Should I confess I never had orgasm to my bf?

Question

I haven't had a complete orgasm yet with my bf...and this is becoming a huge problem.
Although I have some small build, and feel satisfied, I know I can get a full satisfaction by masterbating. My bf wants me to have an orgasm, but I can't... I really hardly get orgasm with a partner...
I have been telling him that I have had orgasm, but I never fully did. Should I tell him this? Should I let him work on me till I do get a full orgasm? I don't want him to get tired...cuz I know it takes nearly 30 min...but is this normal?

Answer 1

30 mins is normal.
I once made love to a woman for 4 hours. And she still didn't c.um. Neither did I. Darn. LOL.
Sometimes you just keep going on and on till you past it and you didn't even know.

Drinking too much sometimes don't help at all. Or any kind of drugs etc etc. I say sometimes, not all the times.

Good communication would help here. Being a man, I would like to know if my woman is not achieving it. But it would also break my heart if I fail to make her c.um. So I'll just keep trying till it breaks me, or it breaks her. Or it breaks us.

So I guess there lies the danger. Is he man enuff for the challenge?

Question : Have you had an orgasm with ANY man at all? If the answer is no, then i say tell him. If the answer is YES, then don't tell him. But continue to work on it and TELL HIM WHAT TO DO! For goodness sake.... lol

Answer 2

Yes, you need to be honest with him. You can try different things, he doesn't have to do all the work. Maybe extend foreplay, or have him go down on you until your just about ready to explode. Or you can switch around, and you be on top for a while.

You could also try adding anal stimulation. This may help you achieve an orgasm much faster then normal. If you decide to try this, start out SMALL & SLOW, with plenty of lube. The main reason most women don't like anal is that they try to take something to large, to fast, and it really, really hurts.

So take it easy at first, you can quickly move up in size, and let him insert his penis, This feels really good, I almost always orgasm when my partner does me this way.

I keep some baby wipes in my nitestand so after he's done me that way, I can quickly wipe him down, and let him in the front door, and have a second orgasm.

Answer 3

Um, it doesn't take 30 minutes for everyone, and he certainly can go that long if he "practices". Seriously, a good Sunday morning session with my boyfriend usually takes a good 45 minutes to an hour.

You should tell him, and work with him to figure out what will get your toes to curl. Maybe you need more foreplay. Maybe you need more conversation. Maybe you have your own issues about sex that you need to work out. He can help you with this. Since this is something you've experienced before, do you have issues with intimacy? Do you fully trust him? Sounds like there's something holding you back from really having an orgasm. Let him help you overcome whatever it is. Good luck!

Answer 4

dear this is communication problem nothing else. first u want to under stand about sex and its appilication. basically it starts with romantic approach and slowly builds by touching here and there ,kissing, continues throu breast ,hips,
sucking pus....all these things are called as fore play and it depends on indiuals and their sensitive parts mood etc. so u have ur own wishes in approach ,u tell him or u slowly operate on him it will be adifferent experience. if u get the stasisfication in foreplay u can hit the climax soon enjoy ur sex.leave the past and hve the mind set to get the good sex by attracting ur partner by all means(dressing...) operate on him and try to operate him on u.men hands and lips are the keys to open the secrects of women understand the basic, build the building enjoy the day in it with good stasisfided sex ,have a nice day

Answer 5

I don't have enough information to decide if you should tell him you have not been having full orgasms, but I think you should tell him what you want. I think he could get you there orally without getting tired.

Answer 6

Well.. if he can't handle the 30 mins then HE's the problem.

You should be more selfish when it comes to sex. If you're not feeling satisfied and you're giving him a false sense of approval, you're not necessarily doing him a favor.

Answer 7

Isn't it always normal for women or girls to take a longer time? Try explaining to him and maybe include a little bit of foreplay, which could help in you hitting climax. Maybe then you'd have a better sex life. Enjoy!

Answer 8

You need to figure out what he can do that will cause you to orgasm. Once you figure out what he needs to do, tell him. I don't think that you need to tell him that you've never had an orgasm, just tell him what to do so you can orgasm.

Answer 9

Yes, you should tell him. And, yes, it is normal. If you tell him, then you can both take the time to allow your sensations to build up. If he doesn't know and thinks he is satisfying you, then it will never change. Good Luck!

Answer 10

It depends on how sensitive he is. If he's willing to try, tell him what he needs to do in order to help you get there. Don't be afraid to let him know what it is that you need him to do. If he doesn't know, he'll never get you there. Try more foreplay (on you, not him). And don't fake it, otherwise he'll think he's doing it right and you'll never get one when you're with him.