2006-11-27 05:48:38 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I'm sorry, but if he doesn't say it or show it, chances are he doesn't feel it.
You can either
~carry on as you are, and risk getting hurt more and hope that he starts to feel more for you
~dump him
~ask him straight out if he loves you, and then decide what to do.
Its a very personal desicion, and you need to do what you think is best for you. But speaking from personal; experience, it is not a good idea to 'settle'. Don't be with someone unless they feel the same for you as you do for them.
Good luck, hope you find happiness.
2006-11-27 05:52:10 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Alot of people seem to be saying to just leave him. Some people have a hard time saying those three words. My girlfriend broke up with me and I hadn't told her I love her. To be honest, I wasn't 100% sure I did because a previous relationship had me questioning what you're supposed to feel. Now that I don't have her I've realised that I love her more than I've loved anyone and it's really killing me not being with her. I guess the best thing to do is to suggest that you spend some time apart, like have a break for a month or so, and if he really loves you he'll miss you and want you back. If he doesn't, at least you'll know.
2006-11-27 14:12:16 · answer #2 · answered by Craig S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he doesn't show you that he loves you, then ask yourself the question: "Why am I with someone who doesn't love me or treat me the way I'd like to be treated"? There are over 6 billion people on this planet, and surely there is someone who will be a more suitable match for you. Don't stay with someone who doesn't offer you the best just to "be with someone".
If you give life a chance, you will find that for every person that isn't quite right, the next person will be a better match.
Good luck.
2006-11-27 13:58:07 · answer #3 · answered by KD 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How long've you been with him? If it's been quite a while (over 6 months) and you spend a lot of time with him, then he should've expressed his love for you. If it's not been very long, just wait and talk to him. I'm in a similar situation where I want my boyfriend to be more affectionate, but he's not used to it and he never sees his parents show any affection at home. It just takes time... unless you have been with him a while. If so, it's about time for a talk and just tell him how you feel, which is easier said than done for sure.
2006-11-27 13:59:39 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If a guy dont tell you that they love you or show that they love you then it's either their is someone else he loves and he cheating on you, or he's dosnt want to sound to cheesy in front of you.
Just ask him , or so he wont feel uncomfortable have a friend ask him for you, beleive or not most guy are afraaid to tell their girlfriend about how they feel so they'll tell a friend, ame thing when it comes to most girls.
2006-11-27 13:55:21 · answer #5 · answered by Sexy hola skirt 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave him and find someone who shows you and tells you they love you!!! If you are his gf and he isn't showing you any love there is a chance that he is showing it elsewhere....
If you really like this guy talk to him about it, tell him how you feel. Give it sometime and if nothing changes, honestly he never will. You need to love yourself enough to know that you DESERVE to be loved, both with actions and words.
2006-11-27 13:54:44 · answer #6 · answered by Bubby'sGirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My Love, Alot of guys are afraid to show their love,or even say,i love you. Why don't you have a talk with him,tell him how you feel about him, and just ask him, how he feels about you,and if he loves you. Thats what i would do.
Clowmy
2006-11-27 13:55:20 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
ask him why he doesn't show or tell you he loves you he may not be able to show his true feelings, depends on how he was raised not all peoples parents told them they loved them or showed each other in front of their children any affection for each other.
my mum loves me i know she does but she's never said so doesn't like being hugged or showing her feelings for her child, but she does with her grand children, are your boyfriends parents still alive see how they are towards him are they all Kissie Kissie types or quite distant it may explain a little on how he doesn't declare his undying love for you,
its OK for us lot on here to say get a new fella but how can you when you love this guy, just talk to him and then decide if he's worth sticking with or not good luck.
2006-11-27 14:05:06 · answer #8 · answered by AARONLEE AND SASHA 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Our individual character differ, maybe it's onlike him to do so, but you could teach him to say such things rather than fussing sometimes in his good mood say... Darling you've not told me love me do you realy love me?.Those word could help you know who the man is only you can conclude from his reaction to those questions if he really does love you.
I've dated a soldier and i found out that from his discipling he hardly can say I'm sorry but lately he seem to be saying it often as a lady you the power to influence his character
Cheers!!!
Elizabeth King
2006-11-27 14:02:29 · answer #9 · answered by ELIZABETH KING 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dunno but I married someone who has the same way about him. Let me tell you, it ain't pretty. I thought he was just the strong "silent" type and stoic. But now sometimes I feel like I am married to a Cigar store Indian. I feel like checking his breathing sometimes to see if he is still alive.! Yikes! If it bothers you now, it will certainly bother you much more when you are further down the road with him. You may want to fish or cut bait while you can before you get in any deeper.!
2006-11-27 13:55:52 · answer #10 · answered by haditforgood 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋