during some phases of your life you get a lot of attention and seem to be very successful in attracting the opposite sex, and then equally, during other phases, you go through whole periods with nearly no attention whatsoever!
I am a guy and when I was in a serious rel with a girl, I had no end of attention and flirtations with random girls (of which I never ever persued), and now that I am single again, I find it very hard to get noticed and be approached!
Why is it when you are after something, it just seems like it's just not there!
Damn!
2006-11-27 04:49:43 · 15 answers · asked by Christian_80 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
People want what they can't have. Many feel much more comfortable being flirty with a taken man/woman becuase it's just flirtations, as long the person isn't sleazy it will never go beyond the flirting. It makes them feel like they're being naughty without having to actually do something they might not like themselves for (like sleeping with someone who is taken).
2006-11-27 04:52:48 · answer #1 · answered by literaryaspirations 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, I think that alot of has to do with the fact that when your in a relationship and your happy, your confident and people pick up on that and are attracted to the confidence because the confident person can make someone who's not so confident feel better about themselves. As to where when your single, you may be feeling down because your single or things just seem to go wrong for you, which in turn, knocks your confidence down a few notches, which makes people notice you but think " Hmm..he doesn't seem very approachable. I think I will just keep going" Does any of this make sense to you? i.e...When your confident you take more pride in your appearance and how you present yourself to the outside world. When your not confident, you tend to dress down and not care so much how you present yourself, even tho you may not realize your doing this. So if your confidence is down, try doing things that make you feel better or just fake the confidence for awhile until it becomes real. Just don't become too confident, that's a turn off as well.
2006-11-27 05:00:59 · answer #2 · answered by Danelle 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know what i am going thru the exact kinda thing. And it is weird but what some guys need to understand is some girls are attracked to what they can't have. Some girls see that a certain guy has a girl and it just makes her want him more. Some guys are prolly like that to. Thats the best explanation i can come up with but once you have a girl again i'm sure the attention will start rolling in.
2006-11-27 04:58:09 · answer #3 · answered by K@t 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A lot of us have come to the conclusion that people are more attracted to things that are prohibited or out of their reach. In countries where drugs are legal, consumption rates are lower. Just compare civilizations that prohibit certain things versus the ones who don’t, such as: speed limits, smoking in public places, nude bathing, etc.
It was one said to me by a friend to prepare myself; once I got married I would actually get more proposals than as a bachelor. And so did happen…
So, just wait a little while, once you get a girlfriend again everything will come back.
Good luck!
2006-11-28 06:47:20 · answer #4 · answered by Gustavo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe it has to do with your environment and stage in life? I know what you mean though. Throughout high school and college, I had tons of guys pursuing or crushing on me, and even a few lesbians were interested!
Now that I'm in the working world, I haven't had any guy pursue me at all for almost a year! Sometimes I kind of miss it.
2006-11-27 04:53:40 · answer #5 · answered by cajun m 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make sure your balding head is clean and your coffee stained teeth have at least a little shine and OH YA that hmm look down see what I mean! That beer belly food gut sticking out! your just not to fit buddy.
If your having problems attracting the opposite sex why not try the same sex OK
2006-11-27 04:53:57 · answer #6 · answered by gallagher g 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Im just the same, was single for aaaaaaaaaages - nothing! Then when i started seeing someone, suddenly there they all are!!
I think its cos when you're in a relationship, happy and contented it shows and comes accross in your personality, making you more attractive.
Although i didn't actively look for someone when i was single, i think perhaps you have an air of desperation about you!! (not you personally, in general..!)
2006-11-27 04:53:02 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Here's the answer to the BIG Q....
When you (figuratively) are with someone, you 'transmit' a certain confidence about yourself and girls are attracted to that confidence. Alternately, when you are NOT with someone else, you transmit a sort of desperation, which is not very attractive.
2006-11-27 04:52:58 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you're with someone it makes you feel confident, relaxed and attractive. You just project that sort of aura to people and it makes them more comfortable and, ironically, attracted to you. When you are single and looking you give off more of a needy feeling and less confidence, which is less attractive.
2006-11-27 04:52:22 · answer #9 · answered by braennvin2 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that when you are in a relationship, you give off a more confident vibe and women notice and like that. When single, you don't feel as confident so not as many women approach you.
2006-11-27 04:52:06 · answer #10 · answered by ♥dream_angel♥ 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋