIS. Walk past him as you go out alone, etc.
This will give him the opportunity to seek you out and talk to you ALONE, if he wants to.

That's it. The rest is up to him. Even if he doesn't approach you at the funeral, he may call you or text you within the next week or so, because if he likes you, he'll be thinking about you. You'll have piqued his 'hunting' instinct.

If he doesn't call you, then get over him and move on.

I know this may not be what you want to hear, but it's the plain truth. Conduct yourself with pride and dignity, be friendly but not overly so, be approachable, but don't approach HIM, and treat him like he's just someone you've met casually in the past.
He'll contact you. Or he won't. Either way, you'll know what to expect.

Good Luck,

Cave

Answer 2

I get the feeling that I am answering questions for a lot of gay couples . Doesn't matter however talk to him the only way to find out what is going on with him is to discuss these things face to face. You can create a thousand scenarios in your head but you will never know which if any will be the correct one. Just talk to him.

Answer 3

be bold,proud to be what u r,think like this ,ur an angel,angels doest wait for any one ,instead all wait for angels.ur an angel believe it dear,its true.now dont make any emotional reaction towards any one ,have a neutral approach by having a simple smile( not romantic ).look through ur eyes not by ur ex or any one else.these climatic condition are passing clouds but ur sky is there ,strech ur wings,u cant see the such problems.concentrate on urself.this my opnion,its ur wellandwish have it or not.have a nice day

Answer 4

i'd frivolously say i'm no longer sensible what they are speaking about. Then ask them what the crime is they are speaking about and ask how and why they imagine it became me. i'd then provide them a proof on why it wasn't me. in the adventure that they nevertheless favor to believe it became me, so be it, i will enable them imagine incorrect, the actuality will come out one way or yet another.

Answer 5

if you want to be with him you would act extremely nice and tell him, explaining everythang; if you don't want to be with him you would avoid him, and if you liked him and you just want to be his friend, you would walk up to him, act friendly, tell him you want to be just friends, and apologise for misleading him.

either way, it all depends on what you want

good luck! (and remember it's a funeral -- it's about paying your respects to the dead; you're not there to solve your problems - lol)

Answer 6

you're thinking about hooking up at a funeral? anyway, be upfront.

Answer 7

i think i would not even worrie about it you cant make a guy be with you

Answer 8

you to need to talk to get things straight

Answer 9

tell him how you feel about him, tell him that you want to be together

Answer 10

Better than you have been.()