This guy is my age (27) He is totally sweet, and a little shy!! There are some other things that bother me, though. He moved here 8 months ago to "get away". He has a som back home. He has NO phone, no House, and no car. He stays at his brothers apartment and calls me from other peoples cell phones. We went out the other night and he was SHORT on the tab, so I payed it. I can't tell if I just met him while in transition. I sometimes think he is telling me the truth. I know that if you are single...why spemd money if you can save by mooching...but COME ON!! I am torn...what do you think. He says he has plans and is going to get an apartment. He does have a job---at a restaurant.
2006-11-27 05:35:01 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Go with your gut feelings. If you think he's being straight up with you and just made a mistake as far as the cash for the meal goes then that's all it was a mistake. But if you think it may become a habit and you will be the one spending for dates (as restaurant workers don't make that much cash) then forget about it and move on. How's that saying go - once is a mistake, twice is a concern and three times it's a habit.
2006-11-27 05:40:18 · answer #1 · answered by crazylegs 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your future:
Paying for everything.
Helping him pay the rent.
Paying for dates.
Getting a cell phone for him in your name, later left with the big bill.
Using your car if you have one to go out and do his business.
Having his child.
No child support because he quit his job.
You moving back home with Mom
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Leave him alone and allow him to get his life together by his self and without your money.
2006-11-27 13:41:18 · answer #2 · answered by Sunflower 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would be extremely careful with how far you take it with this guy. i would really feel him out and decide from there. You probably caught him at a point in his life where he left the bad and is trying to start over. i would say deep down he is a good guy, but i bet he has a lot of demons in his closet. just proceed with caution.
2006-11-27 13:39:09 · answer #3 · answered by benji869 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let him get back on his feet then see what he's like and if he's worth keeping around. For all you know, he could of moved away to evade paying child support. In the meantime, do not pay for anything for him.
2006-11-27 13:47:05 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
give him just a little time to start, people can take up to half a year or more to settle, up to a year then start to worry.
like him for who he is for now. if it takes too long for him to figure himself out don't get on his case, it's not worth it. let him go. you'll just become his mom.
2006-11-27 13:39:16 · answer #5 · answered by B.B Top 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i wouldnt date him. at 27 he should have it together more than that, even if he is 'in transition'. stay with him if you want a loser.
2006-11-27 13:43:47 · answer #6 · answered by nanabe 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You deserve better than this. DON"T SETTLE!
2006-11-27 13:38:56 · answer #7 · answered by No More 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
go with him, you may benefit from this relationship
2006-11-27 13:37:26 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋