If a guy cries more than me......?

Question

I dated this guy about a year ago we broke up but he has remained in my life as a friend he is really supporitive and is an all around good guy. He isnt that good looking though. but he has recently come back wanting to be more than just friends he says that he has not stopped loving me since we broke up a year ago. And that this could turn into something more if i wanted it to. When i am with him i feel happy and safe like i could date him again, but i am uncertain that he loves me and i dont know how to get him to prove it to me. But when we broke up the last time he cried really hard and threw a big fit ya know those fits that toddlers throw when they want something! and i am scared that he is going to do that again and i dont want that in a relationship i want a man not someone who cries more than me. once and a while if the moment calls for it than fine, but when we fight come on!. But is older brother says that he has changed alot really grew up, Do you think one more time or not

Answer 1

Well Honestly thats not the Question.

The question is do you LOVE HIM?

If you do , and you really feel good about your choice then go for it!
If not well then there is your answer, if you just love him, and care for him, its not the same as loving him.

He needs a sensitive touch, I mean its ok that he cries, but it could be a manipulation tactic he learned as a child , and its common among the babies of a big family.

If your both young , like teenagers, very early 20's then he will do alot more changing. If not 24 and up he is already in the process of changes, but not quite there, and 30's is where a man truely grows if there is any growing to be done at all by this point.

Crying is inherent in families- if your mom was a softy the her kids become softies -

So take a look at the bigger picture because thats what he is gonna turn into.

And I really feel , if you break up with some one there is always a reason, Do not just go jumping into something for all the wrong reasons.

Make sure you realize that after this point you can't just go back to being friends.

so know what you want and tell him what your expecting and let him know that you do care but aren't ready for such a big change,

Good luck.

Meg

Answer 2

It's so hard for men to show their emotions to begin with they really don't need the extra insecurity knowing that women out there are going to use that against them when looking for a mate. I mean when me and my boyfriend fight depending on how bad it is I cry. If he felt deeply for me I wouldn't be weirded out by him crying either. Especially when you really want to make it work with someone.

If he's a good man and goos in every way besides the two flaws you have found in him, they aren't bad things. It's not a bad thing some unttractive men are the most wonderful people to be involved with and someone who is sensitive is more likely to take good care of you.

Let him know that you have been thinking about getting back together but you are kind of uncomfortable with his display of emotions and you aren't saying he's a baby but you don't know how well you can handle that.

The worst thing that can happen by giving it another go is that he cries again and believe me he could be cheating on you or, abusing you, or completely emotionless even when you are hurting. There are worse things that having a guy who cries and if you really can't deal then let it go again.

Answer 3

An emotional and sensitive man, I must say.
After a major fight with my woman one day, the next morning she packed all her stuff and was about to leave the house when I got back. It took me by surprise, and I broke down and cried.
I was a 30 year old man back then. Nothing childish about it at all. All I could remember about that time was the extreme hurt and pain and anguish of losing her.

ALL I can say is probably that he does love you. And that it is probably true that he has not stopped loving you. As I have not stopped loving her (in a special way now... was a long time ago).

Trantrums he may throw, but it should not lead to violence. If he lays any hand on you or hurt you physically in any way. Leave him.

Answer 4

I hate while my husband cries on the grounds it somewhat is by no ability at something i believe is had to cry over. then i believe like a schmuck because of the fact right here i'm a woman and something that my husband is crying approximately is having no result on me.

Answer 5

Seriously girl no offence maybe the guy loves you so you really broke his heart that's why he cried give him a chance there is only time to prove that he loves you so I say give him a chance.
I know you will not regret it

Answer 6

Nothing is wrong with a man crying, even if it is more than you do. But, if he threw a tantrum, he has other issues and needs counseling and possibly medication for an imbalance.

Answer 7

wow...if you really love him i guess you could go for it. but come on! a guy who cries more than a chick??!! that's crazy! he needs to grow up. it's one thing if you guys had a really long serious relationship, but if it was short and not serious then that's pathetic. if i were in your place i'd just try to be his friend. i wouldn't want to get sucked into his whiny ways again.

Answer 8

my general rule of thumb is to always move forward in your life and not go back.... in my experience and observation it rarely works out the second time.
your situation may be one that would work out though, so you have to consider everything that you know.... good luck.
remember, however, that people really don't change much... they can, but it takes a lot of hard work---- and if it is just in his "chemical makeup" to cry... well then he may not be able to change that.

Answer 9

Mama i feel like if he supports u no matter how he looks if he respects u likes u for whom u r and he likes that and u liek to be treated with respect then yea yall should get baq together

Answer 10

I'm leaning to not. He doesn't sound all that stable. I mean I undestand you are supset when a relationship ends, but a temper tantrum?! I think you could do better.