My friend just had a baby three months ago. She's had a rough pregnancy (a lot of weight gain, morning sickness, and gestational diabetes) and now is having such a hard time with her daughter. (Not passing developmental milestones, not sleeping through the night, constantly cranky, etc..)
I personally had no issues with my pregnancy. I have a laid back son. For me it's been simple. I know how I want to parent--I do things based on what I know is right.
My friend is older then me (about 10 years) which I believe may be cause for her having such a difficult time. We have always gotten along great--she's a by the book person. Nothing seems to be easy for her whereas it's been great for me. We can no longer relate on things because of the differences. How do we cope? Is our friendship over for good? How can we relate again? Has this every happened to you?
2006-11-27 05:23:14 · 4 answers · asked by .vato. 6 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
I think you should give it a bit more time. The first 3-4 months are so hard on the mom. I am sure she is struggling and just plain tired. Give her some time to make the transition and then try to get together with her a bit more. I agree that offering to babysit might help her out.
And you are right.....pregnancy is harder on older moms....that isn't opinion-it is a fact.
Parenting differences are definitely hot button topics so I would try to concentrate on your relationship with her and try not to talk about parenting too much. Or at least avoid topics that you know will cause tension.
Good Luck!
2006-11-27 05:45:46 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your friends age has nothing to do with her pregnancy issues. Lots of women have morning sickness and weight gain and gestational diabetes is not that big of a deal (I had it twice).
I don't know alot of 3 month babies that sleep through the night and all babies are different. I had a neighbor once who was real laid back and her son screamed non stop until he was 4 months old (UGH). Her pregnancy was easy as pie.
My first pregnancy was not that easy but I was lucky enough to have a real laid back baby.
Remember that a laid back baby does not mean a laid back toddler, grade schooler or teen.
2006-11-27 05:40:11 · answer #2 · answered by KathyS 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, hopefully your friendship is based on more than just child rearing experiences. Can you relate on other topics - maybe you can focus on these for a while? And I think it's very normal to have friendships that change over the years...the things that brought you together change and your experiences will be different, so that changes the nature of your relationship. I think this is o.k. as long as you guys are o.k. with it and as long as you still get benefits from the friendship. Just go with the flow.
2006-11-27 06:19:16 · answer #3 · answered by chicchick 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Easy, one cricket bat hit to the stomach if you're pregnant and two to the newborn
2016-11-17 15:41:22 · answer #4 · answered by Gregory 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you think for one second your friendship is over, offer to babysit sometime. She will love you forever.
2006-11-27 05:33:17 · answer #5 · answered by togashiyokuni2001 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋