Me and my girlfriend has been going out for over 4 years now(high school sweethearts) and i really trust her. So it was my girlfriend's first experience at a club last friday whom she went with her cousins. Next day she tells me everything that happened because she knew she had nothing to hide. At first I felt jealous and angry because she told me she danced with 3 other guys that night. She felt guilty for it, but I told her that I didnt want her to feel guilty for having fun. It was her first experience and my first experience as a boyfriend to hear that she was dancing with other guys. I talked to her about it and I understood that she kept her boundaries. The only question is, why is this feeling of emptiness still inside? I thought about it and I guess that I just can't see or imagine her with another guy. Even if it wasn't dancing but if we were to break up, it would be so hard to just see her with another guy. What can I do to overcome this feeling?
2006-11-27 05:16:36 · 14 answers · asked by Chau 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If you are in a committed relationship, she should not be dancing with other guys.
2006-11-27 05:18:52 · answer #1 · answered by Michelle 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
UHOH, Im feeling it for ya. There is more "first expieriences" that come with going to a club for the first time, it leads to dancing, finding out what your missing out on and ultimately they decide whether the want the single life or committed, ive seen it go both ways. YOU have to be honest in your opinions, as much as they say other wise a women still likes it when we take control, I am glad you had fun but I do not like the idea of you dancing with other guys, you want to out again? then we go out as a couple, with other couples, not as singles!,,,then stick to it
2006-11-27 05:22:53 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because you're growing up and you know she will and should have different life experiences without you. Most girls have been dancing at clubs. There are probably 100 things she needs to experience in life, and it's possible your relationship is going to feel like a jail sentence if she can't enjoy life without feeling guilty.
2006-11-27 05:21:34 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not like she had sex with someone or even kissed them. Relax. You're probably making it much worse in your head. She was probably dancing, they came up to her, didn't even touch her, and she was polite. If you really can't get over it, go out with some of your buddies and talk to a few girls. Maybe go out on the dance floor. Either way, there's probably nothing to worry about.
2006-11-27 05:24:35 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This isnt cheating. Your feelings inside must be telling you it is, otherwise it might be easier to get over. If you trust her, and you have this open with each other about everything relationship, its alright. Try dancing with a few girls yourself if you want. Its meaningless. Dont put so much thought into this or your going to push her away with possessiveness.
2006-11-27 05:22:22 · answer #5 · answered by Sophiegreeneyes 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, you are just jealous. Dancing is nothing...she was just enjoyin the music. Do u really think that for the rest of your time together that you two won't have contact with the opposite sex?? Clubbing is innocent fun...especially if she's with the girls. You seem to be depending on her love. This is not good...this love hurts. thats why your hurting on the inside
2006-11-27 05:20:59 · answer #6 · answered by Virgo Fa Sho!! 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sounds like your girl has u wrapped around her finger, dancing with relatives is cool but picking up guys at bars and nightclubs and dancing with them????? Sounds like she wants to have her cake and eat it too. If i were in your shoes i would have told her how i felt, and if she didnt care then i would have dumped her straight out. Sorry but no culture approves of a guy or girl picking up a guy or girl at a club and doing that.
2016-05-23 10:55:09 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you trust your gf then you have nothing to worry about. its great that your girlfriend felt guilty that means she really do care about the way you felt and for you not to be angry was even better cause now she feels like she can have a good time and not worry about be berated by the one she loves. good job don't forget though remind her that you love her.
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2006-11-27 05:31:14 · answer #8 · answered by Dizle 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell her how you feel... ask her is she wishes to go to clubs still, that you go along with her... or ask her not to go to them.. if she feels guilty then obviously she knew she'd hurt you, and thats not fair... of course you are upset, and feel empty, and confused... just don't try to hide it and push it away, or you'll let it build up inside you and then things could go horribly.. get it out, let it hurt, and make sure she understands.. she shouldn't have done that I don't think, but I'm quite old fashioned with this kind of stuff poeople say...
2006-11-27 05:22:17 · answer #9 · answered by lily 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is just dancing darlin' not screwing around and she felt comfortable enough about it to talk. I'd say stop worrying hon
2006-11-27 05:26:28 · answer #10 · answered by jusme 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋