i adore her and this is breaking my heart. she knows i like her and she knows his reputation. he will throw her away and boast about it to his friends like the MANY other times. how do i stop myself going insane ?.
2006-11-27 05:25:05 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
give it time.
2006-11-27 05:26:39 · answer #1 · answered by killer boot 5 · 1⤊ 2⤋
I dont think anything any of us say would probably make you feel any better. Its a horrible feeling wanting something and not being able to have it.
Unfortunately though thats life!! If this girl knows how you feel about her then you just have to give her time. She obviously knows too what the guy shes seeing reputation is like but no matter how many times you get told "this isnt good for you, that person will hurt you etc" you need to learn for yourself, make your own mistakes.
I think, as a girl myself if i was her, i'd want you to be a friend. Not someone who's constantly telling me what an arsehole im with and how you could treat me better, just someone who i could go to when things are bad, a shoulder to cry on.
If you are all these things and her boyfriend is an arsehole like you say then given time she will see this for herself but the more people try to point her in a direction the more she'l probably just try to pull the other way.
Hope this helps!! xx
2006-11-27 05:35:14 · answer #2 · answered by misslolo1981 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
There is nothing you can do. If you interfere then you'll surely lose her. Just be there to pick her up when he throws her away. Some people need to learn the hard way. Let her. It's the nicest thing you can do at this point. You're probably going to feel a little insane in the process. Just look forward to the end result. That should get you through. Good luck and God bless!
2006-11-27 05:33:53 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Where u from... by the sounds of it, its my ex LOL!!!!!!!!! Once a cheater always a cheater, my ex cheater on his NEW, only been seeing each other 2mths girlfriend and she knows about it, coz he's been soooo nice and sweet and gave her love letter ect... she is the foul, what girls dont understand, and ive learnd the hard way, cheats are good at what they do, they will go out there way to make them come acroos as the good guy, the love letter, the gifts its all part of there cheating ways, good ive got a bag full of the stuff.... she is the foul!!!!!!!!!!!!
2006-11-27 06:51:45 · answer #4 · answered by M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound so sweet!
But honestly..I think you're going to have to back off.
You can tell her what you think might happen (and hopefully be able to back it up if you make an accusation about somebody) but in the end you need to let her decide who she is goinh to go out with if you want to still be her friend. Otherwise she may just kick you out of her life and I'm sure you wouldn't want that.
Sorry..it's probably ont what you wanted to hear but I've seen this happen before..in my life..with ME..only it's me telling my sister all the bad things I see with who she's dating. In my opinion I'm only trying to help and don't want to see her get hurt but what happens is that she keeps secrets from me and pushes me further from her life. If you want to stay friends with her, give her some space.
2006-11-27 05:32:05 · answer #5 · answered by Mommy of 3 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
MAN UP! and quit being the "sensitive friend", it will get you know where, tell her how you would treat her, and if she insists on throwing her life away you will NOT be there to pick up the pieces later. THEN, DONT be there later and go get laid FOR THE LOVE OF GOD!
2006-11-27 05:28:29 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
hate to break it to you, but, if she knows you like her and knows the other guys reputation, but still prefers the other guy to you, then she's just not attracted to you in the same way you are to her. move on. and as far as her choosing the other guy, don't try to convince her to stop or anythin. just play cool. she'll know where she went wrong if the guy dumps her. move on. sometimes the only way to progress is to let go.
2006-11-27 05:37:45 · answer #7 · answered by SoConfuzed 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
please go after her... I was once this girl to someone... and I was stupid and went out with a scum bad with the same reputation.. and I hate to tell what events took place in my life... I have just now gotten back completely to who I am, it took 2 years to get past/over..... and after many things happened, the guy who truly loved me (like you do this girl) and I didn't know he loved me, came to the rescue a little too late, but he did help... so anyways.. back to you, PLEASE, go to her, tell her how you feel, ask her if she'll give you a chance, that you can't bare to watch her with anyone but you, hold her, ... do it for her, for you... and a yahoo!answers friend who begged you to keep her safe ... :) I'll keep you both in my prayers.
2006-11-27 05:31:54 · answer #8 · answered by lily 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Just remember you're not alone. Millions upon millions of men in this country alone have seen what you have seen and felt what you are feeling.
None of us have any real idea why they do it.
Find another woman to care about. Don't expect she will never do the same thing, though...
2006-11-27 05:38:24 · answer #9 · answered by Leo F 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is not your responsibility!!! You care for her no doubt but it seems she doesn't care about you that much. If she wants to be with a loser that's her choice. Personally I wouldn't be waiting in the wings for her or let myself be used as her safety net. Find someone else you will be much happier.
Good Luck!!!
2006-11-27 05:30:52 · answer #10 · answered by bartman40467 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can do nothing about this. She will have to live and learn from her mistakes. If she knows you like her and she is still with him then I guess she doens't want you. Deal with that--move on. When her heart is broken don't be her doormat.
2006-11-27 05:28:09 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋