My husband is hispanic and I'm black and my son is mixed I want to know why people can be so rude when we go out in the public.
2006-11-27 04:58:30 · 13 answers · asked by lisa_08 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
yeah my guy is puerto rican and I am black..and we get looked at all the time..I get stares from puerto rican women..like he shouldnt be with me..and from black guys and black females like I shouldnt be with him..I just dont pay it any mind... it really doesnt bother me at all..because we care very much for each other...I dont think that you should let something like this bother you.. in todays world there are alot of diversity..enjoy your child and you husband..and screw what others think..they are not paying your rent or taking care of your child
2006-11-27 05:05:31 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
In my humble opinion, people in our culture have become more rude. The fact that you are in a mixed relationship just adds fuel to an already sensitive issue. If you have already tried to ignore the rudeness you have failed because you wouldn't be asking the question if it was as simple as that. It is also in my opinion that many folks don't think that they are rude but think that you may be the one who is.
With your husband being of Hispanic ancestry and you being an African-American not only are subjected to rudeness but outright hostility and prejudicial treatment. People are viewing your husband as being a law breaker without even knowing him. History has shown us the treatments that Blacks have endured thtought the years so life as you are experiencing it is bound to be tough at best.
Going through through these trials and tribulations will without a doubt, show you who your real friends are.
2006-11-27 05:13:29 · answer #2 · answered by trooper 456 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It must be terrible to feel like people are rude to you because you are a mixed family. It is so common nowadays you would think people wouldn't even notice. What kind of community do you live in?
My advice is to try smiling and being friendly. Even if it doesn't work with everyone it makes you the better person. And sometimes if you look for negative things to happen you get just what you are looking for.
2006-11-27 05:15:10 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
you left us no detail on how "they" are "rude," so I can only assume you mean "white people" are "treating you and your husband and children as different." If I'm correct in this assumption then here's an explanation: first, maybe you're being too sensitive. I'm white and I find people are rude to me often enough. I obviously cannot blame this on my race or appearance. People cheat me, people cut in line, people ignore my requests. Or maybe you are rude and you don't see it. (I obviously DON"T know so please don't get offended!) Many people are loud or obnoxious and don't realize it, or their children are annoying in public and thereby cause attention to be given them that otherwise would not be given. Or maybe all these "people" are just crazy rude people. Anyway, i doubt this helped at all, but if you are truly curious about the how's and why's please give more detail on the what's.
2006-11-27 07:07:20 · answer #4 · answered by Shawn M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People can be so dumb. Most Hispanic people are mestizo (meaning they are a mix of black, white, etc.) so technically you aren't really a biracial couple. Anyway, my family is mixed too and if people stare either stare right back or be the bigger person and ignore them. It can be hard but you are above them.
2006-11-27 05:37:02 · answer #5 · answered by Christabelle 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm white and my husband is black and we do get a lot of looks when walking into a place. People stare and you can either take it as intimidating or as flattery that the two of you are a good looking couple and everyone pays attention.
I choose the latter.
2006-11-27 05:03:26 · answer #6 · answered by tamara_cyan 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
they are uncomfortable.
instead of defining them as rude.
lets just say they are inexperience.
try reaching out to them.
you could say "it's kind of unusual to see a family like us, huh?"
or "we may look different but we're happy" or
other things to help them see that you are human just like them.
try to also look for the people who are not rude.
they are there, too.
it's only natural for people to do a double-take when they see something unusual.
try to understand and smile at them...as if to say
'yuup, this is me and this is my wonderful baby'
i found that having normal conversations in front of people
helped them see that i was just like them. that our concerns
as a mixed couple were just the same as their concerns for example with their husbands. like where we get gas or
what we have for dinner. help them relate to you because they
have no experience and don't know how.
defining them as bad will not help anyone.
and it just makes them defensive.
2006-11-27 05:08:34 · answer #7 · answered by Sufi 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I guess people just think that it's not possible but I don't think it matters as long as you love each other and don't pay attention to them. They just think they're better while in fact they are just the same as the others because no one is better than another. :D
2006-11-27 05:03:57 · answer #8 · answered by MaY S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think people should accept any and all combinations of couples as it is their tight to choose who to date or marry.
2006-11-27 07:50:41 · answer #9 · answered by Jim G 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because they are ignorant and judgmental. Don't sweat it, Hun. Remember that they are obviously not as socially educated as the rest of us.
2006-11-27 05:01:24 · answer #10 · answered by FaerieWhings 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋