My son will say he wants let's say cheez doodles and I am doing something and before I can even get up to give it to him he is repeating himself over and over and screaming at the same time. How do I teach him to ask nicely and wait a few seconds for a response?
He's almost 3 by the way.
2006-11-27 05:03:24 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
It's difficult with a child of that age, as their sense of time is not fully developed. Explain to him that he needs to allow time for you to respond, and must only ask one time, without yelling. Show him an example of the right way and wrong way to ask for something -- maybe of toy of his.... Make the demonstration part of a game... Most important, don't give into him when he yells for something. If he doesn't follow the rules you set for how to ask properly, he doesn't get anything. It'll be frustrating for both of you for a few days, but children learn quickly what works and what doesn't.
2006-11-27 05:07:45 · answer #1 · answered by Snoopy 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It is your responsibility to teach your child how to act. I see many similarities in training children and in training dogs with positive reinforcement.
Simply put, when the child does what you want, reward it. It can be a reward of food, a caress, a warm word.
When the child doesn't do what you want ignore it.
I'm assuming that your child is at least as smart as a dog and if so, it will easily learn the correct way to behave.
If not, maybe you should consider never breeding again.
2006-11-27 05:24:04 · answer #2 · answered by Randy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my son is three and he does the same thing. repetetiveness is all i can offer. tell him i heard you the first time and ill be happy to do that for when im done. teaching him patience is hard at 3, but my sons learning, yours will to. let him know his wants are important, but some may be delayed. if he doesnt understand at first, then dont let him have whatever he wants until he asks nicely. say thats not the polite way to ask, say this, " may i have some juice, etc." then turn around until he asks that way, and repeat
2006-11-27 05:18:17 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I went through the same thing with my kids. You just have to be stern and tell him that you don't like him talking to you that way and you will NOT get him what he wants till he asks nicely. Have him say May I or Can I please have _______ ( whatever it is he wants). You will have to put up with him screaming a lot but soon enough he will understand that it's getting him nowhere by yelling. When he does ask nicely praise him a lot.
2006-11-27 05:12:39 · answer #4 · answered by Supermom 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes kids do this because it has worked for them in the past. One way to try to get him out of this pattern is not to reward it. Explain what you want him to do and then only respond when he uses that way of asking.
For example, you tell him: "When you yell and scream, I can't understand you. If there is something you want, use your inside voice. Say, 'Mommy, I'd like some ______, please.'" (Or whatever words you would like him to use.
Then stick to your guns. When he comes to you screaming, tell him that you can't understand him and ask him to use his inside voice. Repeat, and repeat, and repeat. He WILL get it. My son did the same thing at this age.
2006-11-27 05:12:38 · answer #5 · answered by warehaus 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Don't react. He is repeating himself and screaming because honestly when he does this he gets your reaction which is probably to get exactly what he wants. So TELL HIM THIS IS NOT acceptable. Give it to him when he ask nicely
2006-11-30 16:01:21 · answer #6 · answered by cheoli 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him if he asks for something he has to wait a few minutes for it. if he keeps asking or starts yelling warn him that this is not appropriate behavior and if he does not wait quietly he won't get it until he does. then stick by what you say he will soon learn patience. if you do not start now by age 4 or 5 he will be impossible. i raised 19 children i know what i speak of.
2006-11-27 05:08:52 · answer #7 · answered by jusme 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If he is almost 3 he knows what he is doing. Tell him if he can't
ask for it without sreaming, he won't get it. And teach him how to say please and thank you. If he doesn't listen and continues to do it then ignore him. I have a 3 year old that use to do that when he was 2 and that's what I did and it worked.
2006-11-27 06:21:54 · answer #8 · answered by Dyme Diva 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry if this sounds harsh but ignore him. Go down to his level and say that you do not respond to yelling and if he wants something to come to you and ask you but if he's going to scream that you're not going to give anything to him. When he does scream ignore it and keep doing what you're doing, if his tantrum gets worse put him in time out or put him in his room. Eventually he'll stop, he may have relapses but he'll calm down.
2006-11-27 05:07:11 · answer #9 · answered by acehernandez2006 3 · 3⤊ 1⤋
don't give it to him unless he asks nicely. if you give him things he wants when he yells for them, he obviously thinks that's how he should successfully ask for things. you need to teach him...
2006-11-27 05:12:00 · answer #10 · answered by practicalwizard 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋