We thought we'd live here forever, so we buried our beloved dog on the property, behind the garage. Now we are moving. How do I respect the grave now that we will not live here anymore? All I can think of is what if the new owner's dig her up on accident, like, doing renovations or something? I told my husband I wanted to exhume her, and he said it was wierd and disrespectful and I couldn't, so then I said that I wanted some dirt off her grave to put in an urn in the new house, and he thinks that's wierd too, so what do I do? How do I deal with this? She's only been gone 2 years adn it still hurts too bad, I can't stand that her grave is going to be here where we can't even visit. What should I do? Do you think it's wierd to have dirt from her grave in an urn? what about exhuming her? My husband said that that is disrespectful to her, but how can she 'rest in peace' if she may be dug up during renovations by strangers? I don't know what to do, and I am so sad, please help!
2006-11-27 05:52:42 · 7 answers · asked by Ziggy 1 in Pets ➔ Dogs
Explain to the new owners that your pet is buried there. You can't stop them from renovations and changing their home but at least make them aware. As for respecting the grave, personally, I don't believe that the place where you put the body is where anyone or anything is greatly remembered. Your memories are what keeps your loved one alive. You could purchase a memorial stone and place it at your new house in a spot that you feel he/she would have liked and visit her/him there. I don't see anything wrong with keeping dirt from the grave if that will help console you, just don't make a big deal about it to your hubby. Every marriage has its small secrets.
You have my sympathies, I've lost some babies too and do sometimes still mourn them. I've listed a website below that is very beautiful that might also help you.
2006-11-27 06:06:21 · answer #1 · answered by koral2800 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
There is nothing wrong with taking some of the dirt from her grave and keeping it in an urn near you.
Perhaps you could speak to the new owners of the house before exhuming her body? Mention to them that her final resting place is behind the garage, and ask if they'd honor her by not ever digging her up? You aren't the first person to move and leave behind a pet's resting place -- which is why I prefer cremation. Of course, it's possible that the new owners will "balk" at the thought of a cadaver buried on their land. In this case, you'd want to exhume her body and either have it buried in a pet cemetary or have your vet send her to a crematorium.
I wish you peace.
2006-11-27 06:10:53 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd stress to your husband that it is important to YOU. Then you may want to have her buried at a Pet Cemetery so that you can visit her or know that she won't be disturbed whether you have to move again or not. What is important is YOUR peace of mind.
If this is financially possible, I don't see why not. If you are not able to do that, then digging a bit of dirt from the grave and putting it in an urn, if that will help you feel like you have a way to remember her that is more personal to you, do it.
2006-11-27 06:04:18 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I completely feel for you. I lost my dog 2 years ago and we chose to bury her in the backyard b/c I expect to live here forever. However, if I was in your situation, I would feel exactly the same way!!! I do think your husband is correct in that you can not dig the dog up. However, you need to do what is best for you in terms of your emotional health and grieving, so if taking some dirt will help you through this time, then by all means, do so!
2006-11-27 06:04:57 · answer #4 · answered by TP 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-29 20:31:56 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I also expect to live where I am till I die. I have talked to my husband about this and if we ever have to sell, I'm going to have a deed restriction put on the deed so that my babies will not be disturbed.
2006-11-27 09:44:43 · answer #6 · answered by A Great Dane Lady 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take some dirt and don't tell your husband I don't think that idea is weird at all.
2006-11-27 05:58:06 · answer #7 · answered by Rachel Bitchface 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋