My spouse has a history of saying and hurtful things that are hard to forgive. Just recently he stated that he wished I wasn't pregnant and I forced it on him. I am about to file for divorce. He has said equally hurtful and hateful things to me and this one is the last draw.
2006-11-27 05:13:58 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
I am 35 ..he is 39
Married almost 4 years together almost 8
12 year old from previous marriage, 2 year old little girl, one on the way.
*Called me a whore the night before the wedding
*Calls me a ****
*Told me at one point the best thing that could happen is if my 12 year old and I went back to my ex and left him and my 2 year old daughter alone
*If you thought you got a family man you were wrong
*Insults me in front of his parents about my cooking and house cleaning
The list goes on.
2006-11-27 05:52:54 · update #1
The thing I always think about when someone has a question like this is...
Do you want your son to be like his father... if not a boy... Do you want your daughter to think this is the way she should be treated?
If you answered no to this question then the answer should be simple. Being pregnant on your own wont be the greatest but at least you wont have him as an added stress. Good luck
2006-11-27 05:19:38 · answer #1 · answered by Mrs. Always Right 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are certain lines that someone as close to you as a spouse shouldn't cross. If a friend wouldn't say it, a spouse shouldn't say it. I've said and done some pretty hurtful things throughout my marriage and so has my husband but I don't believe we've ever crossed that imaginary line. All relationships are different because people are different. You can't expect one person to react to the same situation as another. You didn't mention how old you are but I'm assuming that the bf is young and immature and saying things about his own child is crossing the line. Be careful though that you don't let those pregnancy hormones take over you and make you take irrational action. I've been pregnant twice and I know how upset you can get about issues. Before you go through with the divorce weigh the good and bad about him because most men are half and half. Good luck to you with your decisions and feel free to e-mail me about what's going on. I'd love to have an update on this issue.
2006-11-27 05:34:02 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is obviously something very wrong with him. There is probably an underlying issue and unfortunately you are the person he lashed out at.
If you care about him or your marriage, then I would talk to him and tell him he needs to get some help or you will have to file for divorce. You have child to think about. Verbal abuse is not good for either of you and divorce/broken families aren't either.
I would try to help him or work on it before doing anything drastic.
You probably should have worked on your marriage before you brought a child into the equation.
2006-11-27 05:51:17 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
kick his *** to the curb. if he's not capable of appreciating the beautiful life you're about to bring into the world, then he's worthless and you'll both be better off without him. you could suggest counseling, but he sounds like too big of an asshole to try and make things work. you and your baby deserve to be surrounded by people that love and respect you. don't let his negativity get in the way of making a happy and fulfilling life for your baby. best of luck!
2006-11-27 05:25:36 · answer #4 · answered by LoriBeth 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like your husband has a lot of issues to deal with. Hopefully a divorce will be a wakeup call for him to change his act. Whatever the case, you deserve better, and good for you for having the guts to leave someone who doesn't treat you well.
2006-11-27 05:22:11 · answer #5 · answered by Victoria 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You really shouldn't bring a child into that environment. I was raised in a home where my dad was verbally abusive to my mom and it was very hostile all the time and I wish she would have left him when I was a baby. I think you would be better off with out him.
2006-11-27 05:19:46 · answer #6 · answered by Sakora 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good, its about time u take action. Even tho i dont kno u im really proud of u cuz women tend to stay in these relationships. Nobody realizes that verbal comments are abuse too. And nobody forces a baby on anyone, it takes two to make a baby.
2006-11-27 05:18:13 · answer #7 · answered by Sweetheart88 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Men like the one you have just described never change- and what's worse is that when they hurt you they make it feel like it is your fault when really, your husband's actions are a reflection of himself. Just knowing that you are ready to leave and be independent from someone like that shows the strength and growing confidence that is within you. Take care.
2006-11-27 05:19:49 · answer #8 · answered by purringout 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be strong and follow through.
The situation is only going to get worse if you stay in this relationship.
You will be OK, and much better in the long run.
Good Luck to you.
2006-11-27 05:23:39 · answer #9 · answered by BigTip$ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
File for divorce. He sounds like an a**. Be strong, and think about what's best for you and your baby.
2006-11-27 05:17:11 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋