I feel like having sex every day. My boyfriend has gotten to where he hardly ever wants to do it. I've tried different things to make it interesting for him, but none of it worked. I'm very frustrated with this. I know sometimes when people have been in a relationship for a while they stop having sex, but I'm only 28 and I'm not ready for that yet. Am I expecting too much?
2006-11-27 05:44:31 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If there is no physical reason for his loss of interest, then you need to rule out other reasons (stress, depression, etc.). If that does not explain why he has lost interest, then you all need to have a good, long heart to heart discussion...
Everyone has a their own idea about how much sex is enough per day, week, month, or even ever.... You will need to openly discuss your needs with your boyfriend. If he is willing to up the frequency then great! If not, you may want to really think about whether or not you want to continue the relationship. Other people may write and tell you that sex is not as important as love, blah blah... but sex is the #2 reason for divorce in the U.S., so I think it must be important to some of us, lol!
2006-11-27 05:58:12 · answer #1 · answered by dedum 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
For me once a day isn't enough. I don't think you are being unreasonable if he is normal and healthy you just may be taking the wrong approach. Here are a couple of ideas:
Withdraw: Sometimes it is the chase that turns a man on. Make sure that your hair, make-up and outfit are extra sexy and then just pay him a little less attention than you normally would.
De-stress: Sometimes stresses from work, family or the relationship can inhibit a persons sex drive. Do what ever you can to reduce the tension and make him feel important. Also don't wait until bedtime; make your move when he is the most rested and alert.
Imagination: You may not want to hear this but he may just be bored. The most powerful erogenous zone is between the ears if you can't stimulate that then there is no hope. Start a subtly sexual conversation, try to find out what turns him on and discover what fantasies he has that you might want to fulfill.
One last thought, put his needs first and he should reciprocate. If not it may be time for a new bf.
2006-11-27 06:00:56 · answer #2 · answered by DarkWolf 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're approaching or at your peak. If it becomes too much of an issue for you, then I suggest finding a new boyfriend, perhaps one who is 18 and will have the same appetite as you. The other option is to go on the pill. I've found that it lowered my sex drive considerably.
Bottom line: you should never expect sex from any partner. You can request, but never pressure. If you truly love and care for this person, I recommend you invest in a good sex toy so you can take care of yourself when needed. Otherwise your partner could come to resent you, and really, when sex becomes the biggest issue in a relationship, it is usually not worth saving.
2006-11-27 05:50:54 · answer #3 · answered by solargrrrrrl 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-29 20:29:45 · answer #4 · answered by plyler 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you tried talking to him to see what's on his mind or why he's not. I've gone through spells where I'd rather just be doing other things with my gf than that and usually it's because of something else going on in my life, or something else I'd just rather do. Sex isn't a #1 priority for all guys here......he could just be that type too. And like you said, could be bored with something, try finding out what peaks his interest sexually, etc, etc, try new things his way..............but nobody should expect sex period........if someone is comitted to someone who doesn't like it at all....they shouldn't expect it anyway, or if even if they're a nympho, shouldn't expect it there either......sex should be natural. But if he's neglecting your own needs and you aren't Demanding here, just talk to him about it.
2006-11-27 05:48:17 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it's unreasonable, especially from someone who seems never to want to do it anymore. His libido and yours are not the same. Back off a bit, try to arouse him once a week. If you can succeed there, slowly move to arouse him more often.
Be careful not to complain if he loses it. If you do, you might send him in a downward spiral again, because he'll think he can't.
Remember this: the most important sexual organ in the human body is THE BRAIN. Don't mess his up.
2006-11-27 05:49:45 · answer #6 · answered by Leo F 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm lucky to get it once every 5 years, so NO its definitely NOT unreasonable. I'm not done waxing my Mercedes.
2014-12-07 13:56:56 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Every other day is fair for a while, but I don't think you aren't asking too much if you wanted it 2 times a week and sometimes 3
2006-11-27 05:46:59 · answer #8 · answered by You may be right 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
dang. could I be your boyfriend for a weekend or so? here's the deal, couples have to come to some agreement on this with one another. in my late 40's, I'm usually good for 2 or 3 times a week. but once, and not so long ago, we were usually up for two or three times a day. ahhhhh. the first blush of love.
2006-11-27 05:51:54 · answer #9 · answered by no_wait_hes_spartacus 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
No one likes to have to perform on demand. No one likes to think that they are just their to take care of someone else's needs. Back off for a bit and let him come to you.
When you want sex, do you tell him you want sex or that you want sex with him because you love him and he makes you horny. There's a big difference.
2006-11-27 05:50:57 · answer #10 · answered by Otis F 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋