GUYS COULD YOU ANSWER THIS ONE please?

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GUYS COULD YOU ANSWER THIS ONE please?
do you get nervous around women you like...i texted this guy i use to date we dated fora bit he was really into me although at first he said he thought i was a little scary..and was frightened to approach me..basically i was having a difficult time at work and it was right guy wrong time i could not give him the attention i should off also i was so upset about work and i was bottling it up well i just acted really wierd..Anyway its been 7 monts and i texted him to say sorry for my erratic behaviour and jokingly said 'do u still think i should be locked up?' He replied and he said "Dont worry about it. It doesnt matter. Glad u and u friends can laugh at it. Take care" what does this mean should i text him and ask him for a drink ...i really like him...if u were in his shoes what would u think if this girl asked you out..he approached me initially on new years eve and his friend said he had been starirring for about 40 mins before he came up to me...what does that say about him??HELP

Answer 1

I love my anaconda.

Answer 2

First let me start out by saying, that God works in mysterious ways, and the fact that you met him at a new years eve gathering
he was probably not in the thinking way his mind was not on talking. If this was the case he would have e-mailed you back if he was interested in a long term relation. You made the initial move to e-mail him, which let me know that you were serious
about starting a relation. His response indicate that what I mentioned above that his mind was not where your mind was.
You seem to be an intelligent young lady, the lines he wrote you
is definitely a brush off. NO PAIN NO GAIN" HIS LOSS.
Go on with your life, because if you continue to pursue him you are asking for heart ache and pain.
Have a great life

Answer 3

Everyone gets nervous around a woman they REALLY like... so his behaviour was kinda normal... now, I suppose you can imagine his disappointment when things didn't work out... I'd guess he's afraid to suffer again... nobody likes getting hurt!
As for his SMS reply, it's clear that this guy is on another wavelength. He seems (and I stress "seems") to be over you. The part "Glad u and u friends can laugh at it" is kinda bitter and the "take care" is, in some way, a "get out of my life" warning. Now, if you really like him, enough to take the risk, go ahead and text him for a drink. But if he says "no" in some funky way like "sorry got better things to do" or "am staying away from alcohol" don't be surprised.... IMO if you REALLY want to get this guy back you've got to take it real slow and progressive, starting with more personal contact instead of text messages. But I'd guess he's already dating someone else by now.....

Hope this helps!

Answer 4

yup, I and most men get very nervous when a very attractive woman is around

its cuz she could sort of crush you with a misplaced comment or two

Most men have been through something like that at least once or twice. If you are not attracted anyway, it doesn't hurt so much.

Anyone who thinks you should be or should have been locked up when you don't is NOT a good partner to have. At some point they get mad and actually have you locked up for no good reason. Instead of finding the right kind of help instead.

Answer 5

If you have talked before then you asking him if he would like to grab something to drink or eat should not seem odd to him. At worst he says no and yall don't talk again.

As far as the initial meeting part, every guy gets nervous to a certain degree when talking to strangers...especially women they are interested in.

Also you clearly liked something about him that you would try to contact him 7 months later, and if you like something about him then thats more then enough of a reason to take a chance with him.

Answer 6

He probably likes you also. But, he is scared. He may not have been fully aware of what had been going on in your life. But, he is scared that if he were to ask you out, he would be shot down. Guys hate getting shot down--so much so that often they would prefer not to even ask (and take a chance) for a date rather than getting shot down. The key here is when you said "...i really like him...". Then, you are going to have to be the one to take the initiative. He needs to know that not only do you like him but also that you have worked through the issues that were messing you up earlier in the year. Good luck.

Answer 7

talk to him in person. he obviously doesn't thin it's a laughin matter and thinks that you're trying to get a laugh at his expense.

call him and tell him that you're sorry that you;re not making fun you just wanted to see how he was. he's probably a shy guy or nervous about talking to you.

try talking to him in person or over the phone if he doesn;t answer leave a message and explain yourself. if he still has feelings for you then he'll call you back and wont be mad

Answer 8

He either is a virgin or a stalker, You might not want to go out with him. He might change for the worse on you. But he just might be shy and you could have just scared him. You might be too much of a woman.

Answer 9

Why did you wait 7 months? From that reply, I don't think he's interested anymore.

Answer 10

go ahead and ask the worst thing is that he says no. I would go just to see what happens if I was in his shoes.

Answer 11

He is Seeing someone else... Ask him anyways. guys like me throw hints to other girls while in a relationship that they want out.
sounds like a hint to me.