It's funny how people complain about their lives and they don't even have chidlren yet, a mortgage or other stressful respoinsibilites and they complain and feel sorry for themselves. My brother does it all the time and I just want him to live a day in my life (wiht a toddler in his terrible two's and a newborn). Atleast he can take a nap whenever he wants, that right there makes his life a heck of a lot easier!
2006-11-27 04:41:13 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
mine is so difficult I can't even type correctly, haha!
2006-11-27 04:42:13 · update #1
people only know what they have... are you telling me before you had children you never felt life was difficult?... yes it may be more difficult now but now is .... well now.... and when you are in the middle of the tornado that is life it is always different then what you or others see from the outside or once you've gotten past it... as for your brother.... some people just like to complain.... EVERYBODY feels they have problems... and it is almost always the person who is talking (complaining) that feels they got it worse then everyone else.... you choose to look at things positively or negative.... its all up to you .... each individual has far more power then they realize.... its sad so many people choose to use that power to bring themselves and everyone else down when it is just as easy to lift yourself and everyone around you up... ... it is tireing when people are constantly looking at others and saying "poor me look what they have and i dont"
those same people you are looking at are also pitying themselve for some reason or another.... ..lol... sorry if i have gone off.... it just sux that everyone feels life is so hard in the first place when we are making it hard on ourselves and each other
2006-11-27 04:52:02 · answer #1 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah , that drives me crazy. They just have no idea of how hard it actually can get. Everyones life is different though and everyone is always going to think theirs is harder than the others. I have 3 boys(one with Aspergers Syndrome), a baby on the way...super sick with this pregnancy..no family living within 12 hours of me, and my husband works in the oil field for 3 to 6 weeks at a time!..lol So yeah, i wish too that they could spend a day in my shoes, then Im sure they might feel a little better. My brother complains alot too about stuff and he has a job and is single. He can do whatever he wants after that..So I understand what you mean. I just try to think about others who have it harder than me and I should be thankful
2006-11-27 12:52:13 · answer #2 · answered by Blondi 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Feel the same as you do! I have 4 children from 19 to 11 !
I guess people complain and dont understand other peoples stresses because of the old saying:
" God will only give you as much as you can handle "
Obviously he thought people like you and I could handle the responsibility of children and definately not being able to take naps as often as we would like to. Your brother, if he is older or younger, guess God thought he could not deal with it.
But remember....the clock ticks and everything is always changing. One day, your brother an many other people who like to complain, will look back on their lives and realize how easy they had it before. If you really think about it, its called "growing" and it makes us stronger people as time goes on. Just tell your brother, one day honey you will understand what "difficult" really means. OR when he starts to complain to you, tell him....gotta go kids need me!! Do that about ten times to him on the phone and he may get a clue!!!
Your a wiser person at this point in your life compared to him...
Hang in there honey!
I could tell you that its easier to have a two yr old and a newborn--than it is to have teenages....see, it all comes in time.
Sounds like your doing a great job!!!
2006-11-27 12:54:27 · answer #3 · answered by jpf 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a brother that does that very thing! I am a mother of 3 and step mom of 2. Yep 5 kids. I respect any ones decision for not having children. But it is a little whinny if you stand and complain in someones face that has so much more on their plate than you. The only thing I can think is thank God he doesn't have children because if he has such a hard time dealing with only himself, kids would kick his A$$! Lol!
2006-11-27 12:58:16 · answer #4 · answered by meaty_okra 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok i'm making a statement thingerjabober
these are the only people that can complain ok? the rest of you need to shut up...
1.)soldiers...especially the ones in war
2.)family members of dead soliders
3.)foster children
4.)children who have been abandoned by parents
5.)people getting convicted of a crime they didn't do
6.)a person who just got robbed and is in the hospital
7.)anyone who gets abused
8.)you can't find your socks (kidding)
9.)you're homeless
10.)you have no family...none.
11.)someone who has just recently lost someone very close to them
12.)everyone keeps calling you a failure
13.)a refugee
14.) anyone in Iraq, Afganistan, Lebanon, etc.
15.)you're leg got blown off
16.) you just found your brothers rotting corpse being eaten by wild dogs.
and these people can REALLY complain about stress.
the ones who have to see their friends, brothers, sisters, die in their hands and at their feet while they do their best to run and dodge a storm of bullets and bombs. the ones that get body parts and intestions blown out of their bodies. the ones that have to deal with C-4(plastic explosives) on a daily basis. the innocent ones as they watch their lives slowly being stripped away (in some cases)
the ones who find their brothers corpse laying on the ground infested with maggots
the ones who wake up everyday to fight, and not know if they will live to see the next day.
the ones that live on the street and beg for food
the ones at the street corner asking for money so that their children can get proper medical care.
the kids starving to death
they can complain...their life is hectic..and they are normally the ones that don't...strange isn't it.
i can understand people having problems and it being stressful. but don't think your life is DIFFICULT...b/c its normally not. no offense. i don't complain. i have a few bad things that are going on right now, but they'll pass over and everything will be fine. i know there are people out there that have it 300x worse, so i just remember that i have things that other people would die for. yeah know?
2006-11-27 21:44:03 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Everyone see's it differently. See I would say my life is more difficult than yours. I am a 19 year old single mother of a 16 month old and a 3 month old. I do not get child support or emotional support from family. I work 40 hours a week and still can't pay my bills.
At least you have a house.
2006-11-27 14:28:36 · answer #6 · answered by AuroraBorealis 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We all have our bad days and wish that things were different sometimes. There are people like my husband though, who just refuse to see what they DO have. He is too busy complaining about the things he doesn't have to really see and appreciate what he does have. I feel that people like that are selfish. They just don't see that everyone else has problems too.
2006-11-27 16:11:38 · answer #7 · answered by Crystal L 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't understand why people complain at all. About their mortgage, their kids, their husband, or anything--complaining does not do anything. I feel it's better to find a solution then just be bothered by the problem.
2006-11-27 12:50:47 · answer #8 · answered by .vato. 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Everyone believes there life is more difficult then the next guy. Just think, there are people out there that have it soooo much worse, you should be thankful for what you have. Maybe you should tell that to your brother.
2006-11-27 12:46:03 · answer #9 · answered by puggas 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
People just don't have a concept of how much worse it could be. And maybe complaining is just a way for them to relieve their stress.
2006-11-27 12:49:14 · answer #10 · answered by Victoria 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋