i have been in love with a guy. we've gone out together for 2 years. and after 2 years, we started fighting a lot. there was a lack of understanding. then he decided to end up everyhting. i still love him a lot. i talked to him about getting back together, but he refused and said that we can never be together again. What SHOULD I DO TO GET HIM BACK???? Please help me. i really love him dearly, deeply. I want him back.
2006-11-27 05:15:01 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i stopped contacting him, n he notice it. he started asking about me, started contacting me, i thought it would be ok, our relationship would work. But unfortunately after some time he stops texting me. What Should i do???????????
2006-11-27 05:41:31 · update #1
Hi
I understand your situation. The problem is the more you chase him and ask him to return the less likely you are to win him back. Whatever has happened between you (the fighting etc) has happened now and it seems you have tried hard to discuss that and seek solutions. That's option one exhausted.
Option two is a long shot, but still a better chance than constantly chasing him and begging him to return. It is vitally important that you don't contact him again. I know this will be very difficult and you will feel like ringing him every time you here a sad record or are alone at night etc. In time, if you make no contact, he may become curious about why you have made no contact etc. If he still has feelings then this may fan those flames. However, and this is so important, if he rings you or leaves a message/text on your phone then do not respond (or tell him very politely that you have little time and don't wish to discuss the relationship etc. If you hold on long enough (a few weeks maybe) and, provided he cares enough, he will try increasingly hard to get communicating with you again.
Be strong, be proud and above all else don,t beg him to return - it's counter productive.
Michael
2006-11-27 05:29:06 · answer #1 · answered by Stephen 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Firstly break ups are never easy. If you have contacted him and he refuses to get back together then obviously he doesn't. Give it some time and see what happens. Stop contacting him and let him contact you when he is ready. You can't force the matter let it sink in that his girlfriend for two years is gone. Remember space apart is a good thing. If he begins to miss you he will let you know. Take this time to gather your thoughts and to heal your heart. The first two weeks will be the most difficult for you I know I have been through this many a time. Once your heart is strong enough the best thing for to do then is to move on. Remember two years is a long time to be with someone. I was in a relationship for almost three and a half years before we broke up I was torn for a month or two. You slowly start coming out of your shell you reunite yourself with your old routine and friends and you have fun. There are a million nice guys out there waiting to meet you. Never be in a rush in life remember the best things in life stand the test of time. Take it day by day and you will see the heeling process in front of you.
I am sorry to hear your news, and I know you will find the one you love. We all do. Hope you feel better soon.
2006-11-27 05:31:58 · answer #2 · answered by george 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm so sorry,
you can't do anything, I mean, you should not do anything to Get Him Back!
as you said, there's a lack of understanding, and that's the treasure that you found after 2 years,
how could you have a happy life with the person that couldn't understand you !?
what kind of life that could be ?!
You love him, but you need to let him go, it's so hard, so hard, but life is life, live it the decent way, you deserve better life,
2006-11-27 05:21:56 · answer #3 · answered by OMID T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't force someone to love you gurl! All you can do is love them with all you've got, and the rest is up to them! You don't have to be in a relationship with him to keep on loving him, and if you truly love him then you'll respect his decision in not wanting to be with you, and just keep on loving him and supporting him in his life.
Stop trying to get him back, and just keep on loving him as you've always done. And if you are certain it's true love then try switching from being the woman in his arms to the woman in his life. Besides, let's say he gets back with you, and he did it just cuz you kept bugging him about you guys being together-would you want to be with him knowing you guys aren't together because he loves you but because you "wanted" it to be that way?
Just love him; that's all you can do right now (and remember every disappointment is a blessing. This just might be your blessing and you don't yet realize it).
Good Luck!
p.s. it's a gurl answering this, and i'm talking from experience.
2006-11-27 05:40:15 · answer #4 · answered by Bubbles 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everyone who has broken up with someone they love wants them back. It is part of the greiving process. If he is unwilling to forgive and forget then maybe this is not the man you really should be with.
If he loved you half of what you love him he would never have called a halt to the relationship.
2006-11-27 05:19:09 · answer #5 · answered by mikeae 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
never love a person if he/she doesn't love you back theres no use weeping...as even if u do get together wen u are making love he's not gonna think about u and caress u the way another man who truly loves u will do..........he won't support u or ur family/offspring as he will feel"whats the use i don't love this woman why should i waste my time and money on her" any couple who truly love one another wll fight ....but there is a limit for everything
2006-11-27 05:52:08 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
O.k mama just Try to get him baq and telll him u want to start over because u have love for him and u dont never want to loose him and he will understand if he is a real man but gud LUCk!!!!!!
2006-11-27 05:18:10 · answer #7 · answered by dushawnswifey 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should have thought about that when you disagreed with him and when you were fighting with him. I never understand why people do this.
IF YOU LOVE SOMEONE YOU WILL BE WILLING TO DO WHAT EVER THEY ASK/WANT. No need to fight or get into it.
Call him and tell him your willing to be with another girl with him. That worked with me and my current girlfriend. I ended it with her and she called me and told me she would be willing to have a 3 some with me and another girl.
LIKE I SAID IF YOU " LOVE" him like you say you will be willing to do ANYTHING!
2006-11-27 05:19:34 · answer #8 · answered by remailer000 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't force someone to be with you if they don't want to be. For your own good, move on. There are probably a lot of guys who would love to date you.
2006-11-27 05:17:47 · answer #9 · answered by lucky 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
IF HE DOES NOT WANT YOU BACK THERE IS NOTHING YOU CAN DO TO GET HIM BACK. DON'T MAKE A FOOL OF YOURSELF TRYING TO GET HIM. IM SURE HE HAS MOVED ON. YOU NEED TO DO THE SAME
2006-11-27 05:17:20 · answer #10 · answered by FRECKLES 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋